To not like being called by forename by kids

I’m only in my forties so I’m not that out of date with my upbringing. God anyone would think I’ve received my letter from the King.

No it isn't
But clearly you are setting a delightful example to kids

She hasn't said anywhere how old the children are, where she most regularly sees them or whether the parents are present or not.

In her own home, she has some authority to set rules and look after them.

In any other location, she does not.

I think its a bit old fashioned now. When I met DH's parents for the first time she made a point of saying you must call me firstname.

Recently I took DD for a playdate and the mum is a TA at her school so I said "say thank you to Mrs X" and she laughed and said oh no she can call me firstname when we're not in school.

@Roosnoodles nobody is arguing it wasn't the done thing in the past.

It's 2024.....:

If their own parent isn't present? Surely that's pretty obvious?!

Why is she in charge of, or responsible for, anyone else's children?

But any honourable ( and self-respecting) adult would know that respect for a child’s right to life trumps theirs in a scramble for lifeboat type situation. I wouldn't see that their right to life trumped mine, I would see it as equal. But their right to a lifeboat place trumps mine because they are less able to survive without one.

No I don’t think it’s rubbish. There is definitely a quality in the concept respect that ties to our humanity, young or old. It wasn't the concept of respect I was suggesting might be rubbish, it was that the way that concept was understood has changed over the last half century.

That's complete nonsense.

Well you’re certainly not pandering to your relatives who have asked NOT to be called aunty or uncle. That’s disrespectful.

I call my father by his first name. It was too confusing to continue to call him "Dad" when DC knew DH as "Dad". and I wasn't going to call him "Grandad" because he's not my grandad. So I use first names for all of us, and DC resolutely use Mum/Dad/Grandad.

Tell them you want to be called 'My son's name'
It is rude to address an adult by their first name, particularly uninvited.
But clearly their parents have not taught them manners

Why is she in charge of, or responsible for, anyone else's children?

When talking to our kids (11 and 8) we will always refer to the parents of their friends as "Xxx's mum/dad" or "Mrs/Mr Yyyy", unless the parents are also our personal friends, in which case we would just use their first names. It's just a matter of respect for acquaintances who you don't have a close personal relationship with. I don't know how my kids address the parents when they're at the friends house, but hope it would be however the parent wanted to be addressed. My daughter's best friend is the child of teachers (at her school) and there is no way my daughter would voluntarily call them anything except Mr and Mrs when she's round at their house. They actually remarked how polite both our kids were when they had a meal with them once and both addressed them as Mr and Mrs and asked if they could leave the table.

Schools where we are in Canada are pretty informal- no uniforms for example- but teachers, janitors, cooks - all adults in the school, are addressed by title, not first name. Doesn't mean kids can't give them a hug either. It's just a basic show of respect and acknowledgement that there is a distance and the adults are in charge.

If the OP is more comfortable being addressed as Mr then what's the problem? Especially if the kids are in his house and he is the responsible adult!

Doubt it, very few people born after the early 90s use fb!

This often gets said on here, but my teens and their friends all use it. As do my girls in their mid 20's.

Going by the number of friend requests I get from former pupils they're not unusual.

When I was at school all teachers were addressed as Mr/ Mrs/ Dr. They also wore gowns and we stood up whenever an adult entered the room.
The school was highly academic.

Even at 63, I call my uncles/aunts Uncle x, Aunty Y, etc, despite a couple of them asking to be called 'x'; (doing that seems so disrespectful)
But then again, we are in times where children are supposed to be the centre of everyone's bloody universe, and thus we should pander to each and every precious little whim

Are you usually so uptight.

On average, someone who has lived 30 years longer than me will have contributed more to society than me, which deserves respect. Again on average they will have experienced more and learned more.

I think the concept of respect has changed over the last half century, from something which is earned, and not everyone will achieve (the respect you give to a top footballer, a person who has done obvious good, or a "national treasure" for example), to something more akin to basic human rights, due to everyone.

This may explain why many older people find it hard to understand they should respect a 5 year old as much as a 50 year old. Of course both have the same right to have their opinions heard (new definition) but if you were seeking advice on how to deal with a blocked drain, you may place more credence on the 50 year old's suggestion than the 5 year old's (old definition).

This may all be rubbish, I've only just thought about it.

Your own child calling you by your first name is odd. Other people's children - what are they supposed to call you?