To not like being called by forename by kids

Not a western view either really. A modern one maybe.

And who is exactly?
Only sibling of parent? What about that person's spouse? What about your great aunts and uncles? It includes quite a few people.

Oh is it? Is that another thing MN considers common?
My friends' children still call me aunty Gwen although I've told them they don't have to use the formal pronoun we have in Welsh.

It was generally not considered polite in the 80s though. If you didn't do Mr/Mrs you used auntie and uncle before the name.

Do people really do that?

Get a life 🤣

"I think it's ridiculous to feel the need to enforce perceived respect in this way.
We had to refer to our line managers in my first job by their title and I couldn't have had less respect for the arrogant fools if I'd tried."

In a school situation it's pretty normal - just defining roles.
Between adults I can imagine it could be annoying not being allowed to use forename.

i am torn on this issue. my asian heritage has meant even now i still call my mother’s friends as aunty or uncle (i was once told off my grandmother for not calling on friend in specific aunty because she was never introduced as aunty to me so i just called her by the name i had always been told to call her). i do realise aunty and uncle is out of fashion now and i can understand why in some situations mr/mrs/ms might be overly formal so i am not sure what i would want dc to call adults once he is old enough to talk… it does seem weird to me for a child to directly call a adult by their first name

Mid 50s, personally, and I grew up calling all my parents’s friends by their first name. My children’s friends all called me by my first name; a more formal form of address would feel weird from children playing in my garden.

Well the reality is we have different relationships with different people. Some of them we are closer to than others.

To be perfectly honest it’s these sorts of subtle distancing signals that help reinforce other personal boundaries.

I don’t like the idea of only some people being good enough to be allowed to call you by your first name.

I'm 48 and neither I nor any of my friends ever called each other's parents 'Mr/Mrs/Miss Surname'. We always used first names.

When I was little, family friends/neighbours were usually 'Auntie/Uncle Firstname' which was the norm for working class Londoners at the time. (I actually still have a couple of Aunties and Uncles who are really no relation to me whatsoever but I can't think of them as anything else!)

School friends' parents were always just Firstname.

The only adults we called Mr/Mrs/Miss Surname were teachers.

Maybe slip into a 1950's house dress while you demand outstanding manners and serve up stewed veg/sadness in a pan.

No. Get a grip.

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She was about 94 and most of her friends were dead, sadly.

I think it's ridiculous to feel the need to enforce perceived respect in this way.
We had to refer to our line managers in my first job by their title and I couldn't have had less respect for the arrogant fools if I'd tried.

I used be a visiting teacher at a school where, without consultation with me, pupils were given my first name, apparently because I teach a specialist subject. Normally schools would not behave like this. It was confusing for pupils who needed to understand that I was there to teach them.

I'm glad to be called by my first name by dc's friends, and not just addressed as 'dc's mum'. It reminds me I have my own identity beyond being mum.
Dc & friends think they're being hilarious though.

I haven't said anything, that's partly why came here, wasn't sure if it's old fashioned stuff left over from my folks. They were older parents and I'm also an older parent

im mid 47

I mean, fucking hell, me too. We were teens in Grunge and Britpop and ‘lad culture’ and the rest right. Not the 1950s

Ask them to touch their forelock and call you sir!

Get over yourself!!

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
― Maya Angelou

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I love maya angelou but I disagree with her in some aspects of this. Many elders are not deserving of respect or honour from children, sometimes disrespecting elders IS respecting yourself especially when those elders are harmful. Many children are incredible with great points of view and things to say, I think this message kind of contributes to shutting children down when we should be helping them to stand up and speak so they can shape the world they're going to live in. In order for that to happen adults need to step aside and share the platform. Children need to learn that not all adults are wiser/ correct/ should be listened to. Just simply being a teacher or a parent or whatever position of power you sit in over a child does NOT automatically mean you are deserving of that child's respect. I want my ds to grow up knowing that he can judge adults the way he should judge children... on the basis of their actions and how they treat others. And that if someone in a position of authority or power asks something of him he's uncomfortable with, he still has the right to say no and go against them as strongly as he needs to.

Is that because you want them to call you what you prefer to be called?

If so, what if someone else preferred not to be called by their first name? Do they not have that same choice?

What if the child said I feel more comfortable calling you your title. I don’t really know you all that well. Would you insist on Becky.