To not like being called by forename by kids

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A few of DDs friends were also teachers at her school, she always said it was weird going to their houses and using their first names. She always used Mrs X until one of them said she was "firstname" at home

It is not respectful. My kids address my friends as “Mrs/aunty/x’s mum”
they aren’t friends, my friends are old enough to be their parents, show respect.

A teenaged friend of my DS once saw me in the street and called, ‘Hello Mrs X!’ I spent some time looking around, wondering who had the same surname as me, before I realised he was actually talking to me.

Seriously, OP, it sounds awfully pompous to want to be addressed as Mr xxx.

I called my friends' mums by their first names in the 90s! You're being very old-fashioned, OP.

I have no issue with it at all, A couple of DS's Asian friends call me "auntie" and one lovely young man calls me "Mrs(DS's Name)'s Mum but my first name is fine too.
Ds is 15 now and apparently they like to wind each other up by using their Mum and Dads names to each other, so instead of saying "ask your Mum" etc they say "ask Hopping"

“Mrs Anderson” or whatever also assumes you’re married, and plenty of parents aren’t. Getting into whether it’s Mrs or Ms with a child (& do you have the same second name as the child who is their friend?) feels quite involved when the poor kid could just call you Julie!

Mr so-and-so by your child's friends? That sounds very U.S. South to me...

My friends always called my parents by first names. Anything else would have been strange.

'Kate's mum, can I have a drink?"

Why? It's your name, and they know it.

In fairness, I grew up in Denmark. We didn't call teachers Mr/Mrs, etc., or Miss and Sir. So my perspective is coloured by that.

None of the teachers or staff there are Mr/Mrs/Miss.

They are all first name basis it’s mentioned very early on in going to look around the school, they believe in teaching in a new way not in an old fashioned way and it seems to work the results speak for themselves when you look at their reports for where students go after year 11.

You sound like my gran. She would´ve been 100 in 2019. When she was dying in hospital it really annoyed her that the nurses called her Vera (her name) and Not Mrs. Y... She would come round just to correct them.
My daugther´s 6, her cronies call me E...´s mum when addressing me. When they are older they will call me by my Christian name...
The world has moved on.

That is a bit sad. But different countries, different cultures. It’s quite interesting.

I prefer it though I usually invite using my first name.

My daughter's friends had a habit of calling me "Daughter's name mum" which I didn't mind too much but it seemed a bit silly so I told them to just call me Name.

Likewise one of my sons friends who had very strict parents would address me earnestly as Mrs Smith which was charming but unnecessarily formal (and I've kept my maiden name so I'm actually Miss Jones anyway).

My parents were a bit snobby and insisted we call adults Mrs x or Auntie Y. The Auntie stuff was a bit annoying as we weren't related so why pretend? It was ingrained though so once I was adult and the family friend said oh don't call me Mrs/Auntie, just call me Name, I couldn't do it. It was a total block because it had been drummed into me by mother that it was disrespectful. I'm glad times have changed!

One of mine did that to our Head once. She looked properly awkward.

Reminds me of Kevin and Perry ‘Hi Mr Pattinson, Mrs Pattinson’.

They’re year six! a few years off adulthood. Of course they can say Hi Chris. Not Hi Jack’s Dad! That’s just odd. Get over yourself. Sounds like you’re on a power trip.

Please don’t make it weird for your kids to have their friends over this is very odd behaviour, chill

I am the opposite. I was recently at my child’s school and they gave us formal name tags with mr and Mrs X on it. We got a pen and all scribbled our first names on it. I’m too young to be treated like an old lady!

My bank and GP call me by my first name and that's fine with me. I'm nearly 70 fwiw.

Distance? Our children always run up to her and give her a hug.

It's quite a class thing

DS friends call me Mrs C because I taught them all. DS was at a different school. I keep suggesting it’s first name but they aren’t budging!

This always confuses my students! I teach a musical instrument, on the project I deliver in primary schools all the project teachers are first name. All my private students call me by my first name. I have a few left over that I now teach privately who I initially taught at a grammar school where they had to use my surname and I don’t think they know what to call me! All my kids’ friends (4-7) it’s immediately first name.

Only in the UK.. 😩 Our principle came to say hello today and the children waved happily and said hi, using her nickname.

There is not a single person in my country who anyone would call anything else than their first name.

A lot of cultures do this. It’s to signal that an that an adult is closer than an acquaintance but without calling them by their first name.

I think, again, so long as everyone asks “ is it ok if I call you/you call me x?” It’s quite a nice tradition.

I have never had a friend of my children call me Mrs …I would actually find it really bizarre! Friends daughter has a boyfriend that insists in calling her Mrs blah blah and she finds it infuriating! She has told him so many times what her preference is .

When I was about 9 years old, back in 1966, I called a friend's mum by her forename. I don't know what the hell got into me because it really was unheard of back then. She "reported" me to my parents who gave me a massive telling off. Flash forward to the the mid 80's when my own son was about the same age and all of his friends called me, and other mums, by their forename. So, things changed at least 40 years ago and you are being very old fashioned indeed. I also think you will embarrass your son if you insist on this. Are you married? Do his friends call your wife "Mrs"? Is this just a male thing?