My youngest (DS8) has recently joined the choir at school and has been practising at home. He said he was doing a concert but didn't know details when I've been asking him and I figured it would come out in due course as I hadn't already received an email.
Today he's come home telling me i need to contact the school as I should have received an email. He's brought a leaflet home saying the concert is a Saturday night with a brass band and fiddle orchestra..
Normally this would be okay BUT for the first time ever we've arranged to go to DH's family for a Halloween party which is about an hour from us and were planning on staying with some of them and making a weekend of it. We've bought the costumes for the 4 of us, eldest is 11.
We were really looking forward to it as we had a family bereavement last year and this is the first time we've arranged to see the wider family since as all meet ups used to be through the relative who died.
DS who is due to sing says he doesn't want to go to the party now and I know the concert is really important to him. There will be other family parties I guess. It's just a kicker because we honestly rarely do anything and this one time...
It's the right decision yes?