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To have given this as a gift?

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JMSA · 08/10/2024 16:26

A colleague really helped me out today, and I wanted to give her a token of my appreciation. I remembered that I had a lovely, unused bottle of limoncello that I bought while in Sicily over the summer. So when she dropped me off at home after work today, I nipped inside to grab it for her.
On taking it out of the cupboard, I saw that the cellophane had been removed from the stopper and a wee bit was missing. Bloody teenagers! (not underage, I hasten to add).
I gave it to her anyway because I was completely caught out. But now I feel silly and a bit embarrassed. I'm hoping she won't mind. It could only have been opened recently and she is very thrifty - as well as an incredibly resourceful and amazing human being - so I know that it definitely won't go to waste. She likes the drink and is a keen baker, etc.
I'm hoping that maybe she'll think it's more authentically Italian with the cellophane removed, and that that's how it's supposed to look Confused

Would you be insulted by this gift? I would have lined up something else had I known the bottle was opened.

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pasturesgreen · 08/10/2024 16:40

Did you explain when you gave it to her? I know I wouldn't mind in the least if you had told me what you put in your OP.
Otherwise yes, bit odd to give an obviously opened bottle of anything.

strungouteyes · 08/10/2024 16:40

Naaah I'd have picked up something else another day.

JMSA · 08/10/2024 16:39

She genuinely seemed delighted.

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partygate · 08/10/2024 16:39

I think this is pretty rude tbh. Rather than give her a gift you’ve thought about and suits her, you’ve given her something in the back of the cupboard and has been opened. You’re now forcing her to show thanks for an utterly thoughtless gift. I’d be pretty annoyed. If it’s obviously open she will know it’s something you had knocking about at home and didn’t care whether she wanted or not. I would sooner have no gift.

JMSA · 08/10/2024 16:38

PersephoneAgrees · 08/10/2024 16:30

Er...I wouldn't appreciate being given an opened bottle of anything tbh, not as a gift. If it was a case of 'here's some Limoncello you can have, I don't like it' then it would be a different story. How do you know your teenagers haven't drunk the lot and replaced it with some kind of squash?

Edited

They're too lazy for such ingenuity.

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JMSA · 08/10/2024 16:38

Oh no, I'm dying! Blush

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netflixfan · 08/10/2024 16:38

I think you should just explain the whole thing to her and say sorry for giving her an opened bottle of booze. Blame the teens! She'll understand.

Notimeforaname · 08/10/2024 16:36

Sorry op but I would think you're mad. And a bit icky for lack of a better word 😅. I wouldn't want a bottle of alcohol that had been opened and drank, no.

Icanttakethisanymore · 08/10/2024 16:36

What did you say when you gave it to her? I think it’s probably fine and a kind thought.

Wishimaywishimight · 08/10/2024 16:34

I would think it a bit odd tbh, like you were trying to get rid of a drink you had tried but didn't like!

xILikeJamx · 08/10/2024 16:34

Congratulations - you're now the crazy lady at work who gives people half drunk bottles of booze! 😂

PersephoneAgrees · 08/10/2024 16:30

Er...I wouldn't appreciate being given an opened bottle of anything tbh, not as a gift. If it was a case of 'here's some Limoncello you can have, I don't like it' then it would be a different story. How do you know your teenagers haven't drunk the lot and replaced it with some kind of squash?

Wendysfriend · 08/10/2024 16:30

Had you told her you were giving it to her or were you pretending to have bought it for her ?

Id be fine if I knew and you had explained.

Gonegirl7 · 08/10/2024 16:30

Do you think it was obvious it was opened?