Neighbour issues

Holy Moly,
Some people really are just hideous nutters!
I'm moving later on this year...
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Look - when she starts slashing your tyres start worrying what to do about her.

Your neighbours are AHs. Complete chicken shits for not talking to you.

What are they expecting your DHs employer to do? Are they hoping he gets sacked? Vile people.

Have it out with them once and for all - it doesnt need to be heated, you can be as reasonable as you sound, but then freeze them out. They don't deserve your time/effort.

Sorry I haven't read all the thread, but it was mentioned that she is about 60 and has a son in his thirties. It maybe that he is the one who is causing the rift, especially if she is being nice generally. She may be unaware, or want to mitigate the situation. IME thirty somethings can be very negative. Can you talk to her?

Yup, restrictive covenants are very handy. I’d suggest grey rock with these neighbours and keeping a log of incidents and contacting the police to ask for advice. Avoid direct confrontation and let the authorities deal with it. If you get angry with them and tell them, they will twist it and accuse you of harassment.

Have lived 40 years in my apartment. Me and my son, single mum.

Most neighbours are wonderful. You do get some nutters though.

Just ignore them.

On the estate where I live we are not permitted to run businesses from home. Perhaps you could check your deeds of covenant to see if there are similar restrictions in your area. If there are she may well be in contravention of these.

Speak to her and tell her your DH’s work is fed up of all the letters and taking pictures is harassment. Anything further and you’ll be contacting the police about it. Don’t hold back, she’s clearly got issues.

I wouldn't be nice or speak to them again! If they knock asking for anything either don't answer the door or say no sorry then shut it!

This I suggest is where she could be vulnerable

I wonder if she has permission from the council, to run a music school business from her house?

Bet you anything you like that the other neighbours have NO problem with you. However I'd like to know what the other neighbours think about the miserable control freaks next door to you.

Do not say to your neighbour that your husband is getting in to trouble at work as someone else has advised.
I would suggest not go near them and especially not to discuss any communication between your husband and his work.
Any approach to your neighbour could trigger them to do the opposite of what you want or makes sense.
If you feel creeped out or annoyed about what they have done, ask the police for advice.

I would say police too. This is harassment, and contacting a persons place of work is uping the anti and ultimately threatening your livelihood.

Can you ask his work for copies of the emails. I would be taking it to the police so they have a word.

Ask her "What part of Public Highway don't you understand?" and then tell her to contact parking at your local council. They will soon set her straight.

Not all businesses have to be on Companies House. Sole traders can trade legally without being on CH so long as they register with HMRC. A music teacher is very likely to be a sole trader.

This is bizarre but equally bizarre your husbands employer didn't say anything. Can they reply for you?

I would absolutely stop all communication with them.
Do not talk to them or lend them anything.
Keep a record of all letters they've sent & any comments they made to you in person including dates etc in case it escalates. Get copies of everything from the employer.
I would also keep an eye out and if you see them taking photos make a note of that too.
They sound insane and no good will come of bothering to try and reason with them.
They are obviously kind of back stabbing you if they complained via letter & to the employer rather than directly to you; whilst pretending to be a friendly terms.
I would also consider asking a solicitor to write a letter detailing that this amounts to harassment, maybe not straight away but if anything else happens, that's why making all the records now is important.
Our neighbours went nuts about parking for about a 6 month period and would sit in their window waiting for us to drive anywhere and then sit on their front step waiting for us to come back so they could shout at us, I felt really watched and harassed and anxious but they were literally 90 years old so didn't feel that reporting it to anyone was reasonable as I didn't think we were in danger from them. I think they were having a senile moment as nothing has changed with the parking but they miraculously stopped harassing us & they've been very kind about us needing access for roof repair etc so I'm glad I didn't escalate tbh.
But in your situation, especially if the son could be involved, I'd be more concerned.

Write her a letter saying that her music lessons are disruptive to you and other residents. Clients are parking badly, the kids sound bloody awful and you can't find a record of her business on companies house so you're concerned she's operating illegally. Sign it from another house. Ask her to please be a better and more considerate neighbour.

OP, this neighbour sounds completely unreasonable.
Bit gobsmacked at the energy she's expended on pursuing you for being completely normal (and pleasant by the sounds of it!) neighbours.
It's no wonder you're upset by this.

She sounds bat shit .
Would his employer email back saying they have reviewed the photos and the vehicles are parked legally, all the work vehicles have appropriate tax and insurance therefore they see no problem in how they are parked and not to contact them further .

I would see if the local community police can call round and have a chat with her .

your neighbour is clearly very unhappy and possibly has some mental health issues that they can't deal with. its not ideal but there's not a lot you can do. it looks like they are happy to hid behind an email, but wouldn't do it directly in person. I'm sure your husband's employer realises this.

Don't t bother discussing it with them. You can't reason with unreasonable people.

I would lay money on you not being the only neighbour that they're harassing. It would be worth making subtle inquiries.