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Things DP said to me while on holiday

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noodlewoo · 08/10/2024 07:01

Commented on what I was wearing to the airport. He said “you could have made more of an effort. “look at all these girls wearing trendy clothes. You need to start wearing clothes like that” I mean we literally had just got to the airport to go on holiday. Not a great start

Then when we got there he continued to point out what other women were wearing. “I like those gym leggings and sets” Don’t you wish you could wear stuff like that”

Continued to remind me that when we get home I need to get back on my diet. Maybe this is where I’m being sensitive because he said “for your sake not mine”

Then he asked if he thought people would put us together. Wasn’t sure what he meant so I asked him. He said well do you think people would think either of us were punching.

I sometimes have trouble with my back where it “goes” We were on a boat trip and when it was time to get off and stand up I said ouch and told him my back had a little twinge. He said “don’t start”

Then on the morning we were due to go home I came on my period and said I was “angin” for people who don’t know what that means it basically means disgusting

I’ve come home feeling a bit shitty and unloved but I’m not sure if I’m being over sensitive. Seems like he possibly doesn’t find me attractive which if that’s the case then fair enough but how would this make others feel?

OP posts:
spinningisthebest · 08/10/2024 07:46

Knapplands · 08/10/2024 07:30

To answer his question, yes I do think that one of you is punching. He is so far below your standard that he can't reach your toes.

This. He is horrible and you deserve better.

kaos2 · 08/10/2024 07:46

I think he is warning you he is checking out .. I would consider your options before he finds a better offer and leaves you in the shit .

Do you own or rent your home ? I would look into how you would manage without him because I think he is done tbh

I've been married 25 years and my dh still adores me and I him.

It's not normal to talk to someone like that ffs

newyearsresolurion · 08/10/2024 07:46

Has he been dumped yet?? Why would you continue seeing someone like that?? It's ok to be single very ok.

BIossomtoes · 08/10/2024 07:45

speedmop · 08/10/2024 07:43

yes op is a sahm and despite partner asking her to return to work, she refuses

So that gives him carte blanche to criticise her appearance, does it?

noodlewoo · 08/10/2024 07:45

@speedmop Seems like you are hell bent on trying to make me feel worse for some reason. I have never refused to return to work, the time genuinely isn’t right just yet due to circumstances

OP posts:
Cocothecoconut · 08/10/2024 07:45

What @SerenityNowInsanityLater said ^^

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 08/10/2024 07:45

I think a holiday is a great way to end that relationship. What an insecure, shallow person. Clearly projecting his insecurities on to you. Get away from him and fast! X

arethereanyleftatall · 08/10/2024 07:45

Divorce him.

For your kids sake.

Because you are their role models are they are learning about relationships from you. They only get one teacher of this, and it's you two.

You are teaching your sons to treat women like this, and you're teaching your daughters to stand there passive and get insulted.

Do you want your daughter to be in a relationship like this?

speedmop · 08/10/2024 07:43

Ivehearditbothways · 08/10/2024 07:38

But you’re not married? I hope you’re not a SAHM or only working part time of something.

yes op is a sahm and despite partner asking her to return to work, she refuses

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 08/10/2024 07:43

noodlewoo · 08/10/2024 07:24

And to top it off he said all this on my birthday🤣 it gets better

It’s not really funny though is it 😳

Question is - are you going to do something about it?

BIossomtoes · 08/10/2024 07:42

Get shot.

speedmop · 08/10/2024 07:42

Just seen your other thread.

You are a sham and despite him asking you to return to work, you say the time isn’t right.

I imagine that is why you put up with this op, because you have made yourself financially dependent on him

WolfFoxHare · 08/10/2024 07:42

Strawberries86 · 08/10/2024 07:02

He’s a massive bell end.

First poster nails it.

Waterboatlass · 08/10/2024 07:42

What a tedious bully. Not someone I would stay with.

Cookieland · 08/10/2024 07:41

Who needs an enemy with a partner like this who you belittle you to your face?

Cappuccinowithonesugarplease · 08/10/2024 07:41

Any sentence that starts with 'you need to' fills me with rage!
What a massive arse.
Who does he think he is? Maybe start doing it back to him see how he likes it.

PinotPony · 08/10/2024 07:40

You’re not being overly sensitive. His words show how little respect he has for you.

He also sounds like he’s slowly eroding all your self-confidence. Honestly OP, get out now before you completely lose yourself. Better to be alone than treated like this.

ChopstickNovice · 08/10/2024 07:40

What a colossal twat.

TheReturnOfFeathersMcGraw · 08/10/2024 07:40

Single....it would make me want to be single.

What an absolute bell end. He thinks he's better than you, but he's shown that he's not!

AgileGreenSeal · 08/10/2024 07:40

Is he usually lovely or has he form for putting you down?
Could he be a narcissist?
They love to ruin holidays for those nearest to them.

LunaNorth · 08/10/2024 07:40

I bet he thinks Andrew Tate has been fitted up 😒

TwistedWonder · 08/10/2024 07:39

Strawberries86 · 08/10/2024 07:02

He’s a massive bell end.

As usual first response nails it.

Why are you with this complete twat OP?

Ivehearditbothways · 08/10/2024 07:38

noodlewoo · 08/10/2024 07:17

Thank you everyone. You’ve made me feel better knowing it’s not me. For those who have asked, we’ve been together 12 years and have 2 DC

But you’re not married? I hope you’re not a SAHM or only working part time of something.

StMarieforme · 08/10/2024 07:38

He's vile. Get rid.

Dollychopsporkchops · 08/10/2024 07:38

Get out Op. All this looking at other women and comparing you to them…I wouldn’t be surprised if he started cheating.

He is vile and awful but it’s obvious he isn’t happy. So I suspect he may cheat if he hasn’t already. Get out for your sake. Whatever weight you need to lose is his!

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