Things DP said to me while on holiday

Really sorry you're being treated in this way.That's a really shitty way to speak to you/treat you.What a horrible person he is!
If you've been in the relationship a while and he's been chipping away at your self esteem you'll need to be kind to yourself and build yourself up.Bin him....Take care of yourself OP You are worth so much more! 💌🫂

Pick your self esteem up off the floor and move on. He doesn't seem to like you, let alone love you. I'd run far far away. I remember seeing a very young couple in the south of France on holiday. The guy treated her like garbage for the the entire 15min bus ride. He was tall and muscular and she was just a regular girl (cute anyway). He walked 10 steps ahead of her, talked down to her ane he oozed contempt. I am telling you: run. People likely felt sorry for you on holiday. Do not spend another day with him. Don't let people watch you and feel sorry for you. This life has only so many holidays in store and you don't want to waste another second with this guy.

Please know it's not you. Once you leave him and recover you will meet the right one. Yo won't need to look, he will appear.
You needed this painful experience to allow you to appreciate your new man. Good luck and kind thoughts. Please let us know x

Is he absolutely gorgeous with fantastic taste in clothes, do you feel awed next to his presence? If the answer to any of these questions is no then tell him to shut the f**k up.
How you look and dress is up to you- it's nothing to do with him.
Personal comments like this means he does not love you for who you are-we all deserve to be loved for who we are, anything less is a compromise.
He thinks you are not making enough effort, but he is just not enough, even if he looks good he is decidedly lacking, he also has no empathy which is something every person needs to be suitable as a partner for anyone human.
Any man thinks having a period is disgusting is either a massive misogynist or a closet homosexual, or both- you would be better off alone IMHO.

He's vile.

You think you're being over sensitive to what is essentially mental & emotional abuse? No, absolutely not.
This behaviour is just what abusers do, they put you down, compare you to others, & mess with your head by chipping away at your self worth & self esteem until it's gone.
I won't say leave, because after years of having dealt with this myself, I know it isn't always that simple, or easy. That said, I learned the hard way that if your kids are girls, his abusive ways will soon target them... & If you have boys, they're seeing everything & thinking that this vileness is how to treat women.
At this point, you need to decide what you & your kids are worth/deserve & run with it.

wtaf?

wtaf?

You once were compatible, that's why you were 12 years together und have two kids. But, he doesn't find your attractive anymore. Maybe he is right, maybe you let yourself go. Maybe not, we cannot tell from this post. But we don't know if you still find him attractive either. The way he went about it was rong, however did he actually make these comments before? Surely this is not coming out of the blue? You feel unloved but have you asked him why he is saying all these things? Might be a better idea to talk to him, rather than asking strangers on here who will only tell you to dump him, without having the whole picture.

He is definitely punching. Bin this see you next Tuesday and find someone on your level

Ditch him, and don't look back.

He's a bell end :-) Get rid, pronto.

He's punching because you've ended up saddled with a completely disrespectful and disgusting DP and he has lovely you who should have dumped his ass a long time ago! Leave him. Seriously.

Sounds like he thinks he can do better so set him loose and let him try! You don't deserve that bs from anyone!

Yet another deluded man who thinks he can do better.

Sorry OP, he sounds horrible

I fervently hope this arsehole is only a boyfriend, lovely. Tell him to go take a flying fuck to himself, the twonk. While you're at it, inform him that you going on a diet won't cost a lot but it'll cost him a fortune for cosmetic surgery (let him work it out😀). You do NOT need negative 💩 like this w⚓ in your life.

Sometimes I think we should at least work out what led someone to act out. In this case though it's pretty clear: he doesn't respect you and just needs to admit he doesn't want to be with you. The physical stuff is just the surface version of that

This so called DP sounds very cruel, critical and unappreciative, and as the other very caring members of this group have advised, I would end things with him. Try to do it in an assertive way - please be brave. You are worth so much more than being with this idiot. He won't change, and he will destroy your last bit of confidence, and make you a wreck. I've been through the same thing and it takes a lot of courage, but you can do it, just try to be strong, and believe that you deserve someone far kinder and more decent.

Don't walk, Run. It's extremely scary making the decision to leave an abusive partner, I know. But the longer you leave it, the more scary it gets. All the practical details seem overwhelming but it's all doable. Hard, but doable. Don't let him grind you down any longer. I waited to leave until I felt my life was threatened... trust me you do not want to get to this place. I'm alone now, recovering for the last 4 years and so so happy now

A loving partner should support you, not grind you down and make you feel like crap. You don't need him, though you probably think you do....he has made you feel worthless, I suspect he has treated you badly for years.

Try to get outside help, family, friends, organisations, put a plan in place that when you have had enough of this creep (hopefully soon) you will have the backup and the knowledge of how to get rid efficiently.

Unfortunately, I think you have yourself a narcissist - lack of empathy, sense of grandiose, entitled, manipulative, resistance to change. Charming to others, including strangers, but mean to you. Sound familiar?

Showing some Narcissistic traits here get rid - no one should make you feel like this. I should know I was married to one for 38 years.

He sounds like an utter cunt.

All niceties aside. He doesn’t like you, he thinks he can do better, his trying to break you and you are just convenient. He is working towards stripping you of all your self respect.

My issue, would not be what he does it’s how you react. I was in the same situation and I had to clearly say, “you are not a prize” and told him to F off! He stayed and never said another disrespectful word to me because he knew I’ve reached my limit. Especially, knowing I’m doing it for my girls. Find your own way to put him in his place. Unless you want to wait till you’ve wasted your youth before you break free.

No human is worth this mental torture.

Over sensitive? He was unbelievably horrible to you. No way would I put up with this.