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To be having second thoughts about DS staying over at grandparents?

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supertatovsevilpea · 08/10/2024 06:42

Have a funeral this week, and it is not local (some three hours away.)

I have two children who are three (4 in December) and 15 months. Originally my plan was to have DS(3) stay over with PIL overnight while I drive to funeral location with DD(15 months) then come back the following day. But it means DS would be with PIL overnight then all the following day.

It feels like a lot for them both to be honest. I’m wondering if it might be best to bite the bullet and take both kids with me?

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Tontostitis · 08/10/2024 07:01

I've done overnights a lot, the earliest was my 8 week old granddaughter and the longest was a week with an 18 month old. It was fine, but occasionally still brutal in my 50s. Harder, much harder now in my early 60s I think for inexperienced with that child 70 year olds overnight plus a whole day is asking a lot.

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supertatovsevilpea · 08/10/2024 06:52

There’s absolutely no way they could have both stayed with GPs.

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supertatovsevilpea · 08/10/2024 06:51

He’s never done it before @Peonies12 or spent the night away and I’m just conscious I’m at the other end of the country if it does go wrong.

GPs are early 70s.

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Procrastinates · 08/10/2024 06:50

Personally I would have made arrangements for both of them to stay with their grandparents. A 3 hour journey and funeral isn't really going to be enjoyable for a 15 month old.

I suspect she would have a better time with her brother and grandparents.

Peonies12 · 08/10/2024 06:47

Seems very usual for a 3 Yo to stay with grandparents - what’s your concern? Surely if you’re worried they will find it difficult speak to them about it?

Calamitousness · 08/10/2024 06:47

I would guess that your pil will be looking forward to having your son stay. Most GP would love that (although maybe not the mumsnet ones). Even if he didn’t sleep well and ran them ragged, it’s only a couple of days. I’m sure they’d put up with anything to have some time with your son and help you out.

BillyNoProblems · 08/10/2024 06:45

You mean it feels a lot for the grandparents to manage having your DS? That depends on a lot of things, age, health etc and is impossible to tell from your post...