To be scared to have another baby after DH poor show last time.

Get him out. This is honestly one of the most horrible things I’ve read on mumsnet. If some man treated your daughter like he has treated you, would you advise her to have another baby or would you tell her to kick the useless fuck out of her life??

I know someone else whose partner behaved similarly. She couldn't forgive him and divorced him.

He sounds awful, selfish and without any empathy.

It sounds like he's picked up that you're not happy (and you absolutely should be anything but happy with this situation!) and is suggesting another baby to try and trap you. He said that he wished you had ended your life during the last pregnancy, it's not a stretch to consider that violence may occur during round two.

Don't roll those dice. Instead, take action to protect yourself and your daughter from this horrible and, by the sounds of it, dangerous man.

No more with this guy.
These are his true colours and if he didn’t care for you and his baby at that crucial time, he really doesn’t care at all.

Lawyer up and get rid of this psychopath

Sounds like you have your head screwed on OP. Get your ducks in a row and good luck. You deserve so much better, you don’t treat someone you love the way he treated you x

Given his behaviour and the fact you don’t know if you love him.. why even consider it? So stupid!

Thank fuck for that. This thread is breathtakingly awful. Please let us know when you’ve got rid of that despicable man.

What a disgusting man!! Get rid OP, no words for that behaviour. Do not have another baby with him. I’m glad you are financially secure though.

He sounds awful!!! I would have no respect for him after that

Get him gone. Sounds like he’s dragging you down! You don’t need him. I’m so sorry he treated you this way

Of course yanbu! Just be aware that if you’re married, he can claim on your home but may agree to leave without a fuss, hopefully. Please see a solicitor and get away from this shithead asap. Given his appalling behaviour, I somehow doubt he’s going to fight for custody.

I voted YABU to stay with him after this..

Just when I think I've read the most horrific thing here ....that is beyond horrific.

Just to add my voice to the choir: LTB LTB LTB. Good luck.

I hope your home is protect OP and he can't make a claim for half of it.

It sounds like you want to leave him. So think it's time you start making plans to kick him out

This tells me everything I need to know.

Not even a stranger would tell you this or a woman you met in the street.

This is not a man that loves you or even likes you. I would quite rightly be absolutely terrified of a future with him.

m I know it is hard but get yourself a counsellor in abusive relationship and plan an exit. Can you imagine being ill or entering old age with him? He’s vile.

I definitely wouldn’t be having another baby with him. When he said he want one, did you remind if of his shitty behaviour last time?

OP I'm so sorry about this abusive prick and all that you have been through.
You know the answer to your initial question.
Please please get the wheels in motion this week to split.
He doesnt care for you and your update is alarming and worrying.
Good luck💐

Please don’t ever have another child with that man and kick him the fuck out as soon as possible. Why on earth would you even consider it again? Is your self esteem that low that you’d have sex let alone another baby with someone that calls you a psychopath? Perhaps therapy is needed.

Imagine a future where you get sick/elderly and you need a supportive partner. Would your husband tenderly care for you, nurse you, pick up all the slack so that you can recover ………. Or would he drop you and run a mile. You know the answer. You should run a mile from him.

Please pull the trigger on splitting up.
I'm a lone parent. My life is very peaceful despite working full time etc

Just read your updates - definitely leave, your life would be immeasurably better. For what it’s worth exh is a marginally better parent when he only has to do it twice a week and the kids are very settled and happy

How did it go after the initial first days? I am guessing you did every night waking etc etc? I had the same situation - I did have baby no 2 (and very glad I did). I then left exh when baby no 2 was 2 as I never got over the resentment and stopped loving or even liking him.
fortunately I was in a position where I was the main earner and so leaving was manageable as I could afford to go and rent somewhere else whilst we sold the house so that was one big part sorted.

This is despicable. I would 100% hold off, If I was to guess, this selfishness isn't the first time he's been rude & insensitive is it? Proper Gentleman don't behave this way. You had major surgery due to an emergency and he slept all night then was disrespectful. I don't mean to be direct but the sound of him gives me the ick. You need to be supported, looked after, cared for. He sounds immature. Hope your doing okay you and you're baby x