To be scared to have another baby after DH poor show last time.

For a bit of context OP of what a good DH did (and was only DP at the time). He stayed as late as he was allowed, so about 11.30pm, did everything for DS before he went, asked the midwives to show him what to do, came back for 8am the next morning, stayed all day, looked after me, looked after DS, did everything except feed him (ebf), came back in the next day and repeat, I was allowed home that afternoon, he then did pretty much EVERYTHING for the next 6 weeks including staying up for 48hrs the day we came home as he was too scared not to watch DS sleep just in case anything happened, he used to do the midnight/1am feed so I could go to bed early, he did ask the cooking, cleaning, nappy changes, waited on me as I had a rough recovery. My mental health hasn't been great recently, he's ensured I got the help I needed!
Your 'D'H sounds like a total asshole, why would you even consider a second baby with him?! Definitely LTB you'll and your LO will be far better off without him.

He's awful! I thought I was going to read that he was a bit hapless and useless and recommend you get a friend/ family member to support you through a second birth. But he is nasty and cruel. Please get away from him.

Bloody hell. Definitely do not have another child with this man. Why are you still with him?

He's nasty and unkind to you, not supportive, I'm surprised you're still married after that behaviour, never mind having another baby

Please don't have another child with this man and if you feel strong enough leave him.

I had an emergency c/s and when we got back from hospital dh helped out as much as he could - that is what a ‘normal’ man does.
dont have another child with this man, or even stay with him.

Have no more children with this man.

He's shown by his actions what he things a woman is and should be able to do with no and I really do mean no help from him (aside from being the sperm donor here).

There is nothing as effective as a form of birth control as a weak man. It tends to turn a woman off having sex with him. Show me a man who can step up to the plate, share the load (both mental and physical), is loving and kind and considerate of his partner and I'll show you a bloke who has a healthy sex life!

Of course you’re not unreasonable!!!! Shit from him. As a pp has said - do you still love him?? X

OP I’ve just read you own your home and have a good job and support system.
A lot of women are trapped with an abusive man.
You don’t need to be.
He is an abuser. Plain and simple.
Do not have another child with this man and get out.
The way he treated you during childbirth and after is absolutely vile.
You can have your own happy home with you and your DC.
In time, you can meet someone else, and possibly have another child born with a loving partner and father who cares for you both.
You get the gift of one life don’t have regrets by giving this man any more of yours.

Op what you went through sounds horrific. From a personal point have you spoken to the hospital and had a sit down to go through your notes and what happened there? My ds birth was traumatic (nothing compared to yours though) and I found it helped.
As for your husband he is more than disgusting. It doesn't matter who you are but to ignore and show disdain to someone in pain and need like you were is shocking.bhe sounds almost like a sociopath who has no empathy.
You don't need to live like this, you are worth so much more

Great. Get legal advice, but all of that will make getting this nasty piece of work out of your life so much easier.

No need to find grounds for divorce these days.

A good solicitor op. Leave him and don't look back.

That is utterly disgusting behaviour from him and abusive.

Think of your child and leave! You both deserve so much better. He actually sounds evil.

Oh OP. Your DH has shown you his true self.

I think you need to be questioning whether you want this man to be your husband who should be your main support in life going forward.

What happens if you become ill, really ill, will he look after you? Will he help you? Will he decide men aren’t natural carers and leave you?

He is absolutely vile.

Do not have another baby with this man. Please throw him out, you'll be so much happier. You and your child deserve so much more.

Can already tell that you'll be absolutely fine, who gives a fuck whether he will be.

I'm so sorry he treated you like that. And to echo everyone else, yes, get out asap

"He slept all night whilst I agonizingly tried to look after baby and when they came in he’d pretend he’d been caring for us both."

So he knew what he should have done, didn't do it and then lied about it.
What you went through is incredible, and he only thought about himself. Not you, not your baby!

Do not have another baby with this arsehole. My H was no where near that bad but completely useless which is why I've only got 1 DS. Much easier with 1 if you're going to end up doing everything yourself.

Gosh, this man is vile. Please leave him, it will be the best thing you ever did for you and your baby.

He knows you've got one foot out of the door so the new baby idea is to tie you there. It's much harder to leave with two.

He is awful. You wouldn't treat a stranger like that and I bet he doesn't treat strangers like it. I had PND and despite doing nothing to help, spending money we didn't have, shouting all the time, my ex thought a new baby (so 2 under 2) was a good idea. He was astonished that I thought it was a shit idea ...

You can and will be happier without him.

Duck protocol. Good luck

words fail me 😞
he is an utterly vile waste of space
no more kids and get your plans in place to get away from him

Poor show doesn’t cover this. Having another baby is the least of the issues.

i would not have lied to the mw i would have told her i had no help that night in hospital and at home i would have told the health visitor/GP/ someone
have another baby with him? i wouldnt have a 2n hand teddy bear with him make a new better life for you and your child be far better