To be scared to have another baby after DH poor show last time.

@kittylion2 advice is spot on.
And well done OP, you've just removed a man sized dead weight from around your shoulders. 👏👏

Ah true to form out with the immediate cruelty. I hope you are okay @FabricFrog the only shame of it is that other person most certainly has not gotten a good one. I think I hope it turns out to be true for your sake because it will make divorcing him a hell of a lot easier if he is half out already because men like that tend not to take rejection well.

Right, well it still morning, get his stuff boxed up and arrange for its storage/whatever.
Get the locks changed, and the rest of your life begins!
Well done OP!

WHAT?!?!? are you mad op to even consider it!!!

I was surprised at how non- bothered I was when I ended things with Ex H. It was actually a relief as I didn’t have that stress of him returning.

Wow he's the gift that keeps giving.
He has shown who he is, a nasty, pathetic man. He just had to have the last word about splitting up
You're happiness starts now x

have not RTFT.

not only don't have another baby with this man: don't be in any kind of relationship with this man outside of coparenting

ETA: oh well - that will teach me! Congrats OP. Enjoy your new life.

Brilliant update .Well done .Sending you strength and hugs .What an example to your child you are .Honestly I'm so pleased for you .Don't let the b...r back into your life and I suspect he will be as crap a dad as he was a husband but Echo the get things sorted legally ASAP.

Good update - you are 100% better off without this knobhead

So set the wheels in motion to divorce but get a good solicitor. Even if the house is in your name only, it's classed as a marital asset

What does he have in the way of savings, pension, any other investments? You need to collate all financial details

Wow that must be a shock OP even though you were unhappy enough to end it. Now it's time to keep the momentum going - change the locks, see a solicitor, organise your paperwork.

Sending strength and gentle hugs

@FabricFrog You are married to an utter C&NT.

Divorce the bastard and never look back.

Having one DC is fine.

Hopefully that someone is a psychiatrist and not another victim.

I hope you are okay. But consider this a lucky escape. What a really unpleasant nasty person he is. YOU are the one that can do better. Sending hugs xx

It is now 99%. I suspect that someone voted yabu by mistake.

Well done OpP.
But really he doesn't fail to disappoint when it comes to being a complete pile of excrement does he?
The " something better" probably hasn't a clue what she is letting herself in for. No doubt she will find out.

Better times are ahead for you!! Sending strength

That is probably one of the most harrowing things I’ve ever read on here. If anyone is psychotic in your relationship it’s most definitely him. Please leave him OP he is the scum of the earth sort and deserves to die alone. Take care of yourself.

Im so sorry I just read your latest update. This is a blessing in disguise for you even though it may not feel like it. Tread carefully because he may try and cause problems further down the line as men who are as controlling as he is don’t let go easily. I can see him coming back with promises to change and love bombing you when he realises he suddenly realises that his actions have come home to roost. He is a disgrace of a man who will only go on to hurt other people. If he is to be believed then he has been trying to get you pregnant when he already has been seeing someone else!? No respect for any woman and his partner of abuse will just continue with the next woman who falls into his trap. Well done for taking that huge step forward and I’m so pleased for you that you’re financially independent of him and own your own home. I really do wish you the very best of luck moving forward.

Ok I’ll caveat that this was an Instagram reel advice but it really fits here. If you give someone a glass of water but you piss in it first and then add sugar no amount of sugar is going to change the fact that there is piss in the water. Your DH is the piss in your relationship and no amount of adding sugar to the relationship on your side or even on his side is ever going to change that. Honestly that is up there with the worst of MN relationships. He is a truly vile man. The fact that he didn’t want to been seen mistreating you in the hospital and pretended to help tells very seriously that he knew what he was doing was wrong too, he is absolutely vile.

Thrilled to read your update! Well done - cheers to you on taking the first step of your new life!! You deserve so, so very much better.

Good, set things in motion asap re solicitors etc before his new gf realises what a dick he is and before he starts demanding a share of marital assets or having the DC 50/50. Seriously, consult a solicitor and take a family member with you to remember stuff and ask questions - write a list - two heads are better than one.

Omg OP! What an absolute gem of a man!
Change your locks and put his stuff in bags and take it to his mums or wherever.

And then get yourself a glass of wine and toast your future without this loser

Great news.
Life will get a lot better.
Please stay far away from men in general until you learn boundaries and self value snd self respect.

Do the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk to help with this.

You deserve so much better than this.

I hope you’re ok op, don’t take anything he says to heart and just be thankful you are in a great position to get rid of him.

You are still having sex with that scum?
How on earth do you allow him near you?

Pack his bags and get him out.
Do not even think of having another child with him.
Unbelievable.