Aibu to be so irritated by this boy

I'd find that annoying, tbh, especially the part where he's asked to take some your own children's portions of food before they've had a chance to eat!

Gently reminding him to say please and thank you might make his endless requests slightly less annoying, but even with the magic word I wouldn't feel like agreeing to absolutely everything in a constant flow of requests. Each question on its own might not be so bad, but a long series of one after the other could soon be wearying. Maybe more frequent answers in the negative could break him of this habit, particularly if you refocus his attention in another direction or give him something else to do.

I bet you don't have kids

This. I have an 8 yr old similar as well. If he wasn’t my kid I’m sure I’d find it super irritating. Some kids are just a bit annoying I’m sure he’ll grow out of it he’s so young. Just bite your tongue and be grateful you’ve got a reciprocal childcare arrangement. As others have said - he’s obviously very comfortable with you so treat him like your own and don’t be afraid to push back and say no.

Annoyingly perhaps, but you are his safe space, his second mum xxx

I don't see how saying "I feel sorry for someone because of what you have done" is intended to do anything other than make someone feel bad for doing it?

Yes he sounds irritating. He also sounds like a typical six year old.

Get him and your DC playing Sleeping Lions or Who Can Be Quiet Longest next time he's over

She hasn't told the boy and he sounds quite irritating. You don't have to like everybody on the planet.

I find my nephew like this. When I was on holiday with him and he asked every two seconds for something and I just started saying no. I think it's okay to say no to children that make constant demands... it's like when making dinner for my own family, once everybody has a drink, their food and cutlery, I refuse to then get up because they ask 5 mins in for more carrots or something. They can wait especially if my dinner hasn't been touched!

😂😂😂it’s actually good for kids to know when their behaviour is affecting others, and how. You don’t have to be mean, but you can let them know they are getting on your nerves!

Sounds like my stepdaughter. She has ADHD. It is really annoying, but they can’t help it at that age, especially if they are ND. I deal with it by just engaging with her questions and being clear about boundaries/reminding about manners. If I find something rude (she often says what we are having for dinner is ‘disgusting’ though it’s now nearly always something she’s had and enjoyed before) I just say, ‘it’s fine to tell us if you don’t fancy something for dinner, but very rude to call food someone has prepared disgusting’ etc.

It sounds like he takes “no” for an answer quite easily, so I wouldn’t call him entitled but he does sound pretty demanding. To me, he sounds like a child who doesn’t get the attention he wants and this is how he’s learnt to interact (and maybe get some of what he asks for some of the time).

I can see why it annoys you, it would drive me potty too, but I also think it’s within the broad spectrum of the normal range of 6 year old behaviour.

He sounds annoying. I don't think I've met a child that's not annoying though. They are built that way.

It's fine to tell him no. It's fine to say well that's enough questions now off you go and play.

My 4 yo is exactly like this but only with those of my friends and family he trusts most. With him what helps is to keep up the conversation at dinner times about other things so he can’t dominate it.

Yes it’s pestering and a bit entitled. The amount of posters who are saying you should endlessly indulge this because he’s a precious child who should be obeyed tells you all about why there is a teacher shortage and retention crisis in schools.

YANBU.

Sounds an awful lot like my 6 year old if I'm being honest 😁

Glad I'm not the only one thinking that.

There was no effort to make the op feel guilty or mean, that's on you, I just said what I felt!

He sounds pretty normal. Many of our kids friends are similar (& our two as well). It can be a tad annoying but equally it’s fab they feel comfortable at their friends homes and that they are articulate and confident.
Do you feel comfortable with him? Would you be happy to just say to both kids ‘guys we are having five minutes quiet now so I can hear myself think’ or to shut arguments down like ‘there are only options a & b. We are not having a debate about it guys’

Every thread on this site is about someone but no one feels the need to post that they feel sorry for the person the thread is about in an effort to make the OP feel guilty or mean which is how it came across.

As for not doing anything wrong I'd be mortified if my child was constantly asking an adult looking after her to keep cooking different things for her and being generally demanding it's rude!

Christ this sounds like torture!

He should be entertained with her child's company not bothering her all night.

One of my youngest child's friends is like this. He does have a sibling although the sibling is six years older. His mum is pleasant and polite but somewhat similar - when they were primary age she'd message me "X would like to play with [my son's name] and I need to go out, can I drop him 'round and pick him up tomorrow".

I initially thought there was something behind the scenes - I only knew her slightly. There wasn't though because when I finally started replying bluntly she responded without being offended and invited my son to hers on a different day.

I have trained the son over the years that at our house everyone eats the same dinner, we don't keep asking after a parent has said no (to staying overnight, taking over the living room to game when others are already using the room etc. etc.) They're teens now and still hang out at one anothers houses.

Shut the barrage down kindly but firmly if it's clearly asking for the sake of asking. Most children cope well with different houses having different rules/ parenting styles.

He sounds confident, it's awful that as a society we do see this as annoying in children when it's exactly what they need to be. He uses his manners, he's just direct. Often kids that sit there saying nothing are seen in primary school as more polite, better behaved and nicer kids but then they get into teen and adult years and struggle.

He sounds comfortable in your house which is lovely. I'd also bet your neighbor will have a similar list of ways that your 6 year old is annoying.

Oh,he sounds very sweet,so long i don’t have to look after him!😂

I look after a child like this (age 4). I see it as he also feels very comfortable in our house but do also find it a bit much at times

Typical six year old.

Do you think that the constant questions might be more to do with a need to interact with you, rather than really being to do with the food etc that he is asking for?
He is slightly older than your eldest and may have a kind of egotistical fantasy about his maturity which he feeds by having a continuing exchange with you and (in his mind) slightly sidelining/excluding your children.
I'm guessing he is quite articulate and has a lot of positive attention from his parents which he finds rewarding and validating, and which he is mildly addicted to?
I rember some of my children's friends behaving in this way (and I wouldn't be all that surprised if one of my own children did it to the parents of his friends).
Like you, I always found it irritating when other people's children behaved like this, though of course I kept that hidden from them .
What is his position among the children in his own home? Is he an eldest/only child?