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About my boyfriend behaviour

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orangesonatree · 07/10/2024 18:07

So, I’ve been generally happy with my BF of a few months but I have been known to have low standards after a past abusive relationship so I wanted to run these few niggles by you guys…for context, we are both early 40s I have kids and am divorced and he had never been married and no kids. He is very sweet but:

  • never buys me flowers
  • never invites me out (we go out if I arrange something, and he pays his share)
  • hardly ever compliments me
  • If we stay at his he hardly ever makes dinner for me. It’s gotten worse with time.
  • i always make a nice meal when we stay at mine. He doesn’t ever bring wine or chocolates.
  • I seem to be more bothered about physical intimacy than him. Again, things were better to start with.
  • he is constantly exhausted even though I handle many more responsibilities in my life than he does in his.
it feels like he has become very comfortable and is kind of taking me for granted… romance is definitely dead after just a few months… not that there was that much of it to start with. Having said that, I am known for being a perfectionist and always zeroing in on what is wrong rather than the positives… thoughts? Thank you ☺️
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Kastri · 07/10/2024 18:13

You are not his mum or his housekeeper,dump him.

TheShellBeach · 07/10/2024 18:11

If the sex is already dwindling, the relationship is pretty much over.

IfOnlyTheyWent · 07/10/2024 18:09

Romance is dead after a few months! Not good at all.
What are his good qualities because you've listed a lot of bad ones.

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