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To have a favourite child?

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toyotatallula · 07/10/2024 14:27

So I'm on the school run.
I'm sitting outside school on a bench under a tree listening to Joanna Lumley read a book on Audible. She's talking about children.

I have 4 children. I love them all beyond comprehension. However I realise as I'm sitting here I have a special soft spot for my youngest.

He's so empathetic, caring and just a good little guy. The others are very independent and a little selfish in comparison to him.

I wondered do other mums have a little soft spot for one of their kids or am I a horrible old cowbag!

OP posts:
Rumors1 · 07/10/2024 14:41

Jesus harsh replies!!
OP I think most people have a soft spot for their youngest for a while as they know its their last baby. I know lots of people who feel that way.
My older children would say my youngest is my favourite but its only because I "baby" him more and really can enjoy that stage more because the others are more independent.
I make sure to tell the others what I love about them but I think it is completely normal to be drawn more to one child - its probably just a personality thing also.

Owly11 · 07/10/2024 14:32

Since you have only just realised this yourself, it might be a better idea to sit with your feeling a little longer and ask yourself how you feel about realising this, rather than asking the internet. Seems like you know it feels bad but are seeking some kind of validation. I would also ask yourself why being more independent/selfish makes your older kids less loveable. Perhaps your love is in part based on gratification.

MarginallyBetter · 07/10/2024 14:31

Well, of course the older ones are more independent than your youngest! That seems like a slightly weird reason to prefer him... Are you going to relegate him back in with the rest of the pack as he gets older and more independent?