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AIBU just tell my son he doesn’t have to do cursive writing anymore?

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Snowyslope · 07/10/2024 09:46

My son is 9 and in year 5 so his reception and year 1 of primary school were quite disrupted by the lockdowns, he was also at a less than great primary school which we have since pulled him out of. He is doing great at his new school in all areas, except his handwriting. He joins from the bottom and it makes his writing hard to read and in spelling tests for example the teacher can mark it wrong because sure it looks like a different letter, when actually he has spelt it correctly it’s just his handwriting is letting him down. An example of this would be joining a p from the bottom to the next letter making the look like a lowercase e. It also takes him a long time to write anything in cursive which effects how much he actually writes and wants to write and will hinder him in things like his SATS exams next year for example. We have tried until we’re blue in the face to get him to stop joining from the bottom but it was left unchecked when he was at his previous school and now it is just ingrained. My question is- what are the actual consequences of him not doing cursive writing at school? I know the school is desperate for all kids to do it but I really can’t see the benefit of it, it’s just massively slowing him down and making him hate writing even more and it’s also hard to read- I’m going to speak to his teacher about it this week, but before I do I’m just wondering what will happen if he just stops doing cursive writing? Would he be penalised in his SATs exams for example? If it’s just a case of that the school want him to do it and there’s no actual penalty for him not, I’m quite willing to battle over it. Thanks

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Elliebox · 07/10/2024 10:02

We’re in the same boat. Ds has the most beautiful handwriting I have ever seen, until he has to join his letters up and then it’s really hard to read. We had a welcome meeting at his school recently and they said there is some kind of test at some point and if they can’t write cursive then they don’t pass. It’s a test that the government force on them and is absolute nonsense the school said but they have to do it. Possibly an end of year test? Hes year 4.

imagine being turned down for a law degree as an adult because you have all the right experience and grades but can’t write cursive. It’s so silly. FWIW, I never ever join my hand writing

Monwmum · 07/10/2024 10:01

I had this very conversation with my son's teacher at this age. My son could write beautifully until he tried to use cursive. I asked the teacher why they felt it was necessary in this day and age and as long as he can write isn't that all the matters? He agreed with me and said it was national curriculum but we agreed that he would turn a blind eye for my son going forward.

Unfortunately it's just another example of our of touch bureaucrats making ridiculous decisions and meddling in education instead of giving teachers autonomy.

Don't worry about it AT ALL. My son is now 18 and doing an amazing engineering apprenticeship at a high profile company. He did great on his GCSEs, too.

Merrow · 07/10/2024 10:01

Talk to the school. I was forced to write in cursive and it was just an absolute slog, one of the real benefits to me of secondary school was that they no longer cared!

However, I think there's quite rigid imposed things on primary school teachers in terms of how they're allowed to judge ability, and that might be a factor influencing them.

Catza · 07/10/2024 09:59

Probably best to check with the school. I mean, for SATS I wouldn't even worry about what marks he gets. It's a pointless test.
Cursive writing is faster and I remember practicing for hours when I was younger. I still write in cursive but, honestly, aside from being complemented on my "beautiful" handwriting in adulthood, it made very little difference to my life. 99% of the time, I type anyway.

Snowyslope · 07/10/2024 09:57

Definitely, I’m relieved to hear they don’t care about that at secondary. The primary would get so much more work out of him if they just let him write as he naturally would.

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MistyWater · 07/10/2024 09:57

Writing cursive is supposed to be quicker, if it is slowing him down there is no benefit to him.
As an adult I write semi-cursive (some letters joined, some not). Never in the “real world” has anyone’s ability to do their job been judged on whether they write cursive or not. The important thing is getting the information on the page in a legible manner.

Unfortunately, I don’t know how this is judge in SATs exams.

multicolouredbunting · 07/10/2024 09:49

I'm with you on not understanding the point of cursive. My son was badgered into writing cursive in primary, his work was unreadable and scruffy. He's now at seniors and writes how he likes. 🤷🏻‍♀️ strange thing for a school to waste time on in my opinion.