Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

What a charmer. Tell him he’s lucky he’s found one woman who will touch his horrible penis once a week never mind trying to add another (unfortunate) woman into the mix!

Talk about burying the lead! Some of the stuff you added at the end seems to be the much bigger issue…

He tells me he’s punching above his weight
He says I’m boring
He’s worse when he drinks
He talks about my friends
We have different sex drives - this actually seems so low on the list compared to the others.

Ditch him and enjoy your life. Better get off the train now that go all the way to Inverness and realise you still need to dump this loser anyway

Wow. So sorry that you've had to endure this and thought it was normal. It's not.
You can't go on accepting this.

Marriage doesn't mean you are obliged to have sex or engage in this. You are being emotionally abused and sexually harassed.

It is not normal and he is a fucking creep!

Why are you with this loser?

He's a twat. No it's not normal to disregard your partner's preferences for what to talk about and he's also a twat.

Let him go off an find someone else to pester if he's such a hunk.

Play him at his own game. When you’re doing the deed whisper in his ear…I bet your mate Rich has a massive cock, what I wouldn’t give to have a night with him. He’s a proper bloke. And if that postman Chris we sometimes have joined in, Christ I’d be in heaven.

He’s a creep

He sounds absolutely repulsive.
A nasty repulsive sex pest.
He is punching above him and he sounds abusive.

Call Womens aid for a chat.
Do you really want to remain married to such a sleazy creep?

Has he always been an arsehole? Not just about sex, but in general.

Ew.

Would talking about his friends put a stop to it, do you think?

‘Look, just for the record as it’s getting embarrassing. I’m not ‘punching.’ Quite the opposite, I don’t have a single friend who is even really ok with being in the same room as you. They feel sorry for me. They all find you creepy, unpleasant and rude. I would think most women would. Even if you were physically good looking the effect would be pretty much the same.’

You haven’t said you’re desperate to leave him but can’t so this isn’t even a “DH problem”. This is a “you” problem because you should really value yourself more than being with a man who tells you you’re punching above your weight and needs to fantasise about your friends while having sex with you. If you can sort out your own self esteem you will naturally sort out your perceived DH problem.

There's nothing normal about him.
What a big dirty lump of slime he is.
Seriously OP, it'll only get worse with this foul specimen.
If I was you I'd be look at my options to get away from him and starting today.
He's a pervert, and emotionally abusive too.
Imagine looking at your DW's friends as though they're lumps of sex-crazed meat, chomping at the bit to get to him?
Trying to goad you into playing along with the well-worn 'no-one will love you', 'you should be grateful' etc.
Don't listen to him OP, he's twisted, and he's trying to wear you down.
"Punching", my fucking arse!

He is disgusting.

I feel very sorry for your children. Not you, you're an adult and should be removing yourself and them from this relationship as soon as possible.

He tells you you're not deserving of him, tries to nag you into sexual contact you aren't happy with, and openly sexualises your friends?

Sorry, but he sounds fucking awful. And if you were a friend of mine and your husband were doing that to me, I'd be so skeeved out. He sounds really, really creepy, as well as disrespectful at a very fundamental level.

He sounds like an Andrew Tate wannabe. Zero actual respect for you on any level.

He sounds like an immature 15 year old. Gross.

Tuen the conversation around and start asking him what he'd do if Ross Didrickson (or some other young and fit man) turned up to give you a seeing to, and mention him standing in standing in the background with a limp dick whilst Ross did the business with you. Then laugh very loudly.

He tries to tell me it's normal to talk about your friends like this

No, it’s not. And I’m sure your friends would be disgusted if they knew. .
Start thinking about a single life and how peaceful it’d be. He’s just 🤢

It’s not normal and he sounds a vile, lecherous, pornsick creep. Has it ever occurred to him to try to be someone you’d like to sleep with? My fanny went on strike just reading about this.

I honestly don’t think this can be fixed. Lean on your friends and get ready to end this marriage. I bet there are things they haven’t told you yet. A friend of mine had a husband like this and he came on to her friends behind her back, I think I was the only one who told her.

Have you ever asked your friends why they don't seem to like him Op, I think if you did and asked them to be really honest you might hear some unfortunate things. You know he's very sex driven at home, I'd bet money he's at least made your friends uncomfortable. You need the full picture before you can deceide what to do next

He is a weirdo. Run.

I have a feeling you won't LTB so some practical advice:

• Flip it around and start talking about what he would do if his mates start coming on to you. I'm guessing you response is supposed to be how you would join in? So his should be the same, after all, his words "it's normal"

• start confessing that your deepest dark desires are things he would hate, watching him with his best friend, pegging them both etc etc a lot of men are going to find that a turn on but a guy like yours who wants to talk about female 3 somes I reckon isn't 😉 Be outrageous but of course legal. Remember to call him boring if he doesn't like it!

Mismatched sex drives are a nightmare and I can't advise as I have the same with my DH but he has not said the hurtful things your DH has said or forced fantasies on me. But in the real world where it's not so easy to tear your family apart, this is how I would handle it, let him experience the ick and shame.

Can't imagine WHY your friends don't like him 🙄

I don't think I could stay knowing he's knocking one out thinking about my mates

I agree in that I suspect this is ...not real but if it is then this is the point you draw a line in the sand and stop this mental and emotional abuse by leaving and divorcing this prince among men.

He is foul and every word would chip a bit more of me away. I would go before I was gone entirely.