Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

Only two posts OP, but my skin is crawling. He sounds utterly repugnant.

I wouldn't care if he looked like Brad Pitt, if I had to put up with this shite I'd find him the ugliest man alive.

Punching above your weight?! Fuck me. This cretin needs a punch to the nads. He's breaking you down so you give in to his lewd fantasies. What a piece of shit!

I would say anything to him, I'd save it for the divorce lawyer.

eugh…eugh…eugh

How dare he tell you you’re punching above your weight, what a creep!! You sound lovely, and I’m sure it’s the other way round, and by the looks of it, your friends have got the measure of him already!!

Have you checked your cellar and the garden for bodies, he gives me Fred West vibes, never mind the ick! Get rid of this loser

Tell him that your friends don't like him and wouldn't touch him with a barge pole.

If he has got worse over time I suspect he has a porn addiction. This is not normal and you deserve better. Time for a frank conversation about your future. Unless he owns this as a problem and is prepared to work on it you will become even unhappier. Definitely do not stay married if he is not going to change.

A Hoor maister at best and what's the betting he's nae exactly super hot himsel.

I’d have a low sex drive if I had to listen to that drivel too. Wouldn’t surprise me if it suddenly increased if you found yourself with someone who appreciated you either.

It's not normal. Very far from normal. Well into the realms of abnormal.

Leave him, he's a pig.

Alternatively start talking about HIS friends and how hot they are and what you'd do while dropping his sex life from weekly to never.

I don't shag stupid men. And you'd have to be completely thick to think, "she 's not as hot for me as she was. I know, I'll talk about shagging her mates in bed. Repeatedly, when told not to. That'll work".

Public service announcement for men: If you want more sex, do more of what the woman likes, not more of what she hates.

I'm not sure about that. He might be a creep or he might be frustrated in a sexually cold relationship. I suppose both might be better off away from each other though, if that's the case.

Yes, just this!!!! Hit the nail on the head

Have posted up thread somewhere that I went out with someone similar. Said he was just ‘speaking his truth’ and other men think the same - they are just too cowardly to say it. They are different to women who don’t have such thoughts.
At one point we were invited to a party with lots of his family, a bit old school where all the women sit together and all of the men stand at the bar.
An older auntie informed me that such and such a lad was attending, early 20’s, looks very much like an A lister young girls were mad about at the time.
The lad walks in, he’s about 23, he looks very much like the star and to be fair he was absolutely gorgeous.
I then sat for two hours while women at least not related to him, but grandmas and mums, went into huge detail about exactly what they’d like to do with this young man if they were 10/20/30/40 years younger.
They left no detail unsaid.
On the way home Pervy Partner started talking about yet another female friend.
And I did ask why he hadn’t told me about the Hollywood lookalike.
His reply? Oh nobody really notices.
I wanted to reply well your Auntie Shiela went into great detail about the bits she noticed and what she’d like to do with them.
I didn’t, but it made me feel better.
It is 20 years ago but just the thought of him makes me wince!

Oh good god that is the grossest thing I’ve ever heard. What on earth are you doing shagging a guy like that??? Where the fuck is your self respect? He’s rank, bin him and work on your self esteem, no one needs that kind of cockroach in their life.

lo, you could have condensed the entire post to "punching above your weight" and that would have been enough for your answer.

Omg that is not normal!! If my husband did that he'd out of his ear!

And blokes wonder why many women these days remain single or have the children they would like and then split- so many total sleazy pigs around

he's obviously already fantasising about it and masturbating over them.

he thinks as long as he imagines you're there he can fantasise about anything he wants. and in a way that's actually darker because god knows what he has you doing in his head.

Next time you have sex (If you can ever bring yourself too again) Scrunch your eyes tight shut, be a lot more vocal than usual, and when he thinks you are really into it fake a orgasm and shout out his bosses name at the moment of 'climax' .. after all, its normal to fantasize about other people right?

*and constantly mentions wanting a threesome (like everytime we do anything.)
Problem is it's not just famous people, he starts bringing up my friends. He'll ask what i would do if they suddenly came on to him and would he have to say no etc
I know he wouldn't actually do anything (and it's really not likely to happen in real life as none of my friends are his biggest fan anyway) but it's draining.
He says I'm boring and he's just doing it ti make things more exciting but I find it awkward and I don't want to talk about people I know that way

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight and would never find anyone else so this kind of talk doesn't really help*

Oh my God OP.

He's a slimy, self-important man who thinks he can do better than you. He's quite literally wiping his feet on your face by saying this.

Leave him whilst some of your self-esteem is still intact. He does not love you and he's not on your side.

Absolutely.

Leave him. He sounds like an absolute arse. No wonder your friends don’t like him

Start talking about his hot friends, bloke at the gym and school teacher.
Go into details of oral sex you cannot wait to perform on them while he watchs.

Obviously tell him he is boring for not enjoying your fantasies.