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Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

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Boredofitall88 · 06/10/2024 21:45

Dh and I have been together years, and it's becoming more and more apparent that we have widely different sex drives. I'm happy with once a week, I don't think he would be satisfied if we were doing it 2 or 3 times a day!

We also both work full time and have 2 young children (9 & 4)

One thing that constantly puts me off is he likes to talk about other people, what he would do if they were there and constantly mentions wanting a threesome (like everytime we do anything.)

Problem is it's not just famous people, he starts bringing up my friends. He'll ask what i would do if they suddenly came on to him and would he have to say no etc

I know he wouldn't actually do anything (and it's really not likely to happen in real life as none of my friends are his biggest fan anyway) but it's draining.

He says I'm boring and he's just doing it ti make things more exciting but I find it awkward and I don't want to talk about people I know that way

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight and would never find anyone else so this kind of talk doesn't really help

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FranceIsWhereItsAt · 06/10/2024 22:14

Yuck! What a loser he is! How on earth can you bare to have any sort of relationship with a man who puts you down like this, let alone a sexual one? Get rid OP, you and your kids are better off without an arsehole like this one!

Belowdecksy · 06/10/2024 22:12

Tell him you’re ending it because you can’t stop thinking about shagging his dad.

ObieJoyful · 06/10/2024 22:12

Next time he fantasises about one of your friends, tell him what she really thinks of him.

Seriously, this man is revolting. To tell someone you ‘love’ that they’re ’punching’ is the work of an absolute creep.

CandidClarisse · 06/10/2024 22:10

Recons he can do better?? Off he fucks then!

Seriously you don't need this shit in your life!

NameChange34690521478 · 06/10/2024 22:10

What a bellend! Get him in the bin, you are worth more than this shit

Dweetfidilove · 06/10/2024 22:10

Yuck, yuck, yuck!

I'm amazed you can have sex with him at all 😕.

Theonewhogotaway · 06/10/2024 22:09

Honestly, I’ve just read another thread where a woman didn’t make her young teen dinner, and wonders if she’s out of order. And now this. How are you even with such a creep? He’s clearly fantasising about your friends, doesn’t it give you the ick?

LL1991 · 06/10/2024 22:08

Sorry to say that but I’m sure you already know that this man is a dckhead! Telling you you are punching, come off it. She’s the mother of your two kids, have some fcking respect! Also, the ‘do I have to say no’ thing - yes, of course you do, you are married! That sounds to me like he’s setting up so he can flirt with your mates and then if he gets a vibe with someone he’s laid the groundwork to try to get you into a threesome.
If you didn’t have kids together I’d tell you to run for the hills, I still think that might be my advice 😬

Sugarysugar · 06/10/2024 22:07

What an odious man.
Why on earth are you still with him OP?

PermanentTemporary · 06/10/2024 22:07

If youte having regular sex with this prince you have an incredible sex drive. God, imagine someone who is supposed to love you telling you you're boring and not attractive enough for him. Where is the tenderness, where is the joy?

GingerPirate · 06/10/2024 22:04

😡🤢
Stupid bastard.

Crikeyalmighty · 06/10/2024 22:03

Blimey- I'm amazed you are still there - my H wouldn't see me fit dust if he started this kind of chat or put me down like that

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 06/10/2024 22:01

No no no no. Intolerable. I’d say stop or we’re over.

Awrite · 06/10/2024 22:01

And you find this man attractive enough to sleep with every week? Gads.

This man is a sleaze.

SummerVibes03 · 06/10/2024 22:01

I don't think this is about different sex drives OP. He is putting you down. Can you see that ?

IAmAFirestarter · 06/10/2024 22:00

This is so bad I am not sure I believe it's real.

If it's real... get fucking rid. No one should be with anyone who speaks to them like that.

Boleynforsoup · 06/10/2024 22:00

Gross. My ex husband was like this... made me want sex even less as he just grossed me out with this talk. He's been an ex for many years and I have a new partner now... miraculously my sex drive is remarkably higher now I'm not being subjected to this bullshit 😂

Scottishday · 06/10/2024 22:00

What a vile man.
Does he have any redeeming qualities?
If not what is stopping you leaving.

TiramisuThief · 06/10/2024 21:58

IamSmarticus · 06/10/2024 21:56

I can see why your friends are not his biggest fans tbh.

Yeah, this.

He's a creep. And he's the boring one, droning on about his predictable sexual fantasies. Urgh

Olika · 06/10/2024 21:58

Let him be free so he can go and try to make his stupid fantasies real. Makes me want to throw up all over him.

CatchHimDerry · 06/10/2024 21:58

In.The.Bin 🗑️

IsThePopeCatholic · 06/10/2024 21:57

pikkumyy77 · 06/10/2024 21:56

Ugh. Just ugh. He is telling you, in no uncertain terms, that you are not enough for him. He would absolutely cheat on you if he thought he could get away with it and emotionally he is cheating on you every minute with his stupid open fantasizing.

This. You’d be mad to stay with him.

PixelatedLunchbox · 06/10/2024 21:57

Wow. What a condescending pig he is 🐷. Why exactly are you putting up with this?

pikkumyy77 · 06/10/2024 21:56

Ugh. Just ugh. He is telling you, in no uncertain terms, that you are not enough for him. He would absolutely cheat on you if he thought he could get away with it and emotionally he is cheating on you every minute with his stupid open fantasizing.

IamSmarticus · 06/10/2024 21:56

I can see why your friends are not his biggest fans tbh.

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