Fed up of DH wanting to 'talk' about my friends

God! He sounds awful! I’m in the same situation as you in terms of my sex drive but my DH would never speak to me like that and suggest things that your DH is suggesting. It seems your DH has no boundaries and has no respect for you. It may be true that you are incompatible and maybe that will be the failing of your relationship moving forward but in spite of that your DH needs to wind his neck in and you need to make it clear to him that the way he speaks is hurtful and unacceptable. Has he always done this or is this a new thing? Do you think he is getting bored and starting to realise that he needs more in the relationship than you are willing to give?

A threesome is the ultimate fantasy for a lot of men but believe me if faced with the reality, they would run a mile!!!

Your DH obviously does not get his comments are driving you away. Please try not to let him lower your self esteem. It is now recognised that verbal abuse is as much a reason to site in divorce proceedings as physical. Having been in a similar situation myself I know splitting up from your spouse when you have young children is not the easy option that some people think it is but I would say you deserve so much better and life on the other side without him
would be a vast improvement!

I would be walking away, the comment punching above your weight is awful.

He also constantly tells me that he could better and that I'm punching above my weight

Before you leave him, please give him one last opportunity to say this to you, so you can laugh and tell him that you do enjoy sex. You just don’t enjoy sex with him because he’s not very good at it (which is true. Men who are good at sex don’t bore their partner talking about her friends) and that he’s living in a dream world if he thinks any of your friends would touch him with a ten foot pole, because they are way out of his league.

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Why are you with this ct, sorry to drop a C bomb

Cunt. Sorry to use the word cunt (though why you should be, I don't know).

Fixed it.
Mumsnet took your asterisks away. I left them in.

Oh my goodness! Get rid of him! Creepy,horrible,condescending pratt!
I'm sure you will be happier without him!

He sounds like such a creep 🤮 LTB

Sounds like hes got enough cheek for another arse! It makes me laugh when men have the audacity to tell their partners they could do better because 9/10 its simply false. If he’s so sure he could do better and find someone who can fulfill all his wants then why hasn’t he left? He sounds pathetic, he’s got a hand can’t he use it instead of pestering you? Honestly you deserve better!

Gosh, this can't be real. Are you honestly so desperate as to stay with someone like him? I suggest some counselling for yourself... big issues there, if you choose to be with someone who speaks and treats you this way. Disgusting.

Sex once a week is a “sexually cold relationship”?

I literally have no words.

None.

The bar is in hell.

OP looking at your last sentence - this man is emotionally abusive and you sadly probably cannot see that yet.

hesa pig an no its not normal

Is he for real?

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My vagina clamped shut reading that. No thanks.

I agree with everyone else - LTB

He sounds positively revolting.

And boring! It’s incredibly boring to go on about his predictable and unimaginative sexual fantasies, esp when you’ve told him not to. There’s nothing even remotely interesting about them.

I can’t imagine even wanting to do it with someone like this once, never mind once a week!

He’s repulsive. You deserve better. Your children will be affected by his atrocious values. LTB.

I could have written this myself!! All my ex DHs sex talk about wanting threesomes etc put me right off having sex with him AT ALL!! I ended up not even liking him!
Sex drive is back to fantastic now he’s gone!! 🤣

I’m sure, given his open-minded approach to bedroom discussion, that he’d be delighted to hear you graphically describe what you’d like to do to other men you fancy in your social circle while having sex with him. No? Ask him to explain why.

Then get a solicitor and divorce the prick. I’m dead serious - telling you that you’re ‘punching’ and eroding your sexual boundaries (you’re not consenting to hearing his ‘fantasies’ 🙄) are both abusive. He doesn’t care about you and you deserve better.

Once you leave, I suspect he’ll find that your friends (and any other women) aren’t exactly queuing out the door to have sex with this charmer…

Get rid, sounds creepy and repulsive

Why are you with this c**t, sorry to drop a C bomb but come on, he is emotionally manipulating you. He will never be happy, even if you were to do it 2-3 times a day, men like this will always find something to pin on you, you’ll never be good enough OP. For the sake of your mental sanity and for your kids, please don’t indulge this cretin any longer. He’s full of shit. Tell him you don’t have sex that often because he’s too small and doesn’t please you in that department. Tell him that as you drop kick him out of the door. Please leave, huge red flaggage here!!!

Ugh - deal breaker I’m afraid and it’s not going to get any better.

Tell him to fuck off & find someone on his own level.

Bet he's struggles

He sounds revolting. Next time he says, “Imagine if your friend, Olivia, was here”, pretend to think briefly, then breezily say that Olivia would run a mile as she finds him very unsexy. When he chooses another friend, do the same, and tell him you find his wanting to talk about friends very off-putting because it brings to mind the comments they’ve made about him.

And if he says you’re punching above your weight again, pretend to mishear him and agree that yes, that’s what your friends say about him - that he’s punching above his weight.

But really, you can do better than this loser.