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He called a wasp a moron at dinner

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:11

Ok, this isn't a serious thread exactly just a weird moment

So I was having dinner with my partner, a very nice outdoor meal. Very romantic and looking into each other's eyes etc.

Then a wasp came along and dropped into his wine. He responded by saying 'get out of there you moron' which caused the couple next to us of stop talking and stare at him then me. He then gave the wasp a small pep talk after rescuing it.

I felt embarrassed as I felt it was a really OTT response! I wanted to say was it really necessary to verbally abuse that wasp but seemed an odd thing to say...it just felt like a very angry response

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Gummybear23 · 06/10/2024 17:29

PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:28

Aha!

We're you given a reason why?

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Probably you.

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:28

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:28

I had diversity training a few weeks ago and we were told that moron was no longer acceptable.

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Aha!

We're you given a reason why?

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toopytoo · 06/10/2024 17:28

You were looking into each other's eyes? Were you talking, did you look away when cutting your food?

TheShellBeach · 06/10/2024 17:28

PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:14

It's tongue and cheek but in a way - it seemed am angry reaction.

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Tongue in cheek.

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:28

OneEdgySheep · 06/10/2024 17:26

That’s what moron means here too but on Mumsnet any phrase that has a history in a medical diagnosis is frowned upon.
In real life people use these words and very few people are offended - the only words that we don’t use are one beginning with S that describes stiff unusable muscles. And one beginning with R that refers to an IQ below a certain number. And to be honest there are probably plenty of people out there that still use those.

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I had diversity training a few weeks ago and we were told that moron was no longer acceptable.

Gummybear23 · 06/10/2024 17:27

PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:24

He yelled you moron! While gesticulating yes

But it was followed with a pep talk so maybe I'm being too harsh

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I think you are bonkers.

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:27

StarSlinger · 06/10/2024 17:23

Is that you Sharon? Only ye olde Mumsnetters will get this.

Does he T-Rex in Asda?

OneEdgySheep · 06/10/2024 17:26

steff13 · 06/10/2024 17:14

Rescuing it and then giving it a pep talk does not seem all that angry to me. I'm in the US so possibly the word has a different usage there than it does here but here "moron" just means someone who is stupid. Which landing in a glass of wine is, for a wasp.

That’s what moron means here too but on Mumsnet any phrase that has a history in a medical diagnosis is frowned upon.
In real life people use these words and very few people are offended - the only words that we don’t use are one beginning with S that describes stiff unusable muscles. And one beginning with R that refers to an IQ below a certain number. And to be honest there are probably plenty of people out there that still use those.

Skippydoodle · 06/10/2024 17:25

Me thinks you need to give your head a wobble. Your other half sounds lovely.

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:25

Catapultaway · 06/10/2024 17:22

You should definitely LTB and start dating the wasp instead, you sound a better match.

🙂

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:24

Toothpegs · 06/10/2024 17:24

Your boyfriend sounds hilarious, YABU

Yes he's a bit eccentric

Most of the time I don't mind, other times I just want a quiet under the radar meal

The wasp had other ideas

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leafybrew · 06/10/2024 17:24

Pah!

Get over yourself.

‘left me feeling weird’

whatever

ScaryHouse · 06/10/2024 17:24

StarSlinger · 06/10/2024 17:23

Is that you Sharon? Only ye olde Mumsnetters will get this.

Applause 😁

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:24

steff13 · 06/10/2024 17:21

So now he didn't just call a wasp a moron, but he was also yelling and cursing and gesticulating? 🤔

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He yelled you moron! While gesticulating yes

But it was followed with a pep talk so maybe I'm being too harsh

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Toothpegs · 06/10/2024 17:24

Your boyfriend sounds hilarious, YABU

kistanbul · 06/10/2024 17:23

Last time a wasp bothered me (last week in Eastern Europe) I shouted Fuck off you fucking motherfucker

StarSlinger · 06/10/2024 17:23

Is that you Sharon? Only ye olde Mumsnetters will get this.

Gummybear23 · 06/10/2024 17:23

PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:13

No!

My point was we were having a nice meal and him calling the wasp a moron caused other diners to look at him like he was mad. I was embarrassed

I think you are the problem.
Over analyzing everything.
Best you move on and give the partner a chance to escape.

Catapultaway · 06/10/2024 17:22

You should definitely LTB and start dating the wasp instead, you sound a better match.

steff13 · 06/10/2024 17:21

PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:18

The pep talk was nicer than the yelling and cursing I admit

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So now he didn't just call a wasp a moron, but he was also yelling and cursing and gesticulating? 🤔

Dontlletmedownbruce · 06/10/2024 17:21

I'd feel grateful. If you were with my DH he would scream like a little girl and run away from the table. If he did address the wasp personally it would be a lot more abusive than moron.

Pippa12 · 06/10/2024 17:21

Moron really isn’t a bad word- it’s not even a swear word, well certainly not in the north west!

StarSlinger · 06/10/2024 17:20

If the wasp was drunk from the wine I'm surprised it didn't try to have a fight with your DP.

thedingledanglefamalam · 06/10/2024 17:19

A wasp diving into a glass of liquid is a moron.

A partner who then gives the moron a pep talk instead of bludgeoning it to death sounds like a keeper.

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:19

Maybe a PP is right

Maybe the diners thought he was calling me a moron, hence the response

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