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He called a wasp a moron at dinner

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:11

Ok, this isn't a serious thread exactly just a weird moment

So I was having dinner with my partner, a very nice outdoor meal. Very romantic and looking into each other's eyes etc.

Then a wasp came along and dropped into his wine. He responded by saying 'get out of there you moron' which caused the couple next to us of stop talking and stare at him then me. He then gave the wasp a small pep talk after rescuing it.

I felt embarrassed as I felt it was a really OTT response! I wanted to say was it really necessary to verbally abuse that wasp but seemed an odd thing to say...it just felt like a very angry response

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LurkingFromTheShadows · 06/10/2024 17:45

😂😂😂

BunnyLake · 06/10/2024 17:45

DarkForces · 06/10/2024 17:44

I think anyone who gives a drunken wasp a pep talk is excellent marriage material

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It sounds sweet. He didn’t even say f*cking moron, which would have put me off a bit.

Thomasina79 · 06/10/2024 17:45

I hate wasps and am scared of them having been badly stung several times. I have called them worse words than that!

Mochudubh · 06/10/2024 17:45

Is his name Holden?

steff13 · 06/10/2024 17:44

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:40

My mistake, moron and idiot aren’t on the list, but cretin is. I can’t see why moron and idiot wouldn’t be as they are in the same bracket in my opinion.

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What are the words in blue? I don't see anything wrong with homosexual? I don't go around calling people names of any kind, but I don't see that as a "red flag" word.

Prescottdanni123 · 06/10/2024 17:44

I would have just laughed. Nothing OTT about it

DarkForces · 06/10/2024 17:44

I think anyone who gives a drunken wasp a pep talk is excellent marriage material

OneEdgySheep · 06/10/2024 17:44

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:40

My mistake, moron and idiot aren’t on the list, but cretin is. I can’t see why moron and idiot wouldn’t be as they are in the same bracket in my opinion.

The list is attached, flagged as sensitive.

Ooh I call myself a member of the god squad as do a lot of our church members.
We thought it made us appeal to the younger church goers. Ooops

BunnyLake · 06/10/2024 17:43

OneEdgySheep · 06/10/2024 17:40

It’s an odd stance to take I think.

Language changes a lot over time and I would wager if you asked the majority of people what the meaning of these words was they would be very surprised to hear they were previously a medical diagnosis.

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Are we not allowed to say ‘it’s bedlam in here’ anymore either? I still say idiot, moron and lunatic. Not on a regular basis but every now and then. I’m not going to stop saying them.

DarkForces · 06/10/2024 17:43

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:40

My mistake, moron and idiot aren’t on the list, but cretin is. I can’t see why moron and idiot wouldn’t be as they are in the same bracket in my opinion.

The list is attached, flagged as sensitive.

On what planet is homosexual an insult? 🤦🏽‍♀️

DerekFaker · 06/10/2024 17:43

I would have laughed.

Perhaps the other people didn't realise what he was talking to?

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:43

PennyCrayon1 · 06/10/2024 17:43

It gave you the ick. That’s all. It would probably give me the ick too.

Think so.

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Puddlewoman · 06/10/2024 17:43

You have the ick it's irreversable im afraid. Nothing for it now but to end the relationship, better luck next time.

PennyCrayon1 · 06/10/2024 17:43

It gave you the ick. That’s all. It would probably give me the ick too.

user98786 · 06/10/2024 17:42

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:40

My mistake, moron and idiot aren’t on the list, but cretin is. I can’t see why moron and idiot wouldn’t be as they are in the same bracket in my opinion.

The list is attached, flagged as sensitive.

As always, it's the intent, not the actual words

Hereforaglance · 06/10/2024 17:41

Stop serious i howling here

OutbackQueen · 06/10/2024 17:41

I have a friend who constantly calls her dog a wanker. It’s daft attributing human “qualities” to animals.

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:40

My mistake, moron and idiot aren’t on the list, but cretin is. I can’t see why moron and idiot wouldn’t be as they are in the same bracket in my opinion.

The list is attached, flagged as sensitive.

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He called a wasp a moron at dinner
CherryDrops89 · 06/10/2024 17:40

was it really necessary to verbally abuse a wasp

This is really making me laugh 😂

ShittyTitty · 06/10/2024 17:40

I would have called the wasp a cunt.

Probably best if we aren't friends.

OneEdgySheep · 06/10/2024 17:40

BiscuitlyBoyle · 06/10/2024 17:37

Yep. Same for idiot and lunatic. Also cretin. The reason being that these were medical terms that have become misused.

I can’t see who would be offended myself

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It’s an odd stance to take I think.

Language changes a lot over time and I would wager if you asked the majority of people what the meaning of these words was they would be very surprised to hear they were previously a medical diagnosis.

usernother · 06/10/2024 17:40

I'd think that was really funny. Especially the pep talk.

5foot5 · 06/10/2024 17:39

PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:14

It's tongue and cheek but in a way - it seemed am angry reaction.

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I think an angry reaction to a wasp in your wine is perfectly understandable. I would have been tempted to call it some far worse things than moron.

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:39

Tophelleborine · 06/10/2024 17:38

I'd be amused by this, but I'm also verbally (not physically) abusive to insects from time to time.

My friend once called a bramble patch a cunt, which made me laugh my head off.

Ok that is quite funny

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PrueHal · 06/10/2024 17:38

Whothefuckdoesthat · 06/10/2024 17:36

I’m struggling a bit to see what left you with a weird feeling about it. Was it that he called the wasp a name? Or that he attracted the attention of someone on a different table? Did you feel that he was too aggressive for you? Or did you feel embarrassed that someone might have been judging him as being a bit odd?

I think he sounds quite fun. If any part of you is feeling embarrassed about his basic personality, do you think you might be better suited to someone a bit more…. beige?

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The truth is that I didn't date for ages after my last relationship because I found most men TOO beige

Then I met him and found him quite exciting and eccentric. I just sometimes wish he'd be 10% beige because I don't always like to attract attention.

I can't build a boyfriend so I probably need to accept it.

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