He called a wasp a moron at dinner

My thoughts too

It's ok, we've all been there and done that :)

Omg really? It was my favourite inoffensive word, especially driving. When the kids were younger, if someone was being very annoying on the road, they'd say " Mam, is that person being a moron" that's when I realised how much I said it 😂

Like I said....don't always think you know what others are thinking, I would be thinking that I'd not be thrilled either if a wasp fell into my restaurant wine!

It must be a bit frustrating for it, I mean bees are virtually worshipped, everyone thinks the sun shines out of their arse.

Don't worry about what others around you think.
If a wasp or any other insect, had fallen into my drink I would have sworn, as 'moron' isn't something I usually think of to say, so it might have sounded worse to stranger's ears if he'd sworn in an angry tone!
Did you think that those listening were thinking he angrily meant YOU were a moron?
He rescued the wasp ( well I suppose, what else could he do)?
I would have too, and wished it well, as I would have too LOL.
All good!

Wonder if bf is posting somewhere about @PrueHal asking if he should dump her for over reacting to him calling a wasp a moron before rescuing it and giving it a pep talk.

Odd that you are focusing on his initial response to the insect in his wine more than the fact he saved the insect and talked to it.

Have called brambles many sweary words and actually did call a spider a twat for crawling directly back into the bath from which I just rescued it (put it on the floor the 2nd time)

I verbally abused a wasp only yesterday. I spent 10 minutes trying to herd it out of the open back door, after which I told it it was the stupidest wasp I’d ever seen and to stop being a twat… suddenly it flew to the door an buzzed off.

Wtf did I just read 🤣

"get the fuck out of here you fucking cunt you"

Is what I said to the fly that refused to fly out the door I was holding open for the fucking idiot...
Buzzy twatting twat.

I should find him an apologise for verbally assaulting him I my efforts to release him from my kitchen.

#StopVerballyAssaultingInsects.
#InsectsHaveFeelingsToo
#EmotionalSupportSpanielsForBees

I tell them to fuck off if they come in the door next to my desk..

And so far, 100% of the time, they do. I assume it because the first thing they meet is me making a big noise at them, not that they understand the concept of 'fuck off'.

I did it in a cafe the other day (fortunately empty except staff, me and DP). Much astonishment that a/I talk to wasps and b/ it did fuck off, about turned and flew straight back out the way it came in.

I didn't mean to... obviously, I just forgot where I was for a moment. The waitress said 'er are you some sort of wasp whisperer' and I said 'no no, whispering is no good you HAVE to be firm with them!'...

Can confirm, does not work on hornets :( They just tell me to shut up and get back under my safety duvet or else.

I'd have called the wasp and absolute cunt!
He sounds exceptionally restrained.
Surely it could've been made light-hearted with the other couple. Unless they're that sour and miserable. In which case who cares what they thought.

I wouldn't think anything of it. It's the kind of thing I would do.

I agree that the reason other diners reacted was because they thought he was talking to a person rather than a wasp.

I do kinda get where you're coming from I think because DH has a habit of saying angrily "BASTARD!" and more recently "ASSHOLE" whenever something goes even slightly wrong. Most of the time I find it a complete overreaction and I dislike the aggressive tone. He's an otherwise good guy though and he's not going to stop doing it so I try and ignore it.

If you're worried about about the word "moron", it would only be perceived as awful if he said it to a person, so as long as he's not doing that I think you're fine. He did rescue it after all.

I would find this hilarious!

OP question - if the other people hadn’t looked and the restaurant was empty how would you have felt? Is this more about how other people perceive you both rather than the actual situation?

If the wasp was so upset at such unkind language, I’m surprised it didn’t sting him after he fished it out.

They probably thought he was saying it to you.

No, you can’t build a boyfriend. But there is a happy medium between someone boring the face off you and someone else showing you up on a regular basis. I think the example you’ve given does make you sound a bit bonkers because it’s not particularly extreme, but in the same way that being bored by your partner isn’t a good thing, being embarrassed by him isn’t a good thing either.

He’s not likely to change, so the question you should ask yourself is whether you can either adjust your attitude to not care what anyone else thinks, or you can cope with him embarrassing you every now and again without you starting to resent him for it.

I actually love the idea of your DP calling the wasp a moron then giving it a pep talk 😂this would have made me laugh (in a good way) if I saw this happen at another table while eating

Moron is very tame. I absolutely hate wasps. He was very tame