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What life advice do you give your DC’s when they are teens ?

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Munichfam5 · 06/10/2024 08:30

A friend said they tell their kids ‘not to get married before they are 30..,’

I guess it’s personal, but I was wondering what other things people say to / advise their DC’s

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Redlettuce · 06/10/2024 08:47

Munichfam5 · 06/10/2024 08:30

A friend said they tell their kids ‘not to get married before they are 30..,’

I guess it’s personal, but I was wondering what other things people say to / advise their DC’s

I personally think that's judgemental and unhelpful. I got married in my early 20s had kids by my late 20s. I'm still happily married 25 years later. Horses for courses surely.

Violetparis · 06/10/2024 08:46

Don't take shit from anyone.
Don't compare yourself/life to others on social media.

piscofrisco · 06/10/2024 08:43

That not everyone is going to like you and that's ok.

And don't make someone a priority when to them you are only an option.

I don't want them to be extreme people pleasers like me basically.

Beezknees · 06/10/2024 08:42

bergamotorange · 06/10/2024 08:40

That luck is generally created not pure chance. This is high stakes as it isn't true and hits people hard when they do have bad luck.

I think 'luck is out of our control, all we can do is try hard to give ourselves the best chance' is more protective against future bad luck impacts on mental health/self esteem.

Agreed, some people absolutely are born with more privilege than others, how you come into the world IS pure luck and can impact a child's future.

Beezknees · 06/10/2024 08:41

I only have a DS.

Main things are to have a strong work ethic no matter what career he chooses, always practise safe sex, and that housework and childcare are not just women's work.

bergamotorange · 06/10/2024 08:40

That luck is generally created not pure chance. This is high stakes as it isn't true and hits people hard when they do have bad luck.

I think 'luck is out of our control, all we can do is try hard to give ourselves the best chance' is more protective against future bad luck impacts on mental health/self esteem.

JMSA · 06/10/2024 08:39

To choose the father of their children (I have daughters) VERY carefully, because it links you for life.

Of course I've also given them the message that it's absolutely fine not to have kids!

Pipecleanerrevival · 06/10/2024 08:39

That most people are too worried about themselves to be thinking things about you.

Meadowfinch · 06/10/2024 08:38

Avoid credit until you want a mortgage
Choose something you enjoy as a career
Do the best you can, and take satisfaction from it.
Use a condom
Drugs are a guaranteed route to unhappiness

FuckThePoPo · 06/10/2024 08:38

That not every thought in your head has to come out of your mouth

that porn is like an action film - not real life

that you will always have rules to follow even if you don't agree with them

bergamotorange · 06/10/2024 08:37

Nothing like that. They are entitled to do what they want. Plus what teens are dealing with is school, exams, social life, choices, first relationships.

Your friend is projecting unhealthily.

I focus on values and support.

JMSA · 06/10/2024 08:37

DustyLee123 · 06/10/2024 08:35

My kids don’t listen to my advice, they already know everything.

Grin
DustyLee123 · 06/10/2024 08:35

My kids don’t listen to my advice, they already know everything.

Moonshiners · 06/10/2024 08:35

To remember that these are definitely NOT the "best days of your life". But that you get much more confident and happier when older.
That porn is not real sex and it is damaging.
To take most (safe) opportunities offered and see what happens.
That luck is generally created not pure chance.

Thepeopleversuswork · 06/10/2024 08:35

A friend said they tell their kids ‘not to get married before they are 30..,’

Totally agree with this. That’s probably the best piece of advice my mum ever gave me.

A better piece of advice would probably have been “don’t get married at all”.

I think for girls the message has to be around self reliance really. Being able to fend for yourself financially and in other ways. Avoiding rushing into dependency on another person.

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