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To be shocked at this non-attendance by the police?

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JMSA · 06/10/2024 01:05

Last weekend, as I was making my way home from a dog walk, a man fell to the pavement in front of me. I rushed over to help him get back to his feet and it quickly became apparent that he was blind drunk. No sooner had I helped him up than he was face-planting the pavement again. He had his 7 year old child with him. The child shut down completely, and wouldn't look at me or talk to me. Obviously a trauma response. But he didn't look shocked.
I phoned the police, saying that I had a welfare concern about the child. They replied that they'd marked it as a priority but couldn't say when they'd get someone out. They were busy. They asked me to phone them back if the man became violent towards his child Confused
I stayed with them because I work with vulnerable kids and couldn't in good conscience walk away.
The man sat on a step trying to phone a taxi, but was too drunk to use his phone. He started getting tetchy with his son, because he expected him to phone the taxi! Son started feeling a bit more comfortable with me. I had some sweets in my bag which he enjoyed, and he showed off his jumping skills. Over an hour passed and the man stood up and declared himself able to walk home. He literally staggered home with his son. I followed at a distance to make sure they got in ok.
The police phoned me later for a statement.
I'm not naive and I know they're stretched, but bloody hell ... the poor kid Sad

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JMSA · 06/10/2024 01:20

As he was breathing, wasn't bleeding, was chatting (albeit completely slurring his words).

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JMSA · 06/10/2024 01:19

JC03745 · 06/10/2024 01:16

If I saw someone face plant on the pavement, not once, but twice- I would have called an ambulance! If the person agreed to go to A&E, at least the child would be in a place which is deemed 'safe'. I'd be far more concerned about a child going home with this man- who sounds like he would have a head injury and could potentially deteriorate overnight!

I assume you got as many details for the child as possible to make a SS report yourself? It must have been awful OP.

The ambulance service was my first port of call. I was told it was a police matter.

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JC03745 · 06/10/2024 01:16

If I saw someone face plant on the pavement, not once, but twice- I would have called an ambulance! If the person agreed to go to A&E, at least the child would be in a place which is deemed 'safe'. I'd be far more concerned about a child going home with this man- who sounds like he would have a head injury and could potentially deteriorate overnight!

I assume you got as many details for the child as possible to make a SS report yourself? It must have been awful OP.

MonsteraMama · 06/10/2024 01:09

Aaah the poor wee mite.

If you followed them home and saw their house I'd report to SS. They're as swamped as the police too but they might get to it, stop the poor thing slipping through the cracks like so many do. Thank you, for trying to look out for him.

JMSA · 06/10/2024 01:08

Yes, I did that too. The police did attend the address much later (they phoned to let me know).

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sixnearlyseven · 06/10/2024 01:07

If you saw them enter an address , report to social services