To think your partner doesn’t need to make you laugh all the time?

It was not being on the same wavelength that struck me too.

It's not a dealbreaker for everyone; you just need to figure out if it's a dealbreaker for you. For me, I don't think it would be, but I am very easily amused and find things to laugh about everywhere. If you're funny and your friends are funny, maybe there's enough genuine humor in your life that it's OK if that's not a major way you connect with your partner. OTOH, if he's putting a damper on your own enjoyment by his reaction, censoring your jokes or making you feel like you're being inappropriate or immature or something, or just generally making it awkward that the two of you are on different wavelengths in terms of senses of humor, that's probably a control issue or a bigger sign of incompatibility which will likely grow over time.

DH and I laugh every day, even more so in the dark times. I don’t know how we’d have got through them without that connection. Nearly 20 years for us.

I think having the same sense of humour is incredibly important. More than many other qualities.

I think it depends on what you mean exactly.
Make you laugh = tell jokes, acts the fool ?
Laugh with = daft saying / traits that only both / family understands
Same humour = both like the same sitcoms / stand up/ practical jokes

I hate practical jokes, I dont care how much I was attracted to a person if they played a practical joke on me or someone I knew didn't like this kind of thing they would be booted to the kerb very quickly

My favourite thing about my husband is that we belly laugh together so often

Why would you think you your friends reactions are important?

It's superfluous. If you get on then go with the flow
It's your relationship isn't it? And maybe you will sync later

In my wedding speech I mentioned that DH made me laugh every day. About 10 years and a couple of children later a (male) friend of his asked me if that was still the case and I said absolutely. He looked a bit sad and said he couldn’t remember the last time he’d made his wife laugh.

We’ve been married 20 years now and still make each other laugh almost every day. It really helps get you through difficult times. It’s an important connection. Not the only one, but an important one. Have you ever said something funny and the other person just smiled weakly or worse looked at you blankly? I wouldn’t want to experience that regularly with a partner.

I don't think your friends are saying the only important thing is for a man to make you laugh and it's fine if they're shit in other ways. It's possible for a man to be on the same wavelength humourwise and good in other ways too. Obviously it's up to you if you don't mind not being on the same wavelength.

Nah, being able to make me laugh is a deal breaker for me.

Why are the only options "shit boyfriend who makes me laugh" or "good boyfriend that I'm not on the same wavelength with"?

Why not "good boyfriend who makes me laugh"?

Idk. I've been through some of the bleakest, darkest times of my life with my husband. The fact that I can still ugly-cry-laugh with him after 18 years together is somehow more important than being able to ugly-cry-laugh with my pals (which I also do).

But it doesn't really matter what I or your friends think, you decide what's important to you in a relationship. If laughter isn't high on your list then who cares?

My husband does occasionally but he has other great qualities that have been working for over 25 years to me it works or not there is no tick box thing that means it will happen

I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t make me laugh.

Life is hard enough. You need someone who can make you laugh.