Do your parents or in laws have a favourite/golden child?

Oh my mother definitely did/does, she and I are nc now.

Growing up it would be if I did something stupid it was my fault entirely, if my brother (golden balls) did something stupid it was my fault too.

I smoked weed when I was 13, so when golden balls became addicted to heroin it was, naturally, my fault. I got caught shoplifting chocolate when I was 12 (and starving because my mother didn't feed me) and I was the most stupid idiot going, golden balls literally robbed a shop as an adult, obviously my fault. Even after my son died everything that golden balls did (going to jail, assaulting his girlfriend, robbing my mother) all my fault because I "couldn't keep my son alive".

Even now we have been nc for over 20 years I still get blamed for things, one if his girlfriends reported him for DV, clearly my fault for getting in her ear (never met her, don't know who she is), SS became involved with his dc, must have been me anonymously reporting it to be evil.

My mother definitely has a favourite, and it isn't me.

Neither me or my husband is the favourite but we both had/have parents who loved us.

Sometimes it stings though.

Well.. I'm an only child and still not mum's favourite.

Yes most definitely happens. I had an auntie sit me down and say that my mum would never love me, she only loves my brother. That was like a hit in the chest, I was about 13 years old at the time. A few days ago I had a dream of a deceased relative who said yes your mum does have a favourite, your brother. DH complains of the same. I won't go into it but it's very obvious. The lengths they go to help them while pretending we don't exist. My mum will text my kids and ignore me lol. It's batshit crazy.

Edit to add that I think we come out ok. Apparently it's worse in the long run for the golden child. The scapegoat is free.

I left a similar post a while ago OP. You are right in my opinion.
I am the least favourite.
My mother adores my brother. He is the Prince in the family and she won't hear a bad word said against him. My sister is the little fragile princess who gets spoilt and treated thoughtfully.
I am the scapegoat and disappointment.
This is why I distance myself from them all as much as I can.
I think it is disgusting to show favouritism in such a way and it will impact me for the rest of my life.