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To be annoyed at my friend for arranging drinks with strangers on holiday

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Sundaycoffee · 05/10/2024 18:14

On holiday at an AI resort with a friend.
We had a brief chat with a couple of ladies in the lift yesterday when we arrived, who happened to be a few doors down from our hotel room.
My friend came back from the pool bar today to say she had bumped into them again and told them we would be at the bar for 7pm tonight if they would like to join us for a cocktail.
I'm not one for making "friends" on holiday and found it a bit rude and presumptuous that my friend had just made these arrangements without having any kind of conversation with me first...AIBU?

OP posts:
MiddleParking · 05/10/2024 18:22

You don’t own your friend.

BabyR · 05/10/2024 18:22

Yabu and antisocial.

Huntcole · 05/10/2024 18:21

Holiday rules apply. You talk to random people as if they're your besties.

4405cd · 05/10/2024 18:21

Nothing ventured etc You might actually enjoy their company .

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Sundaycoffee · 05/10/2024 18:19

Sirzy · 05/10/2024 18:16

Then say “thanks for the invite but I would rather not”

She can’t force you to make friends but at the same time you can’t stop her.

Yeah I get this, but the alternative would be sitting in my hotel room on my own which I didn't want to be doing. I want to go to the bar on holiday and have a drink. So what, I just sit at a separate table on my own several feet away from them? So I almost feel like my choices are fairly limited!

OP posts:
Leeds2 · 05/10/2024 18:19

It would annoy me. But I don’t actually think your friend is being unreasonable either.

Funkyslippers · 05/10/2024 18:18

takealettermsjones · 05/10/2024 18:18

It's one cocktail 🤷🏻‍♀️ doesn't seem like such a big deal imo. She's not signed you up for a time share.

I highly doubt it would be one cocktail!

Doggymummar · 05/10/2024 18:18

Dint go then. You're not joined at the hip,

Funkyslippers · 05/10/2024 18:18

I'd go along as a one off but if you don't fancy it again make it clear to your friend to check with you first. It is a bit rude of her. She must know you & how you might feel

takealettermsjones · 05/10/2024 18:18

It's one cocktail 🤷🏻‍♀️ doesn't seem like such a big deal imo. She's not signed you up for a time share.

Hatty65 · 05/10/2024 18:17

You're probably not, no.

But I'm your friend - I'd have cheerily invited strangers along for the evening.

coxesorangepippin · 05/10/2024 18:16

Could be a laugh?

Sirzy · 05/10/2024 18:16

Then say “thanks for the invite but I would rather not”

She can’t force you to make friends but at the same time you can’t stop her.

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