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All the males in my house wander around in their pants.

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PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 15:51

I am getting tired of it, particularly now that my sons have hit puberty, so I have mandated that all human inhabitants must wear a minimum of shorts. We have no daughters so I am the lone voice here. The boys are complaining bitterly. Husband is neutral but says he understands my feelings.
AIBU 😂

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ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 19:35

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 19:29

Eh when they wear boxers or pants not naked. Honestly, it's a human body.

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Yeah, I'd rather not see my 13 year olds hairy arse crack , don't think that makes me the weird one

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 19:29

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 19:00

I'd rather not see his hairy arse crack tbh he's not a toddler anymore. I don't think it hurts to put a pair of shorts on

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Eh when they wear boxers or pants not naked. Honestly, it's a human body.

jannier · 05/10/2024 19:28

BrimfulofSasha · 05/10/2024 19:24

if you’re not expecting company why are you so upset? I painted my home office this afternoon in just my pants and an old sports bra. I didn’t want to ruin clothing and skin washes easier than fabric. Pants isn’t naked. And not dirty either assuming they change them daily

Did you read about the holes in the pant, bollock grabbing and sumo experience....sorry they are delighting in making a woman uncomfortable it's giving them a power.

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 19:24

PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 19:16

Indeed, the cute bare bums phase has definitely passed!!

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Exactly!

BrimfulofSasha · 05/10/2024 19:24

if you’re not expecting company why are you so upset? I painted my home office this afternoon in just my pants and an old sports bra. I didn’t want to ruin clothing and skin washes easier than fabric. Pants isn’t naked. And not dirty either assuming they change them daily

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PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 19:20

This isn't a dripfeed I promise - I think I was just blotting it out! Ds1 has a tendency to put his hands down his pants legs (for want of a better word) and hoick the whole lot up so it looks like Borat's mankini. He also routinely tucks the rear side of his pants into his bum crease sumo wrestler style and bends over. This is entirely intentional and is part of what has driven me to the edge....

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PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 19:16

ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 19:00

I'd rather not see his hairy arse crack tbh he's not a toddler anymore. I don't think it hurts to put a pair of shorts on

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Indeed, the cute bare bums phase has definitely passed!!

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ToNiceWithSpice · 05/10/2024 19:00

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 18:25

I don't see the issue if they have boxers on. It's their home, why would a mother be bothered by their children's bodies 🤷‍♀️

I'd rather not see his hairy arse crack tbh he's not a toddler anymore. I don't think it hurts to put a pair of shorts on

Marblesbackagain · 05/10/2024 18:25

I don't see the issue if they have boxers on. It's their home, why would a mother be bothered by their children's bodies 🤷‍♀️

MagdaLenor · 05/10/2024 18:25

AboutVattime · 05/10/2024 17:30

I think boxers are just fine no problem with that .. Y fronts would make me feel ill..

My neighbour (v good friend) had 3 boys and a DH... I would often pop over in the evening to see her when my kids were in bed .. and all three boys plus DH would be sprawled across sofas vegged out watching TV - each one with their hands down their pants .. she would bemoan. 'this is what I live with ' .. my favourite line to the assembled semi comatose gathering of glorious manhood was ' have you all lost your car keys ' 🤣

How very unpleasant. They couldn't even modify their behaviour when someone came round.

CurlewKate · 05/10/2024 18:15

Mine were allowed to sit in their pants in their bedrooms (of course!) but top and bottoms in communal areas. Pyjamas fine. Track bottoms and hoodie fine. Shorts and T shirt fine.

Before anyone says-of course pants were fine for a trip from bedroom to bathroom and back.

AboutVattime · 05/10/2024 17:30

I think boxers are just fine no problem with that .. Y fronts would make me feel ill..

My neighbour (v good friend) had 3 boys and a DH... I would often pop over in the evening to see her when my kids were in bed .. and all three boys plus DH would be sprawled across sofas vegged out watching TV - each one with their hands down their pants .. she would bemoan. 'this is what I live with ' .. my favourite line to the assembled semi comatose gathering of glorious manhood was ' have you all lost your car keys ' 🤣

Gwenhwyfar · 05/10/2024 17:28

FawnFrenchieMum · 05/10/2024 16:38

Not really any different to swimming trunks on the beach / round the pool but if your not ok then asking them to wear shorts isn’t unreasonable.

She's not at the beach though is she?

Gwenhwyfar · 05/10/2024 17:26

turkeyboots · 05/10/2024 15:54

Turn down/off the heating and buy them a oddie. DS lives in his.

As men tend to feel the cold less, it will be OP who suffers from this (unless having hot flushes maybe).

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PrettyParrot · 05/10/2024 17:24

A pretty wide range of opinions then!

A few answers:

  • They started doing this at the age of 4 or so - I have only been bothered by it recently, with the advent of pants with holes on the front. I don't need to see your bits thank you!
  • Our house is not warm. God only knows how they are not hypothermic.
  • They have oodies but tend to only wear them sporadically.
  • I tried to demonstrate my point by doing a round of the house in bra and pants. 13yo almost vomited, 12yo was clearly somewhat fascinated, DH amused. Not a long term option as I would freeze to death.

This is not a major source of distress to me, it's just mildly irritating. We have had steady battles over the years to reach the (to my mind) extremely lax status quo of 'wear pants when sitting on the sofa' and ' no dinner until you are wearing at minimum a tshirt and pants' 😂😂

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Notellinganyone · 05/10/2024 17:22

In our household we all wander round in our pants. Depends what you’re comfortable with.

SonicTheHodgeheg · 05/10/2024 17:20

I agree with you. Topless is fine but I expect shorts rather than boxers.

user47 · 05/10/2024 17:17

I also wander round in my pants, we are all a disgrace, frankly. No bare bums on the sofa is a hard rule thou.

NavyTiger · 05/10/2024 17:16

I dont see the issue i have 3 boys 15 16 21 and they all wander around in boxers its their home

Hatty65 · 05/10/2024 17:16

Wouldn't happen here.

You're lucky if you can take your duffel coat off indoors. Teenage son tends to come down for breakfast in pjs, hooded dressing gown and draped in a furry throw.

No heating on yet.

Pat888 · 05/10/2024 17:13

You should join them - knickers and no bra - 😂😂👍

Zebedee999 · 05/10/2024 17:12

I had a friend whose teenage son (16 ish) used to walk around naked whilst I was there. His mother thought it odd.... me even moreso! The son was non-plussed chatting whilst completely starkers.

bittertwisted · 05/10/2024 17:03

Why is it grim?
Boys who you gave birth to and there is an issue with them being in pants?
Really couldn't care less, mother of 3 boys

ZiriForGood · 05/10/2024 17:02

What's the issue? Underwear is clothes and it is sad if they can't just be comfortable at home.

mitogoshigg · 05/10/2024 16:57

Not sure what's wrong with boxers and a t shirt? Anyway we tend to dress if the kids are around as they are young ladies and it's a blended family situation but if they aren't around (in theory both moved out) I happily wander around with nothing on myself though tend to wear clothes as I'm mean with the thermostat! In warmer months I often only have a short beach dress and pants on which i would not dream of going out in

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