To think that the middle classes are liars and actors?

So you think 'working class made good' should stay in their lane and remain working class and how very dare they enter certain professions.

Ok.

Yes it can.
It's like when you move to a different country you end up picking up a local accent, dressing like locals, taking part in local activities and so on. You pick it up and absorb it without intending to change yourself. It just happens.

It's not performing or acting. You absorb the ways of your social circles and work circles if you are in it long enough.

It's surely not so difficult to understand.

A welder? Oh the shame! Worked in steel! I feel quite faint.

But sailing and skiing are really fun things to do - why would you assume he wasn't genuine in liking them?

Is social mobility not allowed any more? I celebrate people who have come from a disadvantaged background and done really well in life, often against the odds. In fact I respect those people much more than those with the silver spoon.
I'm suspecting you are MC and had a fall from grace and are struggling with it

I think this is about you OP - you’re seeing middle class “markers” and you’re making assumptions aabout bout the background of those people. You then feel affronted when the reality doesn’t match the fiction you’ve created. I don’t really know what the parents of my friends did because I haven’t done a deep dive on their backgrounds. Why do you think you felt compelled to snoop? What were you trying to prove ?

Not quite sure what you think those of us who are from working class backgrounds but are members of historically middle class professions are supposed to do?
Should I go into work wearing a flat cap and carrying a whippet just to warn patients in advance that I am an "actor" and not a bona fide middle class doctor?
If asked I make absolutely no secret of where I'm from or what kind of school I went to, I'm not ashamed of that, but I don't feel the need to tell random people my family history.
I live in a similar house, drive a similar car and have a similar lifestyle to my colleague who comes from a long line of doctors, went to a minor public school and would probably be considered "proper" middle class but the OP. And why wouldn't I - we have the same salary! My parents and grandparents were not well off and my great grandparents were illiterate. So what? I've worked hard, earned well and spent my money on "middle class" things like a nice house and I'm just as entitled to do so as anyone else. Do you actually think social mobility is a bad thing OP??

Oh so you're upset because these people you've been admiring are just the children of builders when it's only the long-established middle class who deserve your admiration.

Oh I hate when this happens. Apparently the Prince of wales is married to the granddaughter of a coal miner. Will
Someone please think of the bloodline

Her father was a welder you say! <Swoons onto fainting couch and fans self with Waitrose magazine>

lol.

Calm down, Hyacinth.

You snooped around until you found out what your acquaintance’s husband’s father did for a living.

How… unusual.

Yes of course things aren't as they seem in a society of human beings.
Every time someone wears makeup or dos their hair to try to enhance their appearance , or wears their best suit to a job interview to look polished, or buys a fancy car that they will enjoy showing off, they are deliberately trying to manipulate their image in the eyes of the world. This is done within social classes and groups too, not just middle class ones. It's part of life.

Well firstly - yes of course it can. Secondly - everybody chooses to a certain extent how to present themselves. Finally, most people's manner, look, interests etc are a bit of a mixture of classes and types. It's not somehow 'cheating' to aspire to, or adopt, a certain lifestyle or attitude. What a strange OP.

Accent and manners are much stronger class markers than any of the other things you mention like career, owning property, liking arts.

Lots of middle class people have local accents but they would tend to be mild. If you want to pass as UMC, you need to speak with a mild accent or RP and learn the manners to accompany.... I wouldn't call that snobbery though. Snobbery is judging someone else on their perceived class - not changing your own

Dahling, all the world's a stage and each must play his part.... according to the magickal laws that govern the Universe we create our own realities and how we present ourselves is part of the game. I for example am a witch, dress like one and am poor as a church mouse but you'd never guess from my vocabulary and posture,and totally classless to boot so take that as you will.... once you have nibbled a few fungi you'll be in on the joke and the clenching won't be so painful........😘 🍄 🎩 🪄 🔮 ✨️ 🎱

Hmm. My parents were immigrants who didn’t have much money, nor were they highly educated.

I live in an expensive part of London, nice holidays, and own a lovely home. My children are, I would say, are pretty privileged.

What am I faking? Should I have not tried to earn money? Should I have stayed in my box?

This is going to shock you OP but my grandad was a plasterer and I went to private school.

Haha, genuinely laughed at this.

It's awful, isn't it? You could be talking to someone and assuming they're an equal and then you find out they're actually WORKING CLASS. They ought to be horse-whipped, the lying bastards.

You sound a bit jealous bitter and suspicious. Not a good look.

Just because a family has improved financially through generations it doesnt make them liars and actors.

No one has to broadcast their background to you. I have relatives who have done well financially and some not so well, they mix in their different social circles and professions of like minded people. Some have managed better houses, cars, clothes, education for their children because they can afford it. Some are just about getting by.

They are all genuine, not liars or actors. Just different circumstances.They have all originated from the same grandparents.

Would you judge a homeless drug addict in the same way if you discovered they had rich parents/grandparents living in a mansion? Would you class them as liars and actors too? Why are they acting so poor if they come from money?!

OP you should take this as a wake up call and stop making assumptions about people based on appearance and a snapshot of behaviours, which is pretty vile behaviour.

Steel?!!! *faints

Have you ever considered that their so called snobbery is derived from the fact that they have become successful despite their 'unglamorous' backgrounds? I would find your 'friends' far more impressive than those who were handed down the success of others.

Also, I find that these types of people tend to be far more interesting and down to earth than your typical middle class person. They tend to look down on others less.

.. They are clearly very intelligent people being able to rise through the ranks, so to speak.