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To wish DP was also an early riser sometimes

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Lux1982 · 05/10/2024 08:11

I am an early riser by nature not by choice. I would like to experience sleeping in as much as DP can but when I am awake I am awake and I can’t fall back asleep no matter how hard I try. I wake up between 6-7am most days even weekends. I get up and get jobs done as quietly as I can so not to wake DP and the children up.

Really what I like to do is take the dog out for a long walk at that time especially if it’s not raining I love to go. By the time I get back DP might be awake, we shower and the day starts.

DP doesn’t like me taking the dog out that early he likes to come too. He likes us to do our weekend dog walks together as couple time. This is fine if we have nothing else to do. Problem is he has made plans for 11am for us to go for a coffee with someone and it will take us an hour to get there and I would need to shower, wash & dry hair etc. Last night I said I might take the dog out if I woke up first he said no, wake me at 8.30am we will have plenty of time to go. But I’ve already been up since 6.30am and I am bored now, and it will be a rush, the dog walk will be 20-30 mins not an hour and just round the block, not the nice country walk I would have done. I am annoyed I didn’t just go out when I first woke up so I suppose this is my own fault. If I wait for him to wake up I have to shower now ready for later on and get sweaty I would rather shower after my walk.

We have been together for years but the dog is a new addition so we are trying to adapt to having very different sleep patterns. Do other early risers just live their own secular early lives rather than sitting waiting for someone else to wake up I am not BU that that’s silly right?

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Lux1982 · 05/10/2024 08:28

He thinks it’s early especially weekends. I can wake up naturally he can’t he has to use a lot of alarms.

I do other things I did a work out this morning and laundry. I could read a book but I would rather go outside than lie in bed. He says I fidget too much anyway you have to let your dog out to the toilet so I have already got up by then

Its not the dog novelty I got up early anyway and would go for a walk but he didn’t mind that

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Nannyfannybanny · 05/10/2024 08:24

6/7 an early riser, I was expecting it to be 4/5. DH gets up then,goes to bed at 9 because that's what he did for years at work before he retired 2 years ago. In the summer I wake up early as soon as it's light, inspite of blackout curtain lining and an eye mask. I get the washing on,(economy 7) and outside in my pjs,big garden always something to do,dogs taken out together later.

Aroastdinnerisnotahumanright · 05/10/2024 08:24

He's being so unreasonable. Is he not familiar with the concept of setting an alarm...however I think the problem will resolve itself when the novelty of the dog wears off.

Blinkii · 05/10/2024 08:20

It's about compromise. Sometimes you do it when you're up early, and sometimes just wait for him.

Autumnalfun · 05/10/2024 08:20

Goodness take the dog out, he can do a second walk if he wishes. So much angst.

hoever I’m the same, I’m an early riser, I want to paint the bedroom today and I can’t go in and do that till my husband is up obviously. But anything outside the bedroom is fair game.

1apenny2apenny · 05/10/2024 08:19

Does your DH have the final say on everything? I do think this is often the case in relationships and it's something I have actively worked on to stop.

In your situation I would simply be saying that as you get up early and it such a perfect time to walk the dog that's what you'll be doing it on the weekend. He's welcome to join if he wants, after all if he wants to do it that badly he will. There alternative is to be compromise, agree a 7:30 start for example and just go if he's not ready.

Also why don't you use this extra time for yourself - do a daily yoga practice, a workout or read a book. You don't have to do housework etc.

BurbageBrook · 05/10/2024 08:17

Just take the dog out first thing. If he wants he can take the dog out for an extra walk later!

SocksAndTheCity · 05/10/2024 08:16

You don't actually have to get up just because you're awake - don't you ever have a lie in? That said, if you want to go out and walk the dog I would just go.

I like waking up an hour or two before I have to get up, but then I normally faff with my phone and listen to the radio which is maybe less practical if somebody else is asleep.

unpackthat · 05/10/2024 08:13

I think you walk the dog. It benefits you and the dog. Seems unfair you do housework and then miss out on something that would be special to you.

Caspianberg · 05/10/2024 08:13

Just tell him to he has to be up by x o
clock if he wants to join on dog walk.

I would say you leave at 7.30am. So if he wants to join he can join at 7.30am. He can either get up earlier and ready, or walk and shower and eat after at 9am

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