Next door neighbour asking my builder to do some work in his house :/

That’s not really a thing. A builder is likely to be working on multiple projects at a time. My partner has about 5 on his books at the moment. He doesn’t charge per day, he quotes for scope of work. One day he may have a subcontractor (chippy or sparky) working on an object and he has to wait for them to finish before doing his bit. So he will go off and do a plastering job elsewhere. This needs time to dry, so he goes off to another job for a day. It’s perfectly normal. Your build would be a lot more expensive if you wanted to contract him exclusively and pay for him sitting around waiting for paint to dry.
It’s perfectly fine to chat with a builder for 5 minutes and arrange a time for them to pop in and do the quote after they clocked off for the day.

Don’t be ridiculous.

In may we had our driveway replaced.
Ndn asked our workman if he could sort out 10 of his stone flags.
When workman told him he will give him a price after finishing our
job. Ndn couldn't believe it as he was already there albeit next door and
he was sure there would be stone flags left over.
His driveway is still not sorted.

That’s a perfectly normal thing to do. Good trades get a lot of work that way, popping around to quote for a job is fine. Obviously not doing it on your time, but just having a look. You don’t pay “call out” for a quote.

He isn't your employee. He needs work after your job. Your neighbour is not being cheeky and probably trusts your judgement in getting a good builder.

Don't think it's cheeky to ask builder to have a look. He might ask builder to repair it when hes finished in yours. My mother often did this when she spotted workmen on the street.

If you're on bad terms with this neighbour, then it might be weird.

I had my garden landscaped last year and my neighbour asked one of the men to pop over as he was interested in a quote for his garden. I didn’t care a at all. It’s good that he was drumming up more business and it’s good that my neighbour could find someone reputable.

You’re being unreasonable and petty.

You do realise that ‘your’ lovely builder earns a living from his trade?
He can decide if he’d like the neighbour’s business and when is appropriate to pop in to assess the job.

Depends what they meant. If they meant ‘take a look to get a quote’, that’s fine (it would take 5-10 minutes at most?).

However, your builder declined, so what’s the issue?

I might be being really thick, but how did he manage to get the handle from the inside of the door to put the lock on the outside when you couldn't open the door?

Yeah agree with the majority, this is absolutely normal. I've just hired a painter to do a load of work that I found this way.

In particular a small job like a broken loo can be hard to get someone out to. Your plumber pops around for a few minutes at the end of the day, your neighbour gets their loo fixed with minimum hassle and the plumber gets a bonus few quid. Everyone wins.

This happens all the time, not CF at all. The builder could have popped across during lunch or tea break or after work. Gosh, some people are seriously uptight.

this is a completely normal thing to do! My neighbours builder got work at my house sorting out a small section of my roof and is set to do the kitchen extension across the road next year - we both approached because they were working on the street and doing a good job - word of mouth is priceless

you are being ridiculous - you r not in an exclusive relationship with your tradesman!

Happens all the time round here, one person has a job done and is asked to nip to neighbours in a free moment to scope for a job. Not an issue at all.

I genuinely can’t fathom why this is an issue. It would have taken a few mins, and would not have impacted you in the slightest.

YABU

This is how my DP gets the majority of his work.

If NDN was expecting a freebie repair or not having to pay a call out charge, yes it is unreasonable.

Perfectly reasonable for your plumber to have a look after hours though.

You don't own your builder/cleaner/gardener/aupair. Imo the neighbour did not mean for him to come on his working time with you. He could have popped in after to have a look. Sometimes it's 5 minutes work and if bigger problem he could have scheduled him in for another day. I don't see how this is any of your business OP🤷‍♀️ neither why you would feel offended..

Fuss over nothing!

Not a problem

How does this even bother you!!!

We asked our neighbour's roofer to fix small bits on our roof. He came to have a look and give us a quote after his work day, told us he would be able to work on it when he was done with the neighbours roof, and ended up coming one morning when stuff were delayed next door. Took 2h and didn't impact the neighbour at all.

Someone else did similar with the painter we hired to repaint our house, it didn't disrupt our work at all. It's really up to workers to manage this properly.

My dad was a builder and he got the majority of his work this way. People would see him working on/in a neighbours house and ask him to take a quick look.

He never stayed more than 5-10 mins, just checked it was something he had the skills to do and got a phone number from them to talk to them later. He'd stay until the job was done on the original house and charged by the job not per hour so it didn't affect his main clients at all.

His record was repointing the front of 11 houses on the same street one summer - all from seeing him do the others and stopping to ask.

This reminds me of when my DS locked himself in the toilet, panicked, and was so distressed he couldn't flip the lock to get out. Neighbours were renovating and I raced next door. A lovely guy came immediately and removed the toilet door handles, and then switched them over so the lock was now on the outside. Took him about 10 minutes, and he refused payment.

It was funny, because I had been complaining to DH about the endless noise and banging through our shared wall. That stopped sharpish!

There must be history between you and your neighbour for you to take such offence. I can't see anything wrong with this and in a way is a compliment that they would trust whoever you are using. Your workman would also charge them for any work done and not you.