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To be envious of these female Doctors

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Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:34

Dd has been ill recently so we’ve had to go to a range of different private specialists.
Ive noticed the majority were female-amazing, but also that they were young, good looking, trendy etc. The child psychiatrist was wearing smart clothes-wide legged trousers etc, but with really nice Gazelles and she walked out to my dream car. The female gp we have is beautiful, so kind and warm and was saying her husband was a psychiatrist etc.
I’m not one to be jealous or superficial normally, but I think them also obviously being very smart and the list of their educational achievements makes me more envious. I wish I’d studied harder at school, instead of having too much fun with my friends, in a way.
I don’t know, I felt a bit rubbish as a 40 something mum with my Primark bag, fairly old Quasqui and mediocre teaching career.

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Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:46

@spirit20 That’s true, I’ve done similar things to you…travelling, living abroad, having lots of fun etc. I wouldn’t say people are jealous of teachers or at least not these days

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Nannyoggapple · 04/10/2024 15:45

Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:44

@Nannyoggapple Yes, I suppose, but much less pay and it doesn’t feel like such a great occupation these days, I wish I’d studied harder and focused more

Never too late if you want to!

My cousin just recently trained to be a psychologist in her forties.

Nannyoggapple · 04/10/2024 15:45

Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:43

Repeated myself there oops!

I just imagine they also likely came from good backgrounds, with fairly wealthy parents engaged in intellectual pursuits (not always of course!) but how cool to meet someone on a night out and they ask what you do and you’re a child psychiatrist or surgeon and so on

Or a teacher.

Do you not think teachers are well respected then?

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Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:44

@Nannyoggapple Yes, I suppose, but much less pay and it doesn’t feel like such a great occupation these days, I wish I’d studied harder and focused more

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Ohfuckrucksack · 04/10/2024 15:44

I would suggest private specialists are not your every day doctor.

I think your focus may have been in the wrong place - were you not impressed by their knowledge and expertise rather than their outward appearance and status symbols (car).

spirit20 · 04/10/2024 15:44

Just remember though that to get where they are, they've made a lot of choices that probably involved sacrificing other areas of their life (e.g. spending lots of time studying, giving up a lot of their twenties/thirties working long shifts and unsocial hours) and could have regrets in that area. They could easily be looking at you and being envious of aspects of your life that they don't have.

A relative of mine is a consultant who earns very well and has a similarly 'glamorous' life. But I wouldn't trade places with him - he doesn't have much of a life outside his job and immediate family and has missed out on a lot of formative experiences that I had (e.g. living abroad, travelling, working in various low-paying but amazingly-fun jobs). He never seems to do much or have much going on in his life, and honestly, he's fairly boring to talk to as a result. I know he's very happy, but it wouldn't be for me.

Also you're a teacher - that might not quite be a doctor* in terms of earnings etc, but it's still a good career in its own right that I'd say a lot of people are jealous of! There's also lots of room for progression to middle and senior leadership if you'd like to be able to upgrade your own clothes and car! Remember, the private and specialised doctors you see are probably the equivalent of SLT in schools, in that they've pushed themselves for promotions etc.

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Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:43

Repeated myself there oops!

I just imagine they also likely came from good backgrounds, with fairly wealthy parents engaged in intellectual pursuits (not always of course!) but how cool to meet someone on a night out and they ask what you do and you’re a child psychiatrist or surgeon and so on

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Nannyoggapple · 04/10/2024 15:43

Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:40

I suppose I just have huge respect for them, obviously very smart, I’d love to be that intelligent, I have huge respect for them and I’d love for others to think I’m super smart 🤣

But people do think that teachers are smart?

You have to do a lot of qualifications to be a teacher

MatildaTheCat · 04/10/2024 15:43

Private doctors have to look the part. They may well go home and get changed into their normal clothes splattered with baby gunk.

They will also have done their share of very unglamorous work while climbing the ladder.

I hope your child is getting better.

Parker231 · 04/10/2024 15:41

DH is a GP - his standard work wardrobe is jeans, trainers and a T-shirt and I can’t remember the last time his car was cleaned!

Jc2001 · 04/10/2024 15:40

You're seeing a snapshot of people's lives. It doesn't necessarily reflect the reality of their day to day lives. Plus, you're teaching the future doctors. That's got to be worth something

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Choosingbetweenthousandsofmediocresandwiches · 04/10/2024 15:40

I suppose I just have huge respect for them, obviously very smart, I’d love to be that intelligent, I have huge respect for them and I’d love for others to think I’m super smart 🤣

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Aussieland · 04/10/2024 15:38

I’m a doctor. I am not young good looking or trendy 😂. Some doctors do look very slick- it doesn’t make them better or worse humans than the ones that don’t or than anyone else on the planet! I also often feel unintelligent sometimes, forget what I was going to say etc and feel inadequate next to some other doctors and some other non doctors.

Nannyoggapple · 04/10/2024 15:35

I've never felt like that I have to say.

We cant all be Doctors!

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