To be envious of these female Doctors

I am a full time (actually 120% of full-time hours) - this in the NHS

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I am a full time (actually 120% of full-time hours) and a private doctor. Lots (most) private consultants work in the NHS, many full-time until after several years they may cut back.
We do a fuck-tonne of work: clinical, managerial, audit, research, teaching, clinical risk, guidelines, patient pathways, multidisciplinary meetings etc etc.
The majority of us work hours beyond our contracted NHS time.

I am married to a doctor. Would I want to be one? Hell no. My kids are equally adamant they’d hate it too.

If you want to devote your entire life to a job that’s the job that will swallow you up the most.

I have a lot of medic friends and they all look in desperate need of a sabbatical. NHS workload, nights, and young kids is not a pretty combination.

Lots of people, for eg when lonely or insecure people browse SM they often feel envious and not good enough due to the way SM presents information etc

I'm afraid I just find your reaction odd. Extremely odd! Who feels jealous of others when they're a grown ass adult in their 40's!!??

I think it's only teachers who think that they aren't respected.

They are respected.

I just went to a writing meetup, and one of the ladies there was a teacher. She was the only teacher at the meetup.

One of the men said something and then he said "but Anne would be the best one to ask, she would know far more about that than me, as she is a teacher".

tbf all the teachers i know are well put together and fairly glam with good hair, nails etc.

None of the doctors I know are glamorous or stylish at all. Of my stylish glamorous friends one works in a museum, one works front of house in a hotel, one is employed by her husband as admin in his business. None are in highly paid or particularly demanding jobs.
I think you are being biased by your admiration for their role and projecting that onto their looks and clothes. Probably if you saw them in the street you would perceive them differently.

I work with dozens of doctors, many of whom no longer practice medicine but work in related fields.

It's not a dream job. It pays well enough, very well in some countries, but comes with a lot of stress, anti social hours, and as many of them have said to me involves a lot of 'patching them up and sending them back out to be damaged again'. Doctors are also expected to do more and more with increasingly limited resources, and rarely have the time to give each patient the time and attention that they would like.

I used to have this envy of female doctors! It was when i getting medical help myself, and I would look at these women longingly, wishing for their brains/energy/health/education/looks, and their level of normality. I was really very unwell, mentally and physically, and I wanted everything they had, but it was all out of reach for me for a lots of different reasons.
I’m too old to retrain now, but I have improved a lot health-wise, and I’ve found contentment.
I do know exactly where you’re coming from!

Good for him. There are several career paths that are very well paid and normally chosen by academically high achievers for precisely that reason. It's disingenuous to suggest doctors don't earn well though; perhaps they should earn more and certainly in other countries they do but from graduating they're on a very decent salary (considerably higher than the base rate you sometimes see quoted because of pay for unsociable hours which essentially all rotations bar GP come with).

there's always time to retrain in something new if your feeling a bit bored or stuck.

all my Dr friends are extra stylish as well :)

@Nannyoggapple teachers are not respected overall at all. I am only still in the job as I'm part time, and I care very much for the children I teach. Do quite a few of the parents care about me? Sadly not!

Consultant - and yes I feel sad and anxious when my patients have complications or die. I wake at night thinking about it, hugely frustrated about the lack of investment in IT etc
I am frequently covered in bodily fluids, I have a dowagers hump . I’d love to resign but how else would we pay the mortgage and school fees . I’ve worked so hard , studied so hard and sacrificed a lot to get here and now I’m here I hate it . Seriously I am so specialized that I have no idea what else I could do.

My dc(28), works as am IT contractor and has already paid off the mortgage on a £500k house with zero financial help from us.His medical peers are still just getting on the ladder

The female GPS at my surgery are all quite ordinary in terms of looks.I never really notice their outfits so I assume they are quite ordinary too.

i knew a lovely female dr. She confided in me that she lived constantly in fear of making a mistake- she put in so many hours but she said when she went home she’d often be thinking of every patient and turning over in her mind what she might have missed. even logging on to her emails after time off checking first there was nothing from management about a case that had gone wrong, whether her fault or not

I’m sure I’d be the same. I wouldn’t be a dr for anything. I am fallible, I fuck up, and I’d be destroyed if I caused harm.

so nope, not envious at all.

being a doctor is very noble but all jobs are valuable. I have always said I will respect anyone’s job provided they have one (or are retired, redundant but looking too disabled to work or in full time education).

They vary. If I'm spending £300 for 30 minutes I expect them to look professional. My GP wears sensible flat sandals, flowery skirts in summer, cord ones in winter and usually a droopy top. All topped off with a dodgy haircut.

I couldn't give a stuff and I certainly don't envy them.

Sorry but that is utter nonsense.

Of all my dh's mates from University, he as the hospital consultant earns the least. His mates all went into banking/finance /business /law.

Only one of mine and it was entirely led by him - it's a tough life and you don't get paid on a par with similar professionals esp lawyers

I have been an NHS Dr for 25 years. Neither of my quite bright DD want to do medicine. And I thank my stars for that.