To be envious of these female Doctors

I see people who are beautifully turned out and I'm afraid my first thought is that they may be shallow / judge people on looks

Doesn’t that make you shallow and judgemental?
I am not remotely glamorous or trendy but work with a couple to glamorous looking consultants and they are absolutely lovely and good fun as well.

Agree. I see people who are beautifully turned out and I'm afraid my first thought is that they may be shallow / judge people on looks

I prefer people who focus on being kind, caring, honest and have integrity

And yes, before everyone pounces, I know it's possible to be smartly dressed and kind

I'm friends with some female doctors. Their lives are no better than mine really. They have exactly the same worries, they get tired and stressed, they work long hours, evenings and weekends.

I’m not sure what to do with these new react options so I’ll use my words - nice comment!

FWIW I'm not a doctor, but am in a good profession/nice clothes/house and I'm constantly in awe of the teachers at DCs school! I could never do your job and really appreciate those who do the 'raising the next generation' roles because I know I'd not last a day 💜

They really would! You have kids which loads of people that cant wishes they had, and a great job that makes a difference in young people’s lives. Don’t be envious of anyone in health care, trust me, it’s not all sunshine and roses; quite the opposite!

My SIL is a Consultant. She is tall, blonde and striking. But not glamorous or trendy - she has her own style. She is very down to earth. I was very much in awe of her when I first met her and imagined her to be very together and sorted. But getting * to know her better andI realised has problems and issues like the rest of us. And she has had a couple of bad health scares over the past couple of years. OP what you see may not be the truth!

Hmmm as a nurse I work with a load of doctors of all levels, and like us nurses, I’d describe none as glamorous 😂 frazzled and overworked and underpaid more like. BTW ask loads of people and they’d be totally envious of a mum that’s a teacher with a Qashqai!!!

A lot of first and second generation immigrants, too - the former would have overcome much adversity either in the home country or as a foreigner in the UK in the 80s (or both).

They’ll usually come from middle class backgrounds though OP, and you can get a smart kid through private school and get them into medical school, but I have to say I admire those who come from working class backgrounds who go on to medical school, a lot more of their own intelligence has got them where they are today. I think there’s a big difference. It’s also a very hard job and they have big responsibilities. I’d rather not have that burden and work my ‘shitty’ job instead.

I do know what you are saying. I know of a young doctor who lived near us. Her father was a GP, her mum a sahm who was constantly ferrying the children around. The children went to the local private, were very sporty & musical, just general all rounders. Typical middle class family.

Yes, I agree.
I read this thread before I went to bed ( Southern Hemisphere) and felt all nice and glowy- thankyou for the lovely comments.
It made me feel appreciated.

This. Snap although I am pregnant so I just wear scrubs. I do gave a wardrobe of stylish clothes that I am hanging on to and used to wear when I was a size 10 pre covid. I will be working hard to get back into them as you definitely get more respect from patients if you dress well especially in my super surgical specialty.

An interesting thread thank you!

Another doctor (GP) here and I often think how stylish many of my medical friends and colleagues are. I on the other hand drive an old Qashqai (inside is disgustingly grubby) and never look ‘put together’ even if I try. I do follow the style and beauty threads with great interest but unfortunately think I’m just destined to be a ‘messy’ person. Oh and I love Primark!

Agree. There are some really lovely comments in this thread.

I have huge respect for doctors and teachers. Honestly I would class them all in the same group, university educated doing important jobs. I remember having a workman at my house who was talking about his friend, a teacher. He spoke about them like they were the most intelligent person on the planet and the last word on everything. Basically some people think about teachers in the same terms you think about these doctors.

I am one of those doctors...I'd like to say a huge thank you to the OP...there are usually horrible doctors bashing threads on mn...one running at the moment at a 15 yr old making a scene at GPs.
It's lovely to hear someone saying something nice.

Bear in mind though that you are seeing private specialists. They will be earning a lot more than NHS specialists, who themselves aren’t badly paid at all, hence they can afford those nice clothes and cars.

Yea my partner works in IT wfh.... is on triple my Dr salary for about 25h a week (despite me working 48-65h a week and commuting 3h a day

I am a doctor and my background is very very far away from that.. parents who fought, my Mum spent most of my childhood under psych care, father was alcoholic… it was awful and I still have the scars.
Professionals job is to look calm and competent but doctors have a very high rate burnout, depression and suicide.
I also had multiple miscarriages, never managing to be a Mum despite multiple fertility treatments.
Medicine has made me wise though.. I know that in the end what matters is the people close to you.
Hope your child ( and you) get all the help you need.

Yup I'm first in the family to go to uni... anyone asking my parents for tips to get into med school... their only reply is fine a different career path!

I never thought I felt jealous.

But I was at an art workshop the other day, and I did feel something. And I thought of this thread.

We were all talking about careers, and one of the women said that she was a neuropsychiatrist.

I didn't feel jealous.

But I kind of felt a bit ashamed of myself, that I hadn't achieved that much In life, and my job wasn't as good as hers.

I felt lesser than her.

I think it's because we are taught to see education as so important.

It's not good when it makes you feel lesser than someone, with a better education than us though.

It's not odd. 40's is often a time of reflection, and sometimes regret.

But there's no point op. You can only look forward so be inspired or be proud of your own achievements.

Hmme, if your not in the UK maybe they are relaxed enough to be glamorous and not stressed...
Oh and the 'smart/intelligent' thing. It's a bloody party trick, or a randomly distributed trait like being tall or having fabulous tits... It doesn't make you a better person in fact I know too many consultants who are are not very nice people. Plus plenty of smart people don't get born into the right circumstances to capitalise in it and make their way to cats like medicine. There is a shit load of luck in life (although the successful often like to claim thier success is due to their own brilliance).