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Why do people post every single day about their holiday on Facebook?

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PassingStranger · 04/10/2024 13:18

You know the ones who go away and give you a blow by blown account every day on what they are doing, where they are eating etc, sometimes multiple times a day.
Are friends expected to read it all and like every single post?

What happened to privacy, what happened to telling people about it when you get home?
Not against it totally, but several times a day, what's wrong with them?
They seem unable to enjoy a holiday without broadcasting every single thing. It's horrible the way FB has got to some people!!

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LouH5 · 04/10/2024 17:09

My in laws do this and it makes me cringe. Between the pair of them on holiday they’ll do at least four or five uploads a day. Sometimes photos, sometimes “check ins” at restaurants, bars or beaches. A lot of the posts/pics revolve around drinking, very much “another sangria? Why not!” kind of vibe.

I love posting pics but mainly because I use social media as my free photo storage 🤣 if I ever wanted to look back at an old photo, I wouldn’t sift through them on my phone I’d go on my Insta or fb. I also wait until I get home and do a one off upload.

SabreIsMyFave · 04/10/2024 16:52

MarilynSays · 04/10/2024 13:23

Some people aren't aware that some insurance policies include clauses that could void coverage if you're found to have been reckless with your home's security. Publicly posting your location or evidence that you're hundreds of miles away could be considered a breach of these terms. (found this on bpp media via Google search)
So I do a photo dump when I am home, one post, done!

This. If you blather on about your holiday all over Facebook and post pics of it (while you're there,) you DO run the risk of the insurance company not paying out if you're robbed. It's not an 'urban myth.' It does happen. And it HAS happened.

Also OP @PassingStranger YANBU. I find it really weird when people post constant updates every couple of hours. Like whhhhhhhy? It's like they NEED people to know how 'great' their life is! 🙄 And several women I know post 40-50 photos a week of their DC. Literally NO-ONE needs to see that many photos of your kids!

One woman I know regularly puts posts like this on Facebook... (At least once a day. Sometime 2 or 3 times a day.)

"Just come in from shopping, kids showered and hair washed, cat fed, washing on, eating fries and chicken nuggets, ironed kids school shirts for tomorrow, done the hoovering, put the bin out for tomorrow, TV on, absolutely whacked, time to chill now." (With a photo of the chicken nuggets and fries, and a glass of wine at the side of it.)

Literally a blow by blow account of everything going on in her day.

Odd. As ... FUCK.

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hollyblueivy · 04/10/2024 16:47

I love having a nosy at the places people go and what they get up to holiday. May give me inspiration for future trips. Overshare away!

SwingTheMonkey · 04/10/2024 16:42

I’ve never understood why people moan about what they see on social media. Either unfollow/unfriend someone who’s posting style upsets you or pisses you off, or just don’t go on social media. It really is that simple.

People can use their own social media however they want. You’re free to not look at it.

whykeepchanging · 04/10/2024 16:38

@PassingStranger

Why do you have Facebook?

afrikat · 04/10/2024 16:37

Wow the judgement on this thread! Some people like to post alot, some people don't. Doesn't make the frequent posters dim, or shallow, or any of the other insults being thrown around - just personal preference. If it bothers you that much I'd question why you're even on it

Cynic17 · 04/10/2024 16:30

Because they're incredibly shallow and rather dim?

afrikat · 04/10/2024 16:29

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/10/2024 16:28

I tend to do just one post when I get home.

I think it’s more interesting that way, and also it does mean that you’re not advertising you’re away. Although my Facebook is private, I guess friends of friends could see if they comment.

No, they can't if you have your privacy settings on correctly

Northernlass44 · 04/10/2024 16:29

MaryShelley1818 · 04/10/2024 15:08

Like lots of other people I use my FB as a sort of diary, it's where I store all my photo albums and I take so much joy from looking back on all the memories. On holiday I tend to post every evening, usually when I'm lying in bed, just to back up that days photos. Not sure how that means I can't possibly be enjoying my holiday - that doesn't even make sense. I think some people really can't stand seeing other people happy or enjoying life though, but that's probably more of a reflection on them.
I love looking at other people's holiday photos, love seeing people happy, sharing their celebrations, enjoying their nice times with their children, pets, travels or being supportive when times are tough.

Maybe you r right maybe some people have shit lives and it stings seeing folks happy possibly or maybe people think we get it yiu r on holiday if folks want to save like you say why not save to own phone the memories are still there

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/10/2024 16:28

I tend to do just one post when I get home.

I think it’s more interesting that way, and also it does mean that you’re not advertising you’re away. Although my Facebook is private, I guess friends of friends could see if they comment.

PassingStranger · 04/10/2024 16:27

MaryShelley1818 · 04/10/2024 15:08

Like lots of other people I use my FB as a sort of diary, it's where I store all my photo albums and I take so much joy from looking back on all the memories. On holiday I tend to post every evening, usually when I'm lying in bed, just to back up that days photos. Not sure how that means I can't possibly be enjoying my holiday - that doesn't even make sense. I think some people really can't stand seeing other people happy or enjoying life though, but that's probably more of a reflection on them.
I love looking at other people's holiday photos, love seeing people happy, sharing their celebrations, enjoying their nice times with their children, pets, travels or being supportive when times are tough.

Of course we can stand people being happy, but as said do we really need to know everything like you've checked in, your having a coffee etc, now your on the way to the airport etc etc. It's an obsession with some people and wanting to feel important.
It's not for the diary or memories at all otherwise people would set the posts to ONLY ME.

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Northernlass44 · 04/10/2024 16:27

Herowork · 04/10/2024 15:16

They are just attention seeking. It’s how they roll. “Oh look at me, I’m having a drink in the airport at 5am in the morning”

Exactly my point

Northernlass44 · 04/10/2024 16:26

Thepeopleversuswork · 04/10/2024 14:38

@Northernlass44

How many posts about a holiday would be acceptable then? Who gets to decide whether you have posted enough pictures to be “arsehole of the month”?

I don’t particularly care the question was why do people post every day their photos not just once or so but document everything . My answer is because deep down many of these sort are braggers it’s a bit passive aggressive in my opinion it’s like look at me aren’t we having a great time vibe rather than living in the moment

PersephoneAgrees · 04/10/2024 16:20

I use facebook as photo storage as I go along. If people want to comment/like they can, but essentially my holiday photo uploads are for me and my family. If we decide to print out a photo book using Snapfish, then it's much simpler to upload facebook photos.
With regard to advertising the house is empty, I live in a close knit community and the crime rate is low. Plus either one or other of my sons could be at the house at any given time. Then there's the neighbour who feeds the cat...

DoraSpenlow · 04/10/2024 16:16

Hardly ever post on Facebook but I do something every day with a couple of photos when on a special holiday like the one we did this year. Riding Route 66 on a Harley Davidson.

Only have 34 Facebook friends who are close friends or family who know we are away anyway. Everyone said they looked forward to seeing where we had been.

YogaBearBasket · 04/10/2024 16:05

I think some people are genuinely addicted to posting. And they can’t relax and enjoy something until they have posted a photo of it on social media.

User19876536484 · 04/10/2024 16:05

I only use Facebook for the local and interest groups so I couldn’t care less if somebody wants to post their life on Facebook. I’m not going to see it.

Tadpolecat · 04/10/2024 16:04

@Doggymummar the only FB friend I have over 70 is my mum, so yes, lots of people under 70 use FB.

Itiswhysofew · 04/10/2024 15:59

I feel for the kids and anyone else not wanting to be constantly photographed & posted online. It must be really disconcerting. It's not fair to involve others in your desire for validation.

Doggymummar · 04/10/2024 15:54

Does anyone under 70 use FB, I think the nans that use it just don't understand social media.

NerrSnerr · 04/10/2024 15:54

I love seeing people's holiday snaps. I personally didn't post much of my summer holiday that was in a caravan in Brean but if I was somewhere more exotic I might have done.

It sounds like a lot of you don't like the people you're following on social media, the way you're talking about them. That's probably the problem. If you only follow people you genuinely like they tend to be a lot less annoying.

NerrSnerr · 04/10/2024 15:50

Because they are channeling their Billie Piper and it's because they want to.

It's their social media and they can do what they like with it. If you don't like it then just unfriend them.

Dontcallmescarface · 04/10/2024 15:44

I don't know OP have you asked them?

Herowork · 04/10/2024 15:16

They are just attention seeking. It’s how they roll. “Oh look at me, I’m having a drink in the airport at 5am in the morning”

Horriblehistoree · 04/10/2024 15:13

Surely it’s their Facebook account so they should feel free to post what they like, just in the same way you have the ability to unfollow and not see what they post? Is it harming you in any way? Are you offended? If not, then it’s not that deep.

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