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Namechangetheyarewatching · 04/10/2024 09:26

So there is a team of three, me and two men, then our line manager man, then his line manager man, then his line manager female, we don't see her very often perhaps once a year at an away day.

That's just to give you the make up of our group.

The three of us are the only people in the organisation who do our role.

So one of the men in my team uses a wheelchair and up until now his wife has dropped him to meetings as and when required, we WFH 99% so not often.

They have now arranged a hire vehicle that can take his wheelchair, but no driver.

I have been asked to drive and pick up the vehicle (hour round trip), then drive back and pick up my colleague and then drive to the meeting (hour there), doing it all in reverse on the way back. It takes me an hour to drive from mine to the meeting.

So a 4 hour trip, picking up a colleague, hour meeting, home.

Or 2 hour trip, hour meeting, home.

I have to be honest, I don't want to become the default driver, it's not my responsibility.

YABU, suck it up help a colleague

YANBU, they should find another way, such as a driver

OP posts:
Namechangetheyarewatching · 04/10/2024 09:46

imaginationhasfailedme · 04/10/2024 09:30

No way would I be doing that.
And why you?
Are you doing some of this driving in your own car in which case pretty sure there's an insurance issue as well.
Why don't they just book a taxi that can take a wheelchair? How would your colleague feel about you being his driver anyway??

Yes the hour to pick up and drop off would be in my car. I have business insurance and would use my car to get to the meeting anyway.

Colleague doesn't mind who gets him there. I have previously used my own car and have to left the wheelchair into my boot, get home in my car etc, but bought a small two passenger car, which I want to drive!!!

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MermaidEyes · 04/10/2024 09:41

I wouldn't want to do this, being honest. Is this just a one off thing or will it become a regular occurrence?

DoreenonTill8 · 04/10/2024 09:30

'They' have arranged? Who's they? Sounds like it's the aww @Namechangetheyarewatching is a female type and will be happy to do this caring task....

imaginationhasfailedme · 04/10/2024 09:30

No way would I be doing that.
And why you?
Are you doing some of this driving in your own car in which case pretty sure there's an insurance issue as well.
Why don't they just book a taxi that can take a wheelchair? How would your colleague feel about you being his driver anyway??