Nominated driver

This sounds crazy, surely a taxi would be more economical when you consider not only the cost of hire car, your travel expenses and the time when you should be working but aren't.

Why can't this assistance be shared between the team members?
It sounds very unfair for just one person to have to do it all.

Sorry that sounds harsh, your apprehension is because you're a good person who naturally wants to help and that's probably why they have asked you. Don't let them take advantage of your good nature 🙂

YANBU No way, shut it down now, I'm presuming this is nothing to do with your job role. The company will have to order him a cab or whoever's smart idea it was suggest they do it themselves. There's always risks involved with driving and if not directly related to your role then you shouldn't be taking it on.

Three hours out of your day and so much driving to do something that you can do on Teams IS deeply stupid. And it's really inappropriate of your manager to ask you if you would mind doing that. Who wouldn't mind??!! They are taking the piss. Definitely exercise your 'No' muscle on this sort of stuff, and this is the place to start. Bet it's cause you're the agreeable female. FFS!

I’m going to make a massive assumption that they have a car on a mobility scheme if it fits his wheelchair and his wife can drive him about? In which case the company can offer to pay for a driver to go to his house and transport him in his own car or as some suggested a taxi that can accommodate a wheelchair.

this current solution actually make no practical sense and your colleague may actually be mortified that the idea has been floated at all!

But this doesn’t make sense. Each individual is responsible for getting themselves to and from work. Nobody is going to arrange a car for you, or buy a bus ticket for Jimmy in the post room.

Like I said, it’s deeply patronising to assume your colleague can’t sort out his own transport.

It's not his wife's job. It's between the gentleman and his workplace.

I’ll ask again- why is he not organising his own transport and what is his opinion of you being his “support person”?

My brother is a paraplegic and his pet hate is people who patronise him. As your colleague has a job I presume he has no cognitive problems?

No, even if the driving is done during work time you need to stand firm. It isn't your job.

If you are using your car to get to his then you are putting extra miles and wear and tear on your car.

Driving can be stressful, and 4 hours in a car a day is physically bad for you. You are not responsible for someone else's travel.

Extra risks of making a mistake, accidentally driving in a bus lane or a speeding ticket if you aren't familiar with the roads.

You don't have a driving job, not your problem to solve.

I'd just say Sorry, I don't feel comfortable with that.

Can the hire car firm drop outside your house and collect? Sometimes I've ended a hire car for work purposes and they leave car outside your house and drop the keys through the letter box.

Well if I say yes now, it will become a regular thing I will need to do everytime we have a face to face meeting, I just know it..

Yes I was thinking this.
If his wife used to drop him off and now
Isn't then surely the onus is on him to get himself there somehow, presumably by organising his own transport/taxi?

Do you have business use insurance? I think this would be outside the scope of home to office.

Why are they hiring a vehicle that is an hours round trip to pick up? And why without a driver if it is so far away? Asking you to drive a vehicle you are not familiar with is not something you should be pushed into, if the weather is bad it's so much more dangerous if you are unfamiliar with the vehicle.

I wouldn't want to do that. It's on the business to make reasonable adjustments, not to appoint you as a taxi driver.

Your colleague obviously has full mental capacity. Why is anyone else doing all this organising for him? What does he say about you being asked to drive him?

And if you can't attend, what happens?

It’s not really on that they nominate you for stuff that should rotate between you. You’re not the team dogsbody.

I would decline on grounds of time. Surely taxi would be no more than a hire car, and far less hassle and risk all round.

I would decline. Polite but firm. Not your responsibility. Sounds very cheeky. Do you have unpaid taxi driver in your job description?

That is unreasonable. The organisation and him and his wife need to be providing ways and means if they want him in for a meeting. Ways that do not massively inconvenience other staff.

If the travel is done during work time then I think YAB a bit U. You're a team and sometimes you need to support your colleagues. I can understand you not wanting to do it every time though.

If the travel is your own time then YANBU.

They would be better off booking him an accessible taxi.