Just because I'm there doesn't mean I'm free childcare

Sounds like you knew they were expecting you to supervise the child, so I'd say YABU to deny any responsibility

If you weren't willing to supervise, you should have said so

I disagree. This is ops place she has been going to it a lot longer than them. Why should she give it up? If they want to keep taking advantage then let them continue to leave the child to injure herself it's not ops problem it's the childs mother's problem. If she wasn't such a shit mother the child being injured the first time would be enough for her to change her ways

I would stop going or change location, even temporarily. If you continue to go, they will continue to take advantage. So swap days and/or don't tell them or go somewhere else. People like this will never see they are wrong in expecting that of you.

Your sister and her friend can fuck off to the far side of fuck.

I'm sure blaming anyone and everything for their own failings is something social workers hear every day. Don't worry about ss. But set your own boundaries in future.

Wow. Unbelievable behaviour. What a CF!

This. I would have been fine to leave my SD alone for a few minutes at that age in an environment like OP describes. I never would have left her for 20 minutes but I wouldn't have made her come with me if I'd popped to the loo or something. She was well-behaved enough that I could have trusted her. This child does not sound like the kind of child that can be left, but that's not OP's problem.

If someone left a 2 yo I'd be annoyed but obviously step in to supervise them, but not an 8yo.

Your message was so good I wish I'd been there when your sister read it.

What an absolute idiot I hate people like this. Social services won't care if she reports you it's her child and she's the one whos neglecting it.

Lol, they're trying to rip you a new arsehole?
I wouldn't be having any of it. The pair of irresponsible fucks think announcing they're going for a fag break automatically makes you responsible? Absolutely fucking not.

They were the neglectful ones here, on two accounts.
Expecting the child to be reliant on someone they don't really know to keep them safe,
And fucking off without really arranging that someone was casting an eye on said child.

Do they always communicate so poorly?!:
In what world does fag break translate to please can you keep an eye on my child whilst I'm outside?

They sound completely ridiculous. Hopefully they will contact SS and SS will start monitoring her for not watching her own child!

Next time sis suggests coming with her friend, you will have to bluntly tell her that the friend needs to supervise her own child because you won't be doing so.

To be honest, I'd expect an 8 year old to manage on their own for 20 minutes anyway without hospitalising themselves.

Good response OP. Well done.
When my child was younger if i needed the loo while they were doing an activity i'd have said 'please could you watch my child' before going. At 8, with my well behaved child, i might say to another adult 'im just going the loo'. this clearly doesn't mean 'watch my child' it just means if there's a fire alarm or somebody starts shouting 'where's this child's mother' you can say 'at the loo'. Your sister and friend ae VERy wrong here.

Wow, what a CF. the audacity of her threatening to report you to SS! Tell her to jog on.

Good reply.

If needs be I likes @MrsBennetsPoorNerves reply as a follow up if required.

It doesn't take 20 mins to smoke a fag. My boss used to take 10 mins start to finish including getting to the smoking shelter so we didn't have to hold the fort too long. That's consideration fir others.

Inclined to think your sister is too busy smoking fags and undertaking ineffective parenting in general and needs a good kick up the backside. I think SS have bigger fish to fry though so unlikely it will be them.

If she asked you and only gone for ten mins that'd have been fine. She expects and goes for 20 and leaves you with a friends child also - not fine. Cheeky.

Maybe you should show her this thread.

Good reply.

Perfect message OP! Waiting patiently now for an update on the reply... 😂🍿

Not your responsibility. Don't mix with the stupid cow again. She knows she was irresponsible and feels guilty.

I just hate smoking, especially as 20 of them were all standing outside the shops.
It’s disgusting and extremely selfish.
I’m not judging Bingo, just thought it might be.

You’re sister sounds a nasty price of work, I’d have went one step more and suggested they curb their addiction as they are clearly putting their addiction effort the safely of their children.

Well done for not letting them bully you with this.

Yeah that was my thought. My daughter broke her arm falling off her skateboard at roughly that age and there was no whiff of SS involvement. There must be more to this for it to be reported to SS (by whom?).

Anyway, no, obviously you're not responsible for someone else's kid unless they've explicitly asked you and you've agreed.

No no no...tell them you will have nothing to do with looking after the child. Be very clear, you weren't in charge of them, and never will be. They are being awful.

I think it was like this...

If it is true that she has been reported to SS for an 8 yr olf child having an accident in a public place, it mustn't be the first time accidents are on record. My boys have had a few accidents being boisterous out and about, including broken bones due to football accidents. Not once have SS been threatened or been in touch about it.