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Friends expecting me to pay for room I’m not sleeping in!

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Shouldiorshouldinotthen · 03/10/2024 19:52

A group of 4 of us have been planning to stay in a fancy hotel not too far away from home for a much needed break from being mums to our young children.

In our friendship group is myself, twins A&B and my friend C. We have decided as it is friends C 30th coming up we will go near her birthday.

I have told the girls, plenty of times that I cannot stay the night on 9th Nov. Well now they’ve told me in the group it’s going to be 9th because it is the only night C can find childcare and it’s her birthday.

For the spa facilities and a cream tea at the hotel its £45.99

For the night it’s £380 (minimum 2 people) and you get the spa, cream tea, dinner with bottomless cocktails, stay the night and breakfast.

Twins A&B are sharing a room so their fee is £189.99 per person. Because I am unable to stay the night friend C has been told they don’t take single person in a room and she will have to pay £380. I have told her I will pay the £45.99 for the spa and cream tea as I’m not having the dinner, breakfast or staying the night.

But the twins have text me to say I am out of order not paying more and it’s C’s birthday. I’m expecting her to pay a silly amount. I should’ve offered to pay more. I said I can pay £25 more but £70 is already a lot of cream tea and a dip in the pool.

It is quite obvious they expected me to pay the full £189.99, despite the fact I’m not staying over night

Not sure if any of this makes sense but - AIBU!

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Cnidarian · 03/10/2024 19:58

They need to split the total cost over the overnight between 3. You're not pulling out you said you couldn't go that day. YANBU

Hazeby · 03/10/2024 19:58

AmeliaEarache · 03/10/2024 19:57

Split the cost between the three that are staying or they can suck it up and move the date to January.

You told them when you weren’t available, so it’s on them.

This.

AmeliaEarache · 03/10/2024 19:57

Split the cost between the three that are staying or they can suck it up and move the date to January.

You told them when you weren’t available, so it’s on them.

VestPantsandSocks · 03/10/2024 19:56

Tell them to split the cost three-ways as they are the ones going!

Remind them repeatedly that you told them that you couldn't make it.

Penguinmouse · 03/10/2024 19:56

YANBU! Your friends are absolute pisstakers.

Edited to add: the twins should split the cost of the second room with your friend so they are paying £253 each. It’s their fault they picked a day you couldn’t stay!

Shouldiorshouldinotthen · 03/10/2024 19:55

Also yes I’ve mentioned doing it another time, but they’re so packed out the next time it’s available for £380 is in Jan. it goes up to almost double that later in Nov / Dec I guess due to Christmas

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