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To want my partner to cook meals on a schedule?

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hangryhour · 03/10/2024 18:07

My partner’s job is to cook the meals. We each have jobs. I do the washing up for example, amongst other things. My partner is a very good cook and also more fussy than I am about food, doesn’t like my cooking so does all of the cooking.

Every day I have to ask for meals to be cooked, and my partner will look at me and say, ‘Oh are you hungry? Ok’, and get up and make food. The only meal I don’t have to ask for is breakfast.

I could cook my own food but despite trying I don’t have the flair for it that my partner does. Plus my partner would not like that, as my partner is better at it and it would be waste of energy cooking for one.

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Azerothi · 03/10/2024 18:18

Do you live with this current girlfriend or is just when she stays?

Just cook your own rather than get the passive aggressive backlash.

Spudthespanner · 03/10/2024 18:18

Whole situation is totally odd. I cook all the meals except for Sunday breakfast my husband likes to do big cooked breakfasts.

We eat at roughly the same time every night and if I'm not feeling like dinner (sometimes I skip entirely or just have soup) I'll let him know "it's soup tonight but if you want something more then you're seeing to yourself". He happily makes himself a simple pasta or stir fry dinner or pops to the shop for some burgers and buns.

Dinners and life in general don't need to be so complicated OP. You shouldn't be trying to read each other's minds.

BobbyBiscuits · 03/10/2024 18:16

I'm the main cook in the house and I will ask the others to tell me with a decent timeframe when they want to eat. If they don't say anything, and therefore I start cooking later then tough. It's ready when it's ready.
My dad used to borderline bully my mum to have the weekend lunch on the table at 12.30 sharp. Since he passed away she has never cooked since!
Can't blame her. Don't let anyone pressure you.

NoSquirrels · 03/10/2024 18:15

Why don’t you agree once that dinner time is X o’clock?

overindulged · 03/10/2024 18:14

It's fair enough him cooking the evening meals, but do you sit there while he makes your breakfast and lunch as well? That's odd.

SonicTheHodgeheg · 03/10/2024 18:12

I was going to say Yabu because I thought that you were my ex who once suggested that we had a predictable menu each week eg bolognese on a Wednesday.

Yanbu to say something like you want to eat dinner about 7pm every day because most people get hungry on a schedule. Doesn’t he feel hungry ?

GuestFeatu · 03/10/2024 18:09

This is super weird
He/she sounds controlling. If you're hungry and they aren't cooking then get up and cook yourself. If they would have an issue with this then they need to be more on the ball. Do they have a smaller appetite than you? Can't you make sandwiches or soup or simple lunch things for yourself (and them if they want?)

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