Started going to some baby groups with DD. Met lots of lovely mums with children about the same age. I really enjoy the classes and feel like I'm building a good network of people. I live in a high cost of living area (it is the only place I can afford because of the discounted rent). The other mums I have met are all very intelligent and successful people: thinks doctors, lawyers, surgeons, high flying Londoners. They inspire me and seeing their success motivates me to study and do better for myself. All positive so far.
There is one mum who seems to have snubbed me and I'm not sure how to go forward from here as our paths will cross frequently. She seemed very friendly, and I thought we were getting on well. She bought me a coffee (she insisted), we talked for a long time, went for a walk. I enjoyed her company and thought we had got on great. We greeted each other at the class the following week, she seemed a bit off so I didn't push it. She was avoiding eye contact, and when she spoke gave me a very forced smile.
I arranged to meet up with a different mum this week after our usual class. Afterwards the mum who seems to have a problem with me asked 'does anyone want coffee?' (not looking at me when she said it). The mum I had planned to go out with said we going out and invited her and a 4th mum along - the more the merrier. So 4 of us went out. She then paid for the 4th mums drink, sat at a small table with her essential creating two groups. I couldn't help but think she was doing the same thing with this mum (ie. Being very friendly to work out if they were competition or friend material). Shortly after we sat down next to them with our drinks she excused herself. We stayed for an hour and a half and had a lovely time.
I sent her a message with some info about an event we had spoken about 2 weeks ago but she never replied. The thing that hurt the most was that I saw her role her eyes whilst my baby was getting some attention from the person leading the group.
I know it's not a big deal, you can't expect to get on with everyone. It's strange because I had thought we got on well. It feels like she was being nice only to try and suss me out and then decided I wasn't good enough to be her friend - so complete rejection. The trouble is our paths will inevitably cross, how do I go from here?
Ps. I've never been one of the girls and am clueless about how to deal with friendship drama so any advice would be appreciated.
YABU - you are being over sensitive
YANBU - she has made it clear she doesn't want to socialise with you