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...to think I have the loveliest DH in the world?

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pollyglot · 02/10/2024 22:08

I'm sitting here in my well-worn and unglamorous pyjamas, laptop on my knee, working on my latest book. The sun is streaming in through the French windows, and spring has indeed sprung.
DH comes in with a coffee for me, and says..."You look so beautiful sitting there in the sun. I'm so proud of you, and the luckiest man alive."

Readers, I'm going on 75, and he is 76. I have glasses, wrinkles and gardening hands, carrying a little more avoirdupois than recommended. Beautiful I am not. Is he lovely, or what?

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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 02/10/2024 23:38

NahNotHavingIt · 02/10/2024 22:15

Sorry but the 'readers' thing grinds my gears, so it spoiled the mental image 😤🤣

But yes, happy for you both.

That spoilt it for me too. I HATE the twee 'reader....' bullshine too! 😬

Does anyone say this in real life? 😆

Glad you're happy though @pollyglot

4405cd · 02/10/2024 23:36

pollyglot · 02/10/2024 23:30

Msmbc · Today 23:20

That you met him just before 50 is the best thing about this, it gives me hope i can still find my person! (currently 43)

Oh, believe me, Msmbc, keep the faith. It is worth the wait! 50-ish is a great time, your best decade, in every way.

I am 60 and want your life . I have friend who is avoiding coming back to NZ ,lives in Cambridge…rubbish marriage I think !

MrsSkylerWhite · 02/10/2024 23:34

No, because that would be mine.

Your’s runs a damned fine second, though.

Acornsoup · 02/10/2024 23:31

This is the post that keeps on giving x

pollyglot · 02/10/2024 23:30

Msmbc · Today 23:20

That you met him just before 50 is the best thing about this, it gives me hope i can still find my person! (currently 43)

Oh, believe me, Msmbc, keep the faith. It is worth the wait! 50-ish is a great time, your best decade, in every way.

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BondStreet · 02/10/2024 23:27

Love this OP, you are indeed very lucky. Cherish one another x

Acornsoup · 02/10/2024 23:22

pollyglot · 02/10/2024 23:14

Acornsoup · Today 23:12

Could be. How long has it been op?

It's been only 25 years so far, Acorn. Perhaps it will take time to fade, do you think?

I think you are good 😍

HappyDane · 02/10/2024 23:22

He sounds fab, and YADefinitelyNBU, but you can't possibly have the loveliest DH in the world...because I've got him. ❤️

pollyglot · 02/10/2024 23:21

CheekyHobson · Today 23:16

Maybe the spring air is making NZ men feel particularly loving right now... I woke up to a message from my boyfriend the other morning saying he was thinking about how amazing I am and how lucky he is to be with me.
Glad you have a good one, OP, and please ignore the people trying to rain on your happiness.

Thanks, Cheeky. How lovely for you! Where are you? (Love the name - I remember her well...)

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Msmbc · 02/10/2024 23:20

That you met him just before 50 is the best thing about this, it gives me hope i can still find my person! (currently 43)

ohthejoys21 · 02/10/2024 23:19

I have one like yours op and I appreciate it more as it's a second marriage. I don't feel wildly happy, more a constant feeling of contentment and wanting to be with him. The best bit is that you appreciate him and don't take it for granted. Lovely post.

pollyglot · 02/10/2024 23:18

What a sample of my babies?

(Ahem) Not waiting to be asked, like Mary Bennet at her piano....

The quayside at the Pool of London from where their transport, HMS Arabella was to depart was filled with a crush of humanity. The blue coats of the Royal Artillery and the bright scarlet of the 65th Regiment of Foot created a cheerful picture, not reflected in the faces of the men themselves. Nor in most of the women, whose tear-streaked cheeks indicated that they had not been selected by the ballot to accompany their men on the voyage. The names of the fortunate ten per cent of wives who were permitted to sail were announced this very morning, thereby preventing any last-minute desertion. The wretched women whose husbands were to depart alone embraced their men, weeping in despair. To their skirts clung children, wailing in fear at the general air of misery. Just as Ellen had done, so many years before, they had travelled with hope to the port of departure. And just as Ellen, again, they had to return to their homes or to the villages of their relatives who might support them through the anxious separation, and very possible bereavement. They knew well the toll that overseas posting took on the soldiers. And for many of the women, without family or friends, the separation meant penury, starvation or death.

The fortunate women, carrying babies, bags and boxes, small cages with cackling chickens, even cages containing a cat, climbed the gangplank with joyful steps. Whatever hardship their men would face, they would face also. Some of them appeared to be at an alarmingly late stage of pregnancy, and Susanna wondered however they would survive a difficult birth on board, should such an event occur. Others were evidently the poorest of the poor, mothers with small children clad in thin, ragged clothing, with almost no baggage. What would be their fate during the winter in Newfoundland? How would they survive the conditions with so little protection from the cold? Just now, though, the winter was something abstract, not a reality. They had no concept of the extreme conditions. They believed simply that they were the lucky ones who were accompanying their men. For them, what could ever go wrong when they had their protector?

The loading of the consigned goods now being completed, HMS Arabella was ready to sail on the next tide. The men voyaging without their wives and children leaned as far as possible over the ship’s side, clinging to their wives’ hands for as long as they were able. The women wept profusely, and even the stoic men were seen to be wiping their eyes. Many would never meet again. The fortunate ones watched from the deck as the ship slipped out on the sunset tide, bound for the west and who knew what, all in the name of duty.

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Chaiilatte · 02/10/2024 23:17

🥰 🫶🏼

SkiingIsHeaven · 02/10/2024 23:16

" Avoirdupois" I love that word. I'm going to start using that.

He sounds lovely. You are both very lucky.

CheekyHobson · 02/10/2024 23:16

Maybe the spring air is making NZ men feel particularly loving right now... I woke up to a message from my boyfriend the other morning saying he was thinking about how amazing I am and how lucky he is to be with me.

Glad you have a good one, OP, and please ignore the people trying to rain on your happiness.

pollyglot · 02/10/2024 23:14

Acornsoup · Today 23:12

Could be. How long has it been op?

It's been only 25 years so far, Acorn. Perhaps it will take time to fade, do you think?

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mrlistersgelfbride · 02/10/2024 23:14

I'm nearly half your age and don't believe in love anymore....but you seem to have found it!
How gorgeous 🥰
So happy for you both!

Acornsoup · 02/10/2024 23:12

Could be. How long has it been op? ☺️

simonsayss · 02/10/2024 23:11

I think we can all agree that by 75 we hope be in the company of such love and comfort.

MorrisZapp · 02/10/2024 23:10

Classic love bombing 🚩🚩🚩

Emiline · 02/10/2024 23:09

What an uplifting post. My DH is not always perfect in my eyes and I’m sure I’m not always perfect in his either but he utterly adores me and me him. Write that book @pollyglot.

To the people who don’t understand why spring has sprung, not all on this forum live in the UK. It’s so short sighted to presume that. I often see posts with faux surprise that other countries have different school holidays to England or the weather is colder/hotter at different times of the year. For goodness sake widen your knowledge of different countries.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 02/10/2024 23:07

Beautiful I am not

Bollocks to that. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. He has beheld you, and found you full of beauty. Therefore you are beautiful.

Nsky62 · 02/10/2024 23:06

How lovely

pollyglot · 02/10/2024 23:03

Thank you, everyone for your lovely posts. I'm so happy to hear how much love there is out there, and how much joy.

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AllAboutNiamh · 02/10/2024 23:02

DonnaBanana · 02/10/2024 22:35

It’s very nice. It’s a lot easier for older men to be romantic once they give up their youthful male ego and realise they haven’t got a chance to get anyone else anymore so will be nicer to you

That’s a bit cynical. I’ve been with my husband for 30 years and he’s been romantic and devoted throughout.

I love to hear about great marriages and lovely husbands on here.

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