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To be loosing my mind over DC using bottled microplastic-y water for years

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ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 17:42

Would really appreciate some perspective as I’m struggling massively. DH is anti-tap water - regular boil notices in our area - so our house has been drinking solely from 5 gallon drums + a water cooler for years. A friend mentioned microplastics in bottled water to me yesterday - I hadn’t made any link with our water until then - and now I’ve fallen down a horrible google rabbithole. According to one university study, my small kids have injested up to a trillion particles over this time, most of which will never leave their blood. I know that there is no conclusive evidence around plastics and cancer / health risks but it looks like just a matter of time.

Have moved to tap water and generally low plastic anyway but really feeling like we’ve massively fucked up here and set the kids up for lots of health issues etc. and that it’s totally unrecoverable. And yes I know there are microplastics everywhere but bottled water seems to be far and away the worst offender and they’ve been drinking litres every day for years.

I’ve removed voting for this as think that lots of votes confirming that this is a problem will trip me over the edge totally. Would just really appreciate some support and a handhold I guess as I just feel so so awful! Thanks very much

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ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 21:03

@Pingpongglitch ‘’Sure, there are dangers in being uninformed but they pale in comparison to being only partially informed’’ - so true!

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LostittoBostik · 02/10/2024 20:55

There's microplastics in breastmilk. No point worrying to much about this. What's the solution? Starve or dehydrate to death?

juniperbramble · 02/10/2024 20:54

There is nothing you can do about the past. As parents we all make errors of judgement, and you weren't even aware you were making one!
All we can do is our best with the information then available to us. You did. So give yourself a little grace there.

New info has now become available, and you take this seriously and adjust your children's environment as far as within your control. These are all the hallmarks of a good parent.

Our kids will have lots of challenges coming their way. But one of the best protective mechanisms allowing them to cope with these challenges is a supportive and warm family. I think prioritising that is always a good idea.

Pingpongglitch · 02/10/2024 20:46

Stop reading scaremongering click baity headlines studies if you can't control your paranoia and anxiety.

Read this and/or some of the reference material
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dihydrogen_monoxide_parody

To see how various people became overwrought about plain old water.

At the moment, your kids don't have a microplastics problem, they have a anxious mother problem.

There are all sorts of things that get scary when you consult Professor Google too much without being able to keep things in proportion.

Sure, there are dangers in being uninformed but they pale in comparison to being only partially informed.

Put the internet down and play with your children instead.

Dihydrogen monoxide parody - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dihydrogen_monoxide_parody

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 20:38

And thanks @Pyroleus for the advice, I do need to step away from google / research as my logical head knows that these things don’t exist in a vacuum - the results mightn’t hold for reusable plastics, instead of water they might have been drinking juice or milk out of plastic, it might be sensationalist as @AreYouBrandNew said

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ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 20:24

Sorry @OhBeAFineGuyKissMe, didn’t mean to come across as defensive - am definitely not at my best at the moment! I appreciate you taking the time to respond and while I am trying to apply the logic to my head, the worry and guilt is overwhelming.

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doodleschnoodle · 02/10/2024 20:21

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:45

@OhBeAFineGuyKissMe definitely not enjoying this. Would you be ok with your kids drinking bottled water since they were babies and then reading this Study which looks fairly legit. And you having made that decision for them?

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But that study doesn't even say what the actual consequences are? In fact it says they don't actually know and this study might help the find out, so the 'if they survive' thing seems extremely OTT. People have been drinking and eating out of plastic for years and years. I'm sure it's not ideal but it's hardly a death sentence.

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 02/10/2024 20:20

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:45

@OhBeAFineGuyKissMe definitely not enjoying this. Would you be ok with your kids drinking bottled water since they were babies and then reading this Study which looks fairly legit. And you having made that decision for them?

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I lived in countries where the water was not safe to drink so yes they drank bottled water, exactly as you described. Both have lived to adulthood. You are being ridiculous. You need to get this in to proportion, the amount of microplastics will not harm them, it certainly won’t kill them in the next 10years.

And no,I don’t respect a news site reporting on one scientific paper as I have seen too many examples of them sensationalising and exaggerating the claims from the paper.

Your anxiety is spiralling and you do need help with that.
edit: to fix typo

AreYouBrandNew · 02/10/2024 20:20

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:45

@OhBeAFineGuyKissMe definitely not enjoying this. Would you be ok with your kids drinking bottled water since they were babies and then reading this Study which looks fairly legit. And you having made that decision for them?

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It’s sensationalist reporting - move on, eat healthily, use less (plastic) going forward.

the worry and guilt will do nothing

Pyroleus · 02/10/2024 20:13

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 18:42

@Pyroleus i suspect that living my best life will involve anxiety meds as I’m properly freaking out about this!

I appreciated it's hard to let go, but by getting anxious about something you cannot change you are achieving nothing. You are actually actively harming yourself and to some extent your children. Be the best parent you can be! Do you want to be the anxious fretting obsessive parent, or the one who holds their hands up, says we made a mistake, fixed it from now on, and then shrugs it off and is a happy optimistic influence? The latter creates a much better home atmosphere and also models positive behaviour to them for the future.
You probably can't stop thinking about it for a while, but don't actively dwell on it or research it, choose to do and think about other things, and it will fade. And then you know how to deal with the next time you "screw up" with your parenting decisions (because there will be loads of times and you need to be able to move past them).

NiftyKoala · 02/10/2024 19:54

Pyroleus · 02/10/2024 18:10

I have no idea about the science of this, but there is no point worrying about it either way. Either they have micro plastics on their blood or they don't, but you can't get them out anyway so there's nothing you can do. Just change your ways from now on (sounds like you already have) and get on with living your best lives.

Agreed. There are so many worries in life. We can walk outside and get hit by a bus.

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:45

@OhBeAFineGuyKissMe definitely not enjoying this. Would you be ok with your kids drinking bottled water since they were babies and then reading this Study which looks fairly legit. And you having made that decision for them?

Bottled water packed with nanoplastics, study finds | CNN

Bottled water contains millions of small particles, thousands of which are nanoplastics so tiny they can invade the body’s cells, a study finds.

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2024/01/08/health/bottled-water-nanoplastics-study-wellness

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Justice4Friend · 02/10/2024 19:26

sorrythetruthhurts · 02/10/2024 19:15

Brita filters are also plastic.

The water passes through the filter for a matter of seconds and straight into your glass - it's not stored in the filter!

BadBanda · 02/10/2024 19:23

What about a Berkey water filter?

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 02/10/2024 19:20

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:05

@sewsewsewyourboat thanks very much for that, the studies are dire reading and am trying to remind myself that a) it mightn’t be as bad as they indicate and b) we can just change going forward and if they survive the next 10 years their plastic blood levels might have reduced somewhat

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Can you not see how overblown this is.IF they survive the next 10 years!!!!

The amount of microplastic from drinking water from a water cooler will not kill your kids.

I think you might enjoy panicking yourself and are building yourself up and up.

sorrythetruthhurts · 02/10/2024 19:15

Justice4Friend · 02/10/2024 18:47

Wasted your money for years there.

Just use a filter like Brita.
Boil and reuse - cheaper than buying bottled water.

As for the indigestion of harmful particles - they are everywhere, clothes, teflon, cookware.
Are your utensils free of coatings?
Your clothes natural fibres?
Do you live away from a main road?
Your food totally organic and cooked from scratch?

Unless you live in a tribe unaffected by the modern world - you can't escape it.

Reminds me of my 70 plus years old neighbour, he changed his iron water pipes to some other material - in new builds it happens but old homes you only do it for you're renovating.
His home is nice, old generation, that kept up to date on home renovations.
Can't believe he wasted his money having them ripped out and replaced, like at his age it'll make any difference! Plus, what about the rest of the water works infrastructure that is iron, his water still has to flow through that.

People need real problems.

Brita filters are also plastic.

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:14

@CharlotteLucas3 hadn’t thought of that, thank you

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Balkanbabies · 02/10/2024 19:12

Hi
, sorry if someone else already said this.

Where I live (Balkan country) no one drinks tap water. There is a filter you can attach to your tap to make the water drinkable and you have to get part of it changed every year. Initial cost is €200 and another 100 every year.

Good luck!

CharlotteLucas3 · 02/10/2024 19:12

Op I have a huge health anxiety problems and I drink bottled water. The tap water in our area of Yorkshire is absolutely disgusting and smells like a swimming pool.

No I'm sure your kids don't have 1000 times the average microplastic levels because many kids drink soft drinks from plastic bottles. I imagine they're worse because the kids are more likely to cause damage to the bottles as they're drinking.

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:12

@Iamthemoom am looking into this now, thank you

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PortiasBiscuit · 02/10/2024 19:11

Fuck sake, there are millions of children in the world who don’t even have clean water, try getting a sense of proportion,

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:11

Btw appreciate all the replies, am reading and re-reading to try and keep the panic down!

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Iamthemoom · 02/10/2024 19:10

Can you get a good filter for your tap? We don't drink tap water (it's another rabbit hole you can go down with chlorine, traces of medication etc in the system plus the awful taste and personally I'd rather ingest microplastics than the stuff in tap water) We switched from bottled to a really good filtration system on our tap, it goes through three different filters. The brand is Water for Health.

HÆLTHEPAIN · 02/10/2024 19:10

Not what you asked, but we have one of these and love it. Do you have anything similar in your country?

www.bibowater.co.uk

ByeByeBabyBabyTooth · 02/10/2024 19:07

@Justice4Friendyes I know we’ll all have them in us eventually, I’m just afraid that my kids have 1000 times what is normal because of my water choices for them …

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