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Feeling down after baby's 10 month review with the Health Visitor

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user242526 · 02/10/2024 16:52

Hi,

My baby had her 10 month review with her Health Visitor yesterday and I feel a bit down.

Accordingly to the Health Visitor she's a bit behind - she said she's not too concerned as baby could pick up and be where she needs to be. She said she's going to get back in touch in around twelve months and see where to go from there.

She gave me a questionnaire to fill out that asks about different skills.

The ones she doesn't yet do are:

Clapping
Waving
Pointing to an object she wants
Following simple instructions such as 'give'
She says 'gee' and 'boo' but doesn't say mammammama or dadadada.

She does sit unaided, crawl, pick objects up, pass them from hand to hand etc.

Should I be worried? What else can I do to help her?

I just feel down and I feel like the above is probably quite a lot of things to be behind with :/

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bakewellbride · 02/10/2024 17:38

Please don't worry at all! I honestly hate all this kind of milestone stuff, it causes so much unnecessary worry and stress for new mums.

As a baby my eldest literally sat like a potato all day and was happy to watch the world go by. Was late to do bloody everything.

He's 6 now, doing amazingly at school, glowing reports, loads of friends, doing great at beavers, has won gymnastics medals.

Please just relax and enjoy your child. In a few years they all just run around in a big playground together and you can't tell who walked at 9 months or 18 months or anything like that. Enjoy your child Flowers

Notreat · 02/10/2024 17:36

user242526 · 02/10/2024 17:16

Initially I thought the questionnaire is just a guideline. Some kids to more some kids do less but when she said she thinks she's slightly behind and wants to do a review in three months it worried me a bit

That was probably because the check should take place between 10 and 12 months and babies develop a lot in a coupe if months.
Also all babies develop at different rates.
I don't think think you need to worry.

amiold · 02/10/2024 17:36

I've just had my baby's review last week. He claps, crawls, babbles. Will not give a toy 😂

He seems very similar to your baby but hv said he was fine. I wouldn't panic at all!

DinosaurMunch · 02/10/2024 17:34

Crawling by 10 months is ok I think? Mine both crawled at 9 months which seemed average among people I knew at the time. Also clapped at 9 months. There was definitely no meaningful speech though. There's always a range, I don't think yours can be considered "behind" for quite a while yet, possibly in the latter half of normal.

I know a child who walked at 10 months and one who walked at 22 months. Both of them are completely normal now.

Lonutay · 02/10/2024 17:33

I had to reschedule DS's 10 month review. If he had gone to it, we would've been told he was a bit behind in some areas. When we finally had our review at 13 months, he was bang on track for absolutely everything expected between 12-14 months.

Babies honestly develop in their own time. They focus on certain skills at different times, and inevitably they'll be up in some areas and down in others. But it all comes together!

RikkiVictorious · 02/10/2024 17:28

We had a similar thing at around 1 year. I filled the questionnaire in but it was made clear that they did not expect every child to be able to do everything on it. Mine is 2 and I'm pretty sure they've only started saving quite recently.

Try not to worry, sounds like your little one is doing just fine.

Robodogbringthedinopatroller · 02/10/2024 17:27

They only say it’s 9-12 months because they can’t manage demand if they do all the appts at 12mo. They didn’t do them early pre-Covid.

YourLastNerve · 02/10/2024 17:25

Honestly don't panic at all. Your baby sounds absolutely fine. Did the HV actually say "shes a bit behind"? In those words? Or are you sort of inferring more from it?

Robodogbringthedinopatroller · 02/10/2024 17:23

I refused to attend the 12 month review they scheduled for my baby at 9mo - the tests and thresholds are for 12mo not younger. Even when we did go at 12mo my baby wasn’t meeting her milestones. By 15 months she was and by 2 she was far beyond the 2yo milestones. Don’t worry at all, there is so much variation.

Twinklestarhere · 02/10/2024 17:16

For my last 2 babies what's meant to be the 1 year review has been done at around 10 months.

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user242526 · 02/10/2024 17:16

Initially I thought the questionnaire is just a guideline. Some kids to more some kids do less but when she said she thinks she's slightly behind and wants to do a review in three months it worried me a bit

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user242526 · 02/10/2024 17:15

The review is supposed to be between 9-12 months. She's 10 months old

Feeling down after baby's 10 month review with the Health Visitor
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YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 02/10/2024 17:14

Mine couldn't do half those at 14 month review (delayed 12 month!) in fact I'm not sure she ever crawled 😬 honestly don't worry, she sounds like she's doing amazingly for 10 months.

underhedges · 02/10/2024 17:12

I don't think a 10 month old review is a standard appointment. Continue doing what you have been and she'll be fine.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 02/10/2024 16:56

10 months is still tiny. We didn't have a check until 1 year and even in that time there can be a big difference. Don't be worried.

genesis92 · 02/10/2024 16:55

No you shouldn't be worried. I don't think many 10 months old do those things. Shouldn't it be a 1 year review? It seems like you've had the appointment at least 2 months too early

Shocked the HV has made you worried for no reason