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AIBU to expect my husband to wear a... slightly impractical... halloween costume?

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KimPossible91 · 02/10/2024 12:36

My whole family have Toy Story themed costumes for halloween this year, we always do a family theme for my neighbour's party

Last night was the big try-on and all was great except for my husband. His costume is a big inflatable Buzz Lightyear that he was really excited about. It's so funny on but his problem is that it all fastens up at the back and there's no way he can get in and out of it without my help 😂

I don't see the issue at all, I can help with bathroom trips and obviously get him out at the end but he was just mortified about being "trapped" last night 😄 He's also got some concern it's really big for fitting through doors and hard to sit down but the fact he can't do it himself is the biggest thing and he's just finding other excuses too

He'd rather mess up the whole family theme to avoid wearing it, but I think he should because it's fun and a minor thing. AIBU?

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Newbie887 · 02/10/2024 13:25

He can’t fit through doors and he can’t take a piss unless he comes and finds you, interrupts you talking / drinking / having fun, and you take him to the toilet 🤣 yes yabu!! I get it, I have adhd and when I start hyperfocusing on something then it’s hard to regain a sense of perspective. But this is too much 🤣

sundayagainagain · 02/10/2024 13:24

I love watching people at the Halloween party at Disney World. It’s great.

But an inflatable costume is just unimaginative and very uncomfortable.
And £70 worth of plastic landfill.
And the aliens in the film are unisex and don’t even wear dresses.

dudsville · 02/10/2024 13:23

This isn't my kind of thing but I can see that you would all have a lot of fun, and I smiled when I read your post. It's a great idea to swap costumes (why can't he be a girl alien?) and talking about that would be part of the fun of the night. If not, you still have plenty of time to find something he can get in and out of.

MerryMarys · 02/10/2024 13:21

The whole thing sounds dreadful.
No to a Halloween party
No to fancy dress

And a waste of money/resources!

JazzTheDog · 02/10/2024 13:17

Could he not just go as Andy? Jeans, T-shirt with a toy buzz or woody?

ilovesooty · 02/10/2024 13:17

Leeds2 · 02/10/2024 13:04

If I were your DH, I would be quite happily staying at home.

So would I. No way would I go to a party in a constricting costume like that.

AllAboutNiamh · 02/10/2024 13:15

Leeds2 · 02/10/2024 13:04

If I were your DH, I would be quite happily staying at home.

Me too! Sounds hellish.

Waltdisnerd · 02/10/2024 13:15

If I wear him I'd wear it for an hour for some pics. It won't kill him

colourfulchinadolls · 02/10/2024 13:14

If its no big deal then you can go as buzz.

I detest fancy dress abd would be very unimpressed if my DH (or anyone) tried to force me to participate.

Does he normally enjoy these fancy dress events or is it more your thing?

godmum56 · 02/10/2024 13:14

sadeightiesthrowback · 02/10/2024 13:10

Why can he not go to the party wearing the costume for maybe for an hour before the refreshments kick in and you must accompany him to the toilet?
Everyone could have their laughs from the costume and then, maybe he can wear some more basic easy costume for the rest of the party?
Aside from the usual cracks from guests about how will he do anything 'practical', which sounds like will embarrass him, you all can enjoy the rest of the party?

because HE DOES NOT WANT TO

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 02/10/2024 13:13

KimPossible91 · 02/10/2024 13:08

I mean a ladies costume of the Toy Story alien haha.. it's a dress. (a dress with a zip on the back that he had to help me with... kinda same scenario anyway 😂)

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So you get to wear a dress but he has to wear a fucking massive inflatable?

Fuck. That. You wear the fucking thing

And I say that as someone who loves fancy dress. If he is happy to be Buzz get him a different costume

Sia8899 · 02/10/2024 13:12

I also wouldn’t like a costume I couldn’t go to the toilet alone in.

You wear Buzz Lightyear, he wears the dress (which is the easiest item of clothing to go to the toilet in), all sorted!!

TheChosenTwo · 02/10/2024 13:10

omg I hate fancy dress and decline all invites
to any party with a fancy dress dress code!

your dh is being a good enough sport about this, just let him pick a costume he can go to the loo in. Do you have to go as the same theme, you say you always have but that doesn’t mean you have to forever.

sundayagainagain · 02/10/2024 13:10

You could dress up as a crying with laughter emoji, OP.

sadeightiesthrowback · 02/10/2024 13:10

Why can he not go to the party wearing the costume for maybe for an hour before the refreshments kick in and you must accompany him to the toilet?
Everyone could have their laughs from the costume and then, maybe he can wear some more basic easy costume for the rest of the party?
Aside from the usual cracks from guests about how will he do anything 'practical', which sounds like will embarrass him, you all can enjoy the rest of the party?

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KimPossible91 · 02/10/2024 13:08

Alicana · 02/10/2024 13:05

What’s a ladies alien? I thought they all looked the same, unisex? It’s been a while since I watched it though!

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I mean a ladies costume of the Toy Story alien haha.. it's a dress. (a dress with a zip on the back that he had to help me with... kinda same scenario anyway 😂)

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TwistedWonder · 02/10/2024 13:07

Leeds2 · 02/10/2024 13:04

If I were your DH, I would be quite happily staying at home.

Have to agree but then I’d rather poke myself in the eye with a sharp stick than wear fancy dress

helgel · 02/10/2024 13:06

Buy him a big nappy and tell him to stop moaning.

Alicana · 02/10/2024 13:05

KimPossible91 · 02/10/2024 12:59

Wow the people have spoken haha!

I'm going to try on Buzz Lightyear later but of course I need his help to do it 😂😂 I'd be happy enough wearing it and I also am pretty sure I could escape from it myself... to attempt later 😮

I'll need to get something else for him because my costume was a very ladies alien 🤣

What’s a ladies alien? I thought they all looked the same, unisex? It’s been a while since I watched it though!

FuckMiniBabybells · 02/10/2024 13:04

Can he wear it for an hour for pics, but put shorts and t shirt on underneath, fashion a box to wear on his head and he can be andy dressed as buzz for the rest of the night..

AIBU to expect my husband to wear a... slightly impractical... halloween costume?
Leeds2 · 02/10/2024 13:04

If I were your DH, I would be quite happily staying at home.

DisforDarkChocolate · 02/10/2024 13:03

Get another costume. It's supposed to be fun.

booisbooming · 02/10/2024 13:02

You be Buzz if you like it so much! And if the poor guy agrees to be Woody or something then he's still doing more than most people would.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/10/2024 13:01

I don’t think it’s a good idea for anyone to be wearing a costume that they can’t get in and out of for a party.

Can you not take it back and buy a more “ordinary” buzz costume?

TwistedWonder · 02/10/2024 12:59

I hate fancy dress and theme parties so I might be biased but I don’t get how him wearing an uncomfortable costume where he can’t even take a piss without help is ‘fun’ in any way shape or form.