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I know there unreasonable but £30 is insane!

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FranksBank · 02/10/2024 12:05

To spend on someone you don't really like. For Sectet Santa

I am very PT and have been asked to arrange this, with them saying 'we knew you wouldn't want to join in because you don't celebrate it' Confused I do actually celebrate it but I'll gladly let them think I don't now!

Anyway, the budget the person asking me to arrange it has set is £30. They want me to send out the email asking people to opt in, and mention it's a £30 budget.

AIBU to actually ask what madness has embedded within her to think this is a fair amount?

I said 'Is that not very high?' And she said 'Sent it out after Halloween! They'll have time to save, won't they?' And she seemed very smug to announce this obvious information

It's a school. Nobody is rich.

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crockofshite · 02/10/2024 12:10

Start the email with..... Mary has asked me to share this with everyone. Then put whatever bollocks she's decided on and leave them to it.

You could also end the message with the suggestion they should contact Mary with any queries.😊

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FranksBank · 02/10/2024 12:09

@Chowtime £30 is 50% of some people's food shop budget. A lot of people are really skint right now. I can afford it but don't want to spend £30! On a colleague

They already go for a meal with all school staff over 2 separate dates - You pick the one you can attend

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Kevinisnotacatname · 02/10/2024 12:09

£30 is crazy for secret Santa - especially in a school! £10 is more than adequate

Chowtime · 02/10/2024 12:08

Hmm I dunno really. £30 isn't that much money anymore - I mean, you can't buy a lot with £30 so I don't think £30 for secret santa is unreasonable.

And it's optional, so if you don't want to do it you don't have to.

This is why I'm glad that me and my friends and colleagues always just arrange a nice meal out at christmas rather than buying gifts. We all have what we want, we really just want to spend time with friends occasionally and eat good food.

Why don't you suggest a meal out instead?

Notsuchafattynow · 02/10/2024 12:07

Don't do it!

Everyone will think you've set the budget. Refuse!

DinosaurMunch · 02/10/2024 12:06

Just say no, people would rather it was a fiver. 30 is too much

Littlemisscapable · 02/10/2024 12:06

Yes mad. But secret santa is just awful regardless of how much is spent..is there nothing else that can be done to celebrate Xmas.?

DrRichardWebber · 02/10/2024 12:06

I’m horrified! £30 is outrageous. I wouldn’t participate.

BIossomtoes · 02/10/2024 12:06

Tell her to do it herself.

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FranksBank · 02/10/2024 12:05

Thread title should say 'they're'

And it's Secret Santa Grin not sectet

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