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To be annoyed that he's obsessed with walking everywhere?

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Rizzo8 · 01/10/2024 23:10

Or am I the lazy one?

My partner and I went on holiday earlier this year and he wanted to be in quiet accommodation away from the busy area. So we stayed in a place that required a 25 min walk into town every day. In the end it was lovely because it was an island.

Now he's moved house, location is again a half hour walk into town. If I want to take the bus he hates it, so I usually just get the bus if I'm by myself

Last week we went for a long weekend and stayed in a flat 30 mins outside the centre. We walked back in the evening but in the morning when I said I wanted to take the bus (with my 2 bags) he gave me a hard time! Saying if I didn't want to walk now could I walk and do all our other plans later. I was properly annoyed and told him straight taking a bus is a normal thing people do every day and that's what we'd be doing. Which we did.

I just don't understand this behaviour at all?

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SummerInSun · 01/10/2024 23:21

In that situation, you tell him, "that's fine if you'll carry the bag. If not, I'm getting the bus." You do you. Let him do him.

Heelworkhero · 01/10/2024 23:19

I would always walk 30 minutes rather than use a bus, for sure.

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Rizzo8 · 01/10/2024 23:19

The thing that bothers me most is him arguing with me when I want to take a simple bus ride. I feel bullied for wanting to do a normal thing.

Last weekend I had a very heavy bag and an additional bag. Walking 30 mins to our destination would've been uncomfortable and he wasn't rushing to help me carry a bag.

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SummerInSun · 01/10/2024 23:19

Not enough information to judge. How far is the walk? How long does the bus take including the amount of time you have to wait for it and how frequently does it come? How much walking is involved once you get where you are going? Is it chucking it down raining or a nice day? Is this walking the only exercise you will get in the day? Are you pressed for time? In general, though, more walking can only be a good thing, irrespective of your age or fitness level.

I live in London so walk or take the tube but wouldn't take a bus as by the time you wait for it to come, then it gets stuck in traffic, then it stops every few hundred metres, you can almost always walk where you are going faster. According to my Garmin watch, I walk about 10km per day. That's walking kids from home to the tube, tube stop to school, back to the tube, tube to office, popping out of the office at lunchtime to buy lunch, walk back to tube at the end of the day, then tube home. I don't think of that as exercise, that's just life.

5foot5 · 01/10/2024 23:18

For a walk up to 30 minutes then, no, I wouldn't bother with the bus either.

casapenguin · 01/10/2024 23:17

I would always rather walk 30 minutes than take a bus but I wouldn’t say either of you is unreasonable. Walking is free, decent exercise and can be good for well-being- so for me it’s a win- win to walk half an hour. But it doesn’t mean it’s always the ‘right’ thing to do!

CoastalCalm · 01/10/2024 23:16

At least he’s walking to a known destination , my DH just walks without a care in the world when we go away and he walks fast so I just lag behind shouting where are you going !

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Rizzo8 · 01/10/2024 23:15

@ODFOx it depends. Some weeks he is out every day and others he works from home

Even when out and about he never takes transport. Says 'i never take the bus' like it's an achievement. I'm not much looking forward to winter.

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ODFOx · 01/10/2024 23:14

Does he have a sedentary job? I'm at a desk all day so pottering about all day is a treat for me. Riding a bus is not.