To be annoyed that he's obsessed with walking everywhere?

You're on here saying you're annoyed by him, I suspect he is annoyed by you and sees you as lazy, hence the resentment at helping with the bags

Does he think you are lazy, are you lazy?

I used to be lazy and now I see how much it would have annoyed and limited my OH. I would now walk and I certainly wouldnt get a bus unless there was an extreme need, however if the journey was difficult by foot I would drive so its right to be flexible

However you describe him as being 'obsessed' with walking, I thought you were going to be saying he has to do 10 mile hikes or something, thats not obsessed, its just walking a normal short distance rather than waiting around for the bus, making sure you have means to pay, being on the bus with possibily anti social behaviour, etc etc, so he walks it, thats a normal thing to do, not abnormal yet you make it outs abnormal

I am like your DH in my relationship.Drives me crackers that my DH takes the bus or a taxi to save a 20 minute walk. We try to comprimise eg: walk there, cab back. The expense and faff does annoy me though.

I'd walk up to an hour before I take a bus. Hate waiting for buses. Haven't taken bus for years as I can cycle anywhere a bus goes to if it's more than an hour of walking.
But he's unreasonable not helping you with the bags and being understanding that carrying heavy bags and walking half an hour is difficult.

There needs to be some compromise, he sounds very rigid. I walk as a general rule, but not if it's chucking it down, really hot or I have heavy bags. It seems ludicrous to insist on walking when it's not practical, or you will arrive at your destination soaking wet, etc.

Neither if us have got a bus in our ten years together, however he walks and I drive. I don't know if it's an autism thing, but he won't get in the car. So I drive to his sister's for example, about 40 mins away and he walks a D takes the train then walks again. He walks to work, 7 miles return. He is fit and healthy I am overweight so it does him good.

It depends if your a walking type person or not, I know I would do the walk and not be bothered but half my mates definitely would not and would think they was doing a hike walking for that long 😂

If you are moderately fit a 30 min walk is nothing. We are both big walkers and doing it regularly does wonders for your physical and mental health. However if you don't want to, that is your business not his.

On heavy bags he does need to listen to you. I put my foot down recently crossing Paris - Mr Monkey wanted to walk (we had just taken a 4.5 hour train journey so he was itching to stretch his legs) but I had a really heavy duffel bag - his suitcase was on wheels. So we got the RER.

Why the bags unless you were leaving/arriving?
Did you have baby stuff to carry? Shopping?

Loads of red flags here.

Time for a rethink.

I live on a bus route and it is pretty much always pissing it down here, plus walking takes so much longer - I just want to get where I'm going as quickly as possible. So I'd choose the bus.
But what worries me more is that he's not listening to you, especially if you are in pain. Men like this don't get any better, I'd really keep an eye on this. Ignore all the judgemental nellies on here saying you're lazy or whatever. If you don't want to walk that's up to you, you shouldn't be dictated to. If he wants to walk he can.

Do you know him?

He sounds like a bit of an arse with regards to this OP, and I say that as someone who loves a walk and will walk as much as possible rather than take public transport.

Carrying heavy bags for half an hour though, no ta. That's not fun. And it seems like he didn't want to do the carrying either but he expected you to be up for it!? So he gets a nice walk and you're meant to feel uncomfortable with fibro and doing all the carrying? Nah.

I'd be having a sit down (definitely not a walk!) with him and telling him how much his selfish attitude is irritating you, because really, this is what this is about. It sounds like you compromise with the walking, whereas he seems to become quite insufferable any time you say "not today" to the walk. Gauge his reaction and take it from there.

I get very motionsick in a bus so would always chose walking over the bus where possible. I know many find the proximity of strangers hard too. Could that be his issue?

Going forward I would make it clear if he wants to walk he is expected to carry bags for you as your compromise.

However I agree 20-30 mins is an easy walk I would not be getting the bus.

@Rizzo8

how long have you been together?

have you tried booking accommodation closer into the main area?

Do you think you're really compatible?

Are you looking for solutions or just to vent?

just read your latest posts. If yourebin
pain, just tell him 'no I'm in pain/too tired/ be.'

ok you carry these & I'll walk with you.

or just say 'NO' Do as you please, I'm getting the bus.

If it is literally just that, maybe it's not LTB-worthy.

I'd turn it into a joke, "FFS Frodo, give the walking a rest."

What was his reaction?

Which one are you? The rude one? The one that doesn't read the thread (OP has pain issues)?

Yes, you're the lazy one.

And there's no point continuing the relationship if you both can't agree on such a minor thing. How will you agree on things that are actually important?

I always walk if I can, but then I’m the designated bag carrier. DP does not carry anything other than her handbag.

I'd take a very dim view of that indeed. Is there any reason why you can't say, "I'll do as I please and I don't need to justify my decision to you"?

He's not your manager and you aren't staff.

If it's painful for you to walk then no, he should take the bus with you.

My ex-husband always pushed me physically if I was in pain. I was always very active, a dancer, I did triathlons and if I said no it meant I was really hurting.

I will never again ignore my own pain to make someone else happy.

This isn't about the walking vs bus, its about you not feeling listened to.

If you have 2 bags and he isn't offering to carry one even to a car, then that would signal the end for me.

Rizzo8

"The thing that bothers me most is him arguing with me when I want to take a simple bus ride. I feel bullied for wanting to do a normal thing."

How long have you been together. If you feel bullied, I would get out.

Whether you like walking or not, the key thing is that your choices are valid and you should not feel bullied.