To be annoyed that he's obsessed with walking everywhere?

How do you know if the area is heavy with traffic. Could be a straight run for all you know.

I am a huge walker - walk around 8 miles most days and love walking, it's my transport of choice.

But 25 minute walk plus bags, or in heels for a night out? Nah, I'm getting the bus.

Just ask him to carry one of the bags.

Yes, do use a bus occasionally and it is generally a miserable experience (crowded, often noisy and certainly not cheap) hence my personal choice to walk whenever possible.

When working it used to take me 50-minutes to walk to the train station so yes, the bus would have been quicker. Trouble is that the (hourly) bus has to come in from another town and was often late which meant I could easily miss my train.
Walking removed this possibility entirely.

I’m a walker too.

In this case why on earth didn’t you just give him the bag to carry rather than waiting for him to ask?

It also takes two to argue. If I was not prepared to argue I would just say right I’m taking the bus. You can walk if you want to. That would be the end of it.

Is he being cheap and not wanting to spend on bus fair?

If it’s a city bus probably. I can walk from my village to the local town in 40 minutes. The bus takes an hour.

I feel like you’d hate me OP 🙈 anything under 30 minute walk is “just around the corner”.
I walk as much as a can. Always have done.

How many posters on here have actually taken a bus?? 10 minutes walk it's borderline which will be quicker, with stops, traffic etc. Over a 30 minute walk, a bus will virtually ALWAYS be quicker. You guys are delulu, as the young folk say.

I am a walker so tend to walk everywhere I can (heavy shopping trips excepted) regardless of the weather.

Got fed up waiting for busses that were either late or never arrived whereas if walking you know exactly how long it will take to get somewhere.
When going into town I hate trying to park so again, walking makes it much more straightforward.
Generally I will walk up to 1hr (each way) before I will think about a bus/car.

When I used to have to (occasionally) go into London for work I would almost always walk from the mainline station. Used to make me smile when on strike days, people were wandering around totally lost. Some even realised that the tube journey they normally made took no-longer walking as the stations were so close together plus there were no crowded platforms or escalators to navigate.

Sympathies if you can't walk for medical reasons in which case yes, he should be more considerate but walking instead of waiting for a bus, a non-issue for me.

As a non driver I used to walk everywhere and wonder why the rest of the driving population was so lazy. Then I became chronically ill and had to take the stick out my ass and realise 30 minutes walking adds up and there was nothing wrong with getting a bus.

Neither of you are wrong, just incompatibility on this issue.

Despite the fact that a bus for that short journey will probably not save you any time compared to walking anyway, due to delays with getting stuck in traffic etc?

I’d happily walk half an hour (I’m proper tubby and unfit so I’m not an enthusiastic mover) ) but not with heavy bags. If DH suggested it he’d have to carry the bags.

I wouldn't walk for 30 mins if there was a bus available. What a waste of time.

I love walking, and it is my preference over short distances but like you, don’t want to do it all the time - and would have been pissed off at being argued with if I was carrying shopping and wanted to take it back on the bus, because walking with shopping bags is annoying and sometimes takes more effort than one has the energy for. It’s not great that he didn’t offer to take them for you.

But of course they are! This is MN! Competitive undereating, competitive underspending, competitive walking...

I'm someone who tries to get my 10k steps in every day, no matter what the weather, so I suppose I am on the more extreme end of this...

For me, walking is so beneficial for my mental and physical health - particularly as I work a desk job sat looking at a screen all day.

But it does amaze me how lazy some people are when they're in good health and perfectly able to walk, but complain about doing even small distances. It's no wonder we're quite an unhealthy country with a significant proportion of the population overweight.

I have a friend who does very little exercise and spends most their free time sat down, and they regularly complain about being in pain - part of me wonders whether that's connected to not doing enough exercise!

Why on earth won't he get the bus - or even weirder, let you get the bus? He sounds a bit controlling.

I knew there'd be loads of virtuous responses claiming you were being unreasonable and of course everyone should walk everywhere if it's less than a 30 mins walk btw. Classic MN.

Really, really weird that everyone's evangelising to you about how much they walk. I walk 12000 steps or more per day, that doesn't mean you have to, @Rizzo8.

Some of the very key factors leading to the success of a relationship are compatability, compromise and flexibility. In your case, this may mean two people who both prefer to walk, two people who both prefer to take the bus or simply allow for a mix of both without an argument.

Im afraid neither of you seem to have or be able to demonstrate these qualities. Seems like a small deal now but honestly I’ve learnt through my years of dating to find my husband that often we overlook simple things like this.

For a 30 min walk I would never take the bus. I am with your husband on this one.

Also I don't understand why you trying to make him take the bus is fine but him wanting you to walk is bullying and controlling?!

I am less inclined to walk than DH, a lot depends on the walk and destination, not to mention the weather! Thirty minutes where we could take our time and potter, okay. Heavy bags, not okay get taxi. Walk as a walk in country in decent weather and proper clothes okay.
The big issue for me would be the inequality of you accepting his preference on a lot of occasions but him not doing the same for you when you had a good reason.

This is a point of incompatibility. Neither of you is wrong. Neither of you is abnormal. DH and I are similar

I love walking, hate being stuck on a bus full of people. Makes me feel antsy and cross!

He doesn’t enjoy walking - and feels like I’m being a bit judgy and calling him lazy (I’m not - but he feels it so we account for it!)

you probably need to own that you feel a bit judged. Have a non spikey conversation about it and make some compromises. He leaves early and walks - you catch up on the bus? You agree to walk one way and get the bus the other in advance - or whatever works for you. Sometimes I go out for a lovely potter by myself in the mornings and we meet for lunch and have a less on-our-feet afternoon.

figure out why you feel so cross. Put it down. Talk to him! Make sensible positive suggestions for how you could compromise instead of just explaining how he’s wrong. It doesn’t need to be a deal breaker!